arrghh...I found him stealing again...

All kids steal. However, they should not be able to get away with it. If it were my kid, they would get a spanking and no allowance, no extra goodies and chores. He would be reminded often why stealing is wrong. If he did it again, there would be no tv, no movies, no goodies, etc. for a month and his free time spent doing chores. That is something that cannot be tolerated because it can grow into a habit. Besides it is very wrong. How embarrassing would it be for you to be confronted by your local grocer about your kid stealing. How traumatic for him as he grows older to get the reputation of a thief and not be trusted by the people in your neighborhood. Good luck! I hope all turns out well.

Since he is 9 does he receive an allowance? Maybe that is a road you can take. Certain chores equal a certain amount of money. It gives him money and helps you out too.

Well if you fail to put on his mind that stealing is bad then it will become a bad habit. I hope that you can teach him the right way of getting money. I think there is something that compels him to do it. Maybe another more serious habits he has formed that compels him to take money to buy this habit. Investigate further why he is doing this and I think there is a much deeper reason why he does this.

Sorry if this is long but I believe your son's stealing is a serious matter: Now that your child is already 9 years old, I think it's best to try and stop him with this kind of wrongdoing as soon as possible. As I read in the other replies, he would use the money on internet at the cafe even if you provide him PC and internet at home, yes? I think it's because some games are multiplayer games and would require a LAN/local connection. The player needs to be with other players on different computers but at the same place connected with LAN cables. Even if some multiplayer games require this, it is very inappropriate for your son to steal money for it. He should learn to save money from his daily allowance that he could use for things he wants to do or buy. Punishment such as chores are okay but there are more punishment methods that you could use to make him think about what he does. If he does it again, take away his privileges instead of making him do chores. Don't give him an allowance, that would make him think. Also, you could ground him like he only stays in his room for one week or one month the most. You could also take away his privileges by not allowing him to watch TV or use the computer at home or at the cafe. If he doesn't change by then, I don't know what to do too. I would suggest that you do something about his stealing immediately or else, it would get worse. When I was in high school and college, my classmates did the worst things I heard about stealing money from parents. Whenever there were school activities like field trips or the like, some would require payment. Some of my classmates changed the amount written on the letter to the parents. We had an excursion in 3rd year college that costs only 650 Philippine pesos (about 130,703 IDR). Some of them changed it to PhP1200 / IDR 241,299 and so on. Karma is really a great force. One of them lost his wallet and he said that he got karma because he did that to his grandpa. In college, some of my classmates would retype the letter and change the numbers. In adult world, that would be equal to falsification of public documents. Another incident was my classmate's parents sent him PhP 10,000 / IDR 2,010,827 to pay the tuition fee. Instead, he used all that for partying and other stuff for his own and not for the school. Sorry again if this is long. As you see, small things lead to big things. If he continues to steal, he might end up doing like my classmates and other children did and would do. I hope you get him to stop stealing soon. Show him some tough love.

How old your child? you better ask first, the reason your child took the money. give meaning to your child, how difficult it is to make money. Maybe you could bring your kids, look at the people who are less fortunate. with a given understanding correctly, your child may be better understood from the given punishment.

You don't say how old your son is. However, this should work for whatever age he is. Take his electronic stuff away from him for a month. Such as, cell phone, tv, computer, video games. That should put an end to this behavior. If he doesn't have any type of electronics then take away the one thing that matters to him more then anything else. Why is he doing this? That is horrible when you can't trust your own child. Good luck to you!

hi ifa225 how old is your son, and why is he stealing money? Is 'he a little kid or a teen ager? I realize stealing money is wrong of course. Does he ask you for money or just steal? I think mayhbe you need to put him to work running errands maybe for the neighbors or a parttime job is he is old enough, he has to know that He must make 'restitution that he cannot keep taking money from you like that.If he needs money,either if he is little pay him a bit for household chores, if he is older he has to go make some money for himself.there are part time jobs teens can do, but make him repay what he took, as thats the only way its going to soak into his head that you will not put up with stealing. spanking wont do it, it has to connect with responsibility.

How old is your son? The extremes of the punishment needs to take that into account. It might be that you take literally everything away from him and he has to earn it back. He obviously doesn't understand loss, or what things cost. And there are probably lots of underlying reasons too.