what you do if he/she always compare you with any one else?

I am a very open minded person so, if someone hurts me, let it be anyone, I reply them back for it. And that too when someone is comparing me with someone, the for sure I can't control myself. I think that if a person likes someone, then that person should like him/her for the way he/she is. A person shouldn't compare any two persons as at times, it may even hurt their feelings. So it is obvious for me to give him back answer, if I was in your situation. Have a great day!

Well, not being arrogant or anything, but whenever I am compared, I always end up being the 'better one' so I don't really know how it feels; but I understand it. I would totally get upset with such a situation. I'd tell people straightly how I feel about being compared so as they would then know what I want and what I wouldn't like. We are all special. I am not perfect, but nobody is, and I believe that people who had made "comparing" a "habit" should get themselves a better life. Nobody has everything, and for that, they should learn to accept that sometimes, there are certain things that they may long to see unto you but will fail to do so because you do not possess such but rather have something else that they may not appreciate. Do not bother much what he/she might say. Hell, who cares? Just keep things real and if you decide to change something about you, make sure that you do it for yourself (for the better) and not because that is how someone wants you to be. If someone cannot appreciate you for being you, they don't deserve you and you don't deserve them at all. Live your life the way you wanted it to be. You're at your best when you are YOU.

I think anyone would not wish to be compared with others , but sometime he might want you to change for good ?

No one is perfect in this world. The people who compare only look for negative things in others. These people are loosers in their life. The only thing they are trying to tell others is that there are much better people than you. They compare every one with others and not just you. They try to underestimate others. They are jealous. Don't give attention to such people. Just ignore them. Only we know what we are. Whenever someone compares me with others,I just ignore them. In my opinion the person who compares you is not right for you. If he does the same thing further then just leave him, let he go to whoever he thinks is better than you(he will compare that person too with someone else).

theres old saying tha dont judge a book by its cover..for me judge a person by the way he/she drive...if he is fast thats the way he live..rush,rude,getting better etc , if he slow in driving,no matter, told him to drive fast or you drive..u know what i mean?

if ever i'm compared to anyone else i usually do something or say something to show him that i'm better. honestly it really hurts to be compared because i feel that i'm less appreciated. though most of the times i pretend to ignore and make a joke about it there would come a time which i can go mad at being compared. after a few days, i would tell that friend of mine that i was hurt of what he/she has done then i'm fine.

I think you have some issues there with him. why would a contented bf be comparing you with other people. i think it is inappropriate to be doing that. There is certainly a lot of harm and a lot of psychological issues arising from such lame comparisons. if you can't beat him to it by telling him to stop doing that to you, then why don't you try to compare him with other people as well and make him know how it feels to be compared!

I feel the same as you and probably I cry at that moment. To compare us to others feel so hurt in our part. Because we have our own identity. We have different personalities likes and dislikes our own ways. If I were you better to tell him that you feel hurt when he compare you to others. Tell him don't be shy. That is better to know him what you feel. Be happy!

I don't like being compared to somebody.Some people do it. Why do you keep quite when he compares you with some other one. Just tell him that you don't like it and hurts you badly.No one is perfect and he himself should be perfect before comparing others.If he doesn't listen to you then you bring comparison between him and other fellows.Then he will to know about the issues like this clearly.

true,when you are with somebody why you need to compare with the other!then for what you with the person if you have to compare!its really very humilating!

well its becomming very common in a relationship comparing with the other!its very irronical you are going with your partner and one start comparing with the others!are you not satisfied with the one you are spenting time!!i hate the comparison!it means you dont accept the other is!!

I hate being compared to other people especially if it's being done by my partner. Growing up, my parents would compare me to other kids especially when it was academics. When I received an award for an achievement, my mom would remark that it would've been better if I got the higher award. During award ceremonies and other school activities, she would tell me to look at the other kids with awards and to be like them. At home, she would say that other kids did their homework on time and kept their rooms clean, or just plain compare me to my other classmates. So I really dislike being compared. If my partner did that, I would tell him straight up to go find someone like the person he's saying. If he compares me to another girl, I'll tell him to his face that if he wants he can go out with that girl. I'm running in any competition here. So he can go find someone who fits his idea of better if that's what he wants. And when I do that, he usually shuts up. Thank Goodness, the guy I'm with has never compared me to any of the girls he's been with. And that's because he himself doesn't like being compared to others.

i hate comparing..coz it disapoint me..huh

If he would keep on comparing you to someone else then he should be with the person he's comparing you with. He's with you then he should focus on you. That's insulting. It's like he's talking to you but his eyes are on someone else. You never hang out with him just to be compared to someone else,right? Ask him,"Do you really wanna hang out with me or not? Just say so.." Happy blogging! ~.^ ciao!

I think my first reaction is to became angry because I don't want to be compare. But It's for improvement I'll accept it as suggestion.

That scenario is one of the ouchiest situation that you can experience in a relationship ( hoping I WILL NOT ) he he he ! . If i am in your case, i will not pretend to him that i am happy . I will not hide my true feeling behind my smiles. I will frown or even cry if ever he open that kind of topic. That will hurt me so much. ! ( i am also hurt when i read your discussion T_T ) try talking to him straighforward the next time he open that kind of topic and say your true feelings. Don't be scared. remember BOYS ARE ALSO SCARED when you start crying or frowning . :)

you must be true to your self you must prefer to let him know what you really feel in order to help your own fillings and to free your self from being imprison of cowardness...