when you choose the person you will have for life

United States
March 28, 2010 8:02pm CST
If you are married ..please answer how you did choose: How did you choose your life partner..did you go simply by "looks" or did you go by compatability as well. If you are looking. what do you think would make for your perfect partner?
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• United Arab Emirates
29 Mar 10
Sense of humour,respect,trust,supportive and
• United States
27 Sep 10
She has to be everything..what about the man as well? Sometimes breakups happen because only one is being everything whereas the other is taking everything.
• United Arab Emirates
29 Mar 10
Understanding...she has to be everything
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@llbo1981 (1237)
• China
26 Sep 10
A perfect partner should have these advantages.One is the partner should respect another partner.The second one is the partner should believe another partner,they should help each other.
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• United States
7 Oct 10
Respect and trust are very important factors..don't you agree? Love is also so imporant..not that emotionally ...stuff.. but really deep rooted heart felt love for one another.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
29 Mar 10
How did you choose your life partner..did you go simply by "looks" or did you go by compatability as well. I do think that looks are important to a certain extent. I cannot imagine living with someone whom I don't like or fancy. So yes looks are important though I don;'t judge a book by its cover. When I was searching for a partner I made sure that my partner has the same values. I could build a relationship with her, that we love each other. I found a person whom I trusted and it was reciprocated. so there must be common grounds on which one can build a relationship. Looks do fade away after certain years but values, love respect will not if you keep nurturing them.
• United States
29 Mar 10
Well .. they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder.. So if you think looks are important you will have to find someone that sees you as someone beautiful.
@ifa225 (14461)
• Indonesia
30 Mar 10
his personality is being my most concern, the more patient the better. married is full with matters, only patient could make the problems out. the loyalty also is the second things that i am concern.
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• United States
27 Sep 10
Patience is definitely the key to success for a couple's marriage and understanding and communication. Faithfulness and openness too.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
hello littlefranciscan, how do i choose my husband... hmmm all i know is that i pray for him. actually when i was single, i keep on praying & asking God to give me someone who will be a good husband and a good match for me. and so hen this guy came into my life, i feel like he's already the one that God sent me. he brings a lot of changes not only in my life but also with my parents & our whole family's life...
• United States
29 Mar 10
Praying and asking help from Heaven is always a great idea. Taking time to get to know the person is also a must. It's also important to realize there will be disagreements. If deep down you love someone such difficulties that arise will not shake your relationship but strengthen it.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
actually my husband & i becomes bf/gf for 5 years before we decided to get married, all those years there's a lot of trials that comes our way that really test the strength of our relationship...one year of that is we are living far from each other, and really its not easy coz due to many problems our relationship also put on risk...and it amazed me how we survive & ends up marrying each other...hehe i guess when we truly love a person, no matter what comes our way, and if we have faith in our relationship, everything will be good...
@basqui (3888)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
Well, I'm not married yet but I think that getting into marriage is a very serious thing. It's not like hot potato that you could spit out if it's too hot to swallow. I know couples who have good looks and all but really doesn't know how to manage the family. I think the first thing to consider before marrying is compatibility. You could test this by a long relationship as fiances first and if you couldn't really get along then you have to find another one whom you are compatible with. You don't want to marry someone who constantly nags you or gets into quarrels with you, would you?
• United States
29 Mar 10
Sometimes nagging and quarreling is good If you go into marriage thinking it's going to be quarrel or nag free..then you might as well stay unmarried. If it's accessive ..yes.. by all means stay away. Compatability is the key and sometimes the most beautiful can be total snobs.:)
• United States
27 Sep 10
Seems like in olden days people's ability to bounce back from squabbles, naggings etc was much more solid. .. I think today we, as a society, are brainwashed to believe that running is an option to every problem
@basqui (3888)
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
I think you are right in saying the small quarrels will strengthen the bond in marriage. But everyday nagging and quarreling is really suffocating. It is because of this that some couples get divorced. Quarrels should also not be done in front of the children because kids are affected by these quarrels. They tend to adopt these manners and hence they will grow up like that.
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• Philippines
29 Mar 10
Well, I am not married yet. But I want to choose the right person carefully. Of course at first I will go simply by the looks, then the compatibility. I will imagine myself old and gray with him, if I liked what I see, then go go go! If I see that he wants to be with me too for the rest of his life, then that's the right person!
• United States
29 Mar 10
My opinion..if you put looks as firt. .you are not setting your priorities right..Sure you don't want to have someone so distasteful to yourself that you would be afrai to appear in public..but you mustnt' put ..has to be great great looking as number one reason to marry. that is very shallow. I would say.
• China
29 Mar 10
For me my husband is not need to be handsome.on the other hand, the less handsome in appearance will make me feel much safer.for the first he must love me deeply and care about me. second, he must be a man with a strong sense of responsibility. Third, he should be a warm hearted.
• United States
29 Mar 10
That is beautiful how you seek a man but don't brush off a handsome one just for being handsome ..should he be warm and love only you. I understand people worry about faithfulness and seek that committment. If God sends you someone who should be your forever partner..you will know this.
@sy88xo (8)
• United States
29 Mar 10
The man that I married I had absolutely no intentions of marrying him. I loved him and everything, but neither of us had any desire to take it to the next step. One day I realized that he was the only one I was going to spend the rest of my life with and raise my babies with. So I married him because we are compatable in most areas and we love each other. And he's not tall, dark, and handsome.
• United States
29 Mar 10
I love to read when people marry for reasons more then "externals" God bless you for following your heart.