Helping A Child Do Better In School

@neildc (17239)
Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
March 30, 2010 8:57pm CST
After the Patrick's graduation and recognition day last 16th... http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2277496.aspx And my brother's passing the BAR EXAMS... http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2284246.aspx Another dear is stepping forward this year. Trisha is now a graduate in grade school so she will be in high school this June. Their graduation rites was held yesterday. And though she is not an achiever like her younger brother and her uncle, I am still very proud of her that she finished grade school without failing grades. I know she will get better in high school. We will just give her special attention when it comes to her studies. We are not expecting too much from our children, but of course, if they are in the average or above average level, they will be another pride of their parents. So how could you help a child do better in school? What are the ways you do to make them improve their studies and their grades?
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• Boston, Massachusetts
31 Mar 10
Hi 7th, Continue inspiring your children to make good in school. with good parenting and support you will be bringing out the best in them. you are on the right track friend. good luck and congratulations once again.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
1 Apr 10
thanks for the nice comment there friend.
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
1 Apr 10
i really appreciate you nice comments, dear. really really thanks.
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• Boston, Massachusetts
1 Apr 10
you are such a wonderful parent and your kids are lucky enough for having such a responsible, loving, hardworking and ever supportive parent like you. keep on and have a solemn week!
@celticeagle (166321)
• Boise, Idaho
31 Mar 10
My grandson is in the first grade and so he has afew years to go. He gets tutored twice a week after school by a program the school provides. This helps him with his reading although he is read to and reads at home. I have always prepared my kids for school as well. By teaching them their alphabets, how to write the alphabet and their names they had a pretty good beginning.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
1 Apr 10
that is basic to most parents to teach kids with alphabet, numbers, colors, etc. before even going to the preparatory school. but i guess, it's a lot more different when kids are already in the high grades or even in high school.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
1 Apr 10
i agree with you.
@celticeagle (166321)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Apr 10
It is more difficult to help them with that.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
30 Apr 10
I just made them study and tried to help with questions on tests to get them to amswer the questions right I know of no other thing to do but that and worked out most of the time COngrats on Trisha passing on to high school
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
5 May 10
your welcome!
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
30 Apr 10
thanks lakota for sharing your thoughts here. and for the greetings to Trisha. within two weeks or so, we are going to enroll her in high school. classes will start on June 1.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
31 Mar 10
I think having alot of patience when helping your child study is the most important thing. My dad had none when he was helping me & it never turned out well.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
31 Mar 10
yeah, i know. but sometimes, we cannot help but compare each child with the others. we are just humans and we are really got to be high-tempered with hard-headed kids.
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
31 Mar 10
i know that. it will always be between me and my wife, promise.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
31 Mar 10
I hope u don't do that in front of the children. That can cause alot of emotional stress for a child to be compared to a sibling, NOT A GOOD THING at all. Been there done that & have never forgotten the hurt it causes to u.
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
31 Mar 10
My eldest just finished grade one and i can say that his just average. But i think it's really too early to tell. Regardless, i would still be here guiding him all the way. I have 3 kids in a row so i'm wondering now how i could afford college if the time comes . But as the say, i'll cross the bridge when i get there.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
31 Mar 10
things are really getting worst ybong. when we were in college, tuition fees were 200, just for an example. when when this grade schools reach college, by that time, i guess, tuition fees will be 2,000. now, i really can't imagine having 3 kids all at the same time in college. i guess, for me, i will have to let one stop for a moment until such time that the other finished his course. i hope the kids will understand it, when we come to that point.
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
i'm not losing hope neil. I graduated in college without paying any tuition fees. What we have are just miscellaneous fees that cost more than a hundred pesos. And we were three sibling studying all at the same time then. There are state universities all over and the standard is at par if not way better that some private universities around. But i guess, i would have to resort to what you just said if i can't afford it.
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
I believe that the best way is to make the child feel that she/ he is loved and supported by the family (parents including siblings). We should never ever compare one of our children to another because each of them have different identity, skills, talents, interests and ways of learning. Instead of forcing to the child what we think will be good for her/ him we should help bring out and discover the child's potentials. We are just parents and teachers. We give them what they will need to grow and learn. We are hjust here to guide them in the right direction but definitely we are not the one who should decide for their life whether they should be a Doctor, lawyer, etc. This is one thing I have learned with my parents.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
5 Apr 10
personal experience, i also did not follow what my parents wanted me to be. but in the end, i can also say that they were right, that i should have taken a course in computer, which i now expertise. but i still believe, it is better to let the children decide for themselves, for their future and yet, we parents have to guide them and support them. i know that children are different from each other and we really never forced them. but when a child gets lazy and hard-headed, you can't help but compare with the others. we never really talk about the other kids, but you have to give them examples.
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
I think it still depends on the situation. Sometimes you have to handle different types of children differently. There are children who are more sensitive but there are those who are stronger emotionally. Parenting for me is like Supervising or Leading a Team. Each person has different personality and attitude and one type of approach will not fit for everyone. You need to have different appoaches for each one of them. You have to be strict with some and genlte with others, etc. That is the reason it is also very important for us to get to know well our children, their likes and dislike, skills, dreams, fears ang thoughts. Open communication is very important. That's the same as their learning process. :) Have very nice day. :)
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Apr 10
neildc encourage all children to r ead and read and read. this is a must to do well in school as most learning is done from'books and the better the reading ability and love of reading,the better the 'child will do.also encourage u sing the net for studies and encourage them whenever they make really good grades too.Also have a strict schedule for children as to when to do their homework and be sure it is done before televison or online games, homework should always come first.then they can play, but always with the idea they must get their sleep too. be there to help if they need it but do not ever do'their home work for them, that will not in any waY be helpful for them at all.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
1 Apr 10
i will do them all. thanks for the very nice suggestions hatley.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
2 Apr 10
Congratulations Trisha, well done! Aside from making learning as interesting and fun as possible, incentives are a good idea. Having said that, I think that the main part of learning is that the child is doing his or her best and at the end of the day that is all we can ask of our children. My daughter is eight and in third grade. So far I have no concerns about her progress but she does have a long way to go! I have explained to her that all I expect from her is that she work hard and is not lazy about her school work, the results are not as important. I would certainly get her help if she was having problems with her core subjects but not all people are highly intellectual and great at academics; that is something that a lot of parents are not willing to accept. Just because a child does not have really high grades, it doesn’t make him or her any less intelligent or less bound to be successful in life.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
5 Apr 10
i know that, but sometimes, kids are really that hard-headed. even patrick sometimes, hard to follow simple commands, though we think he is the best among our kids.
• United States
31 Mar 10
The key is to make learning fun. So many people think (falsely) that learning only takes place in a classroom. If that were the case we would enter school not knowing how to walk or talk, and the many other things we learn under our parents care. Learning disabilities are not an excuse. It is the time for parents to spend extra time with a child that is challenged. If the problem is something like dyslexia, the parents should run not walk to an eye doctor that is trained in "vision therapy." Many times dyslexia can disappear with therapy by a trained vision therapist. Many schools in the United States will not point this out because then they would have to pay for the therapy and instead knowingly allow the child to suffer. A parent always needs to be encouraging and hold the bar a bit higher than the child thinks they are capable of achieving. Reading books to a child that is just a bit above their grade level that they are interest in is a great way to spend time building a good relationship with the child and stretches them academically without them even realizing it. A child should be shown how to find answers to their questions outside of the classroom by using reference materials that are easily available at the library or are a part of the home library. Every human being should be taught how to find answers instead of just thinking that learning is something that is dished up by a school, then memorized by the child, and spit back on a test. Schools have their place, but an involved parent is the key to success. I think it is too bad that parents do not have these skills to pass on to their children because they have not been taught them.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
31 Mar 10
of course, we all know that the basic learning institution is the house, and the basic teacher is the parents. from them, kids learn a lot of thing never been taught in schools. we always look at the strongest point of the child and so as their weakest. we always encourage them to improve their strongest point as we know they can excel with that. on the other side, we try to develop their weakest point. but somehow, kids are not so interested in some things, especially with their weakest. or maybe, it will just take time. so far, we do not force them, especially trisha, with her weakest points. we still believe she will get better next school year. with the help of each of us here, me and my wife will work hand in hand next time, for all of them.
@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
31 Mar 10
Congratulations for all the blessings! As to your question, I always tell the parents to go to the basics. First, sleep is important. A child must be in bed by 7:30. Eight hours of sleep is mandatory for a growing child. Second, the brain works fast in the morning. If you can wake up by 3:30 in the morning, that is the time the child can grasp all the learning at full speed. Third, needless to say that discipline must be enforced. Fourth, find out your child's intelligence. There are 9 intelligences - mathematical, linguistic, psychomotor, spatial, natural, etc. If your child is good in natural or the common sense, gear the child towards cooking or homemaking. If the child is artistic, give her water colours. If the child is musical, allow her to sing. And lastly, make her eat nutritious food and play games like volleyball. Advise me when your Trisha has bloomed. She will!
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
31 Mar 10
we always try to find the strongest point of each child. trisha maybe good in singing like daddy. but she is not really like patrick who is eager in studying. even in her diary, when they were asked to do it by one of their teachers, i can see that she is more on playing. i never read something about studies even if it's school time, but playing games with classmates. well, i hope trisha will get better in high school.
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@hexeduser22 (7419)
• Philippines
4 Apr 10
Congratulations on the achievements your family reached. I'm not a parent yet but I'm very excited to be one. I think I can help my future children do better in school by being a model to them and let them see that learning is fun and is a good thing. Children wants to play so I'll try to incorporate learning into every family activity and game. It would be like a rewards system, the better they do the better their rewards
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
5 Apr 10
that is a good suggestion hex... well, actually, we also tried somethings like these, giving rewards to them, especially when they are excelling.
• India
31 Mar 10
I already informed that how to make the child to do better in studies in some other myLot discussion. Get her one tape recorder battery operated.Record all the question and answer in the tap recorder subject wise.For recording get guidance if you do not know how to record. Recoding can be done by her while studying or any one can help her in recording.Whenever she is watching TV, or take rest or sleep, keep the tap recorder on ,in low volume near to her.In this way her brain will keep recording all the information in her mind.She will certainly do far better in Education. Mathematics is the very lovely and very simple subject.Record all the formula in the tap recorder.Also she should be through with Multiplication, Division, Addition and subtraction with the technique of doing it fast Example 55*55(* denotes multiplication)Unit place 5*5 = 25 then Tenth place 5*5 should be taken as (5+1)*5=6*5=30. So, the answer is 3025.Similarly she can do for all the multiplication of 15*15,25*25,35*35.45*45 ...... .There are many more short method by which the Mathematics can be very interesting. She should not feel the burden, she should feel happy to learn and study.Keep the environment to encourage her studies.Happy myLotting.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
31 Mar 10
well, i guess tape recorders are a bit obsolete nowadays. but i will try this suggestion of yours. only, there are much more things to consider, i am not sure if recorders and kinds of those will be allowed in high school... i know we have a happy family and when it's time for homework, i want them finished before they go to something else like watching tv. but sometimes, kids are really hard-headed and uncontrollable.
• India
31 Mar 10
The tape recorder I suggested because it is handy and can be kept near to us. Since it is battery operated and the power supply is at low and so it will not harm us .Thanks for your comment. Happy myLotting.
@kaylachan (68858)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
15 Apr 10
You have to make a child interested in learning, and encourage them. If you push too hard you are going to drive them away from wanting to learn. Take their accomplishments seriously and be encouraging, as much as possible. That's the best thing you can do for them.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
15 Apr 10
i will remember this. thanks for sharing...
@book153 (21)
• Singapore
31 Mar 10
give some kind of improve child brain toys or something to your son to play. he will start learning more than other people son.. it will help your son get smart. Or you can teach things that teacher doesn't teach in the class to your son. It will make your son different from his friends in the class...
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
31 Mar 10
we will try to give them more books to read. will that be enough? they already got a lot of toys.