My son is not outspoken

Hi, rubypatson. Your son may be the type of person that is very shy. With my oldest son, before he turned 5 and 6, he would never say anything to his doctor. He was so shy to. Now at eight years old, he is a talker. He talked to his doctor just as good. I think that he may be going through a stage. The older that he gets, he will talk more. There is nothing to worry about. He will gradually come through. I know when I am around a bunch of strangers or people that I don't really know well, I tend to be shy around them too. That is probably what your son is experiencing as well. When you know and feel comfortable around someone, you will talk a little bit more than you would if you did not really know someone.

As far as I am concerned, I think he is so young for him. I think if you just want to speak more, I think the most useful way for you is that you can take him to some area which he is good at,then he will be full of confident to speak out. Then with the time goes by, I think he can be a person who is outspoken. Have a nice day.

my daughter is like that and it seems to be all about shyness and confidents. since he is so young, he will end up getting it as he grows. you may want to see how you can enhance is confidence.

If I can speak as someone whose parents tried hard to get force him into groups... don't. Some of the most hurtful, and negative experiences in my young life, were due to my mother specifically, trying to force me to be social. I am not social. And trying to make me social, made me even more anti-social. When I was six or seven, my mother took it upon herself to invite a dozen people from my class at school, none of whom I really knew, or cared to know, and brought them all to a birthday party for me. They feigned being my friend, in order to play arcade games, and a free meal with cake. None of them ever talk to me afterward, just as they hadn't before. It was a aggravating, if not nauseating experience to be surrounded by fake friends. I could list all the things she did, to push, pull, drag me to be more open and social, and how it always ended in failure and me wanting to be around her less and less because of whatever new dumb idea she'd push me into. I wish I had an answer for you, as to what you should do. But hear me on what you should not do. Don't push him into some social club, or friendship, like my mother tried to do with me. He'll resent you for it. I did.

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I have the same problem with my son who is 4+. I think I am going to try to get him into some familiar environment like playdates with kids he know. Then slowly take him him and his playdates out of the usual place they go, and take them to new places, and meeting new people. Hopefully one day seeing more things and more people, my son will turn to be less shy and confident to face the world.

I think he's too shy. You should start with smaller groups. Start by having play dates with one of his friends. Let the child come home one day a week and you can take your son over another day(maybe even alternate the weeks). Then when he is comfortable with that...have 2 or 3 of his friends over. When he is comfortable with that...have the mothers be around for some more time instead of dropping the children and leaving. Slowly, he will pick up. You don't want an over active child....he is shy...you want him to socialize and mix but not too much either.

How old is he? My son is 2.5 years old acts the same. He cries and doesn't want to enter. When he finally do it, he doesn't pay attention to the other children. I'm trying not to push him to be more social, because I've read this could have the opposite effect - to make him more closed in himself. When I was a child I was very shy and when my mum was trying to make me talk with others I felt even more silly and shy. I just needed some time to be more opened in the company and wanted a little time to take part in games or conversations.

Well what is his age? I have seen many of my cousins kids this way. This is a reason of social phobia. Where he can be very easily talk with family members at home. While at the outer world, he feels shy, fear and reluctant to the people. Also if its a crowd, he may find it very uneasy to open up. Dont worry, take him out often, make him play with kids of his age, slowly he will come out of his inner world!