Do you admire your partner?

@avani26 (1518)
India
March 31, 2010 6:54am CST
I surely do. Infact sometimes when I browse through my discussions I feel that I always have something to link him to and can't seem to keep him out of the discussion. I am quite short tempered and stubborn as a person, very outgoing loves to talk and had lots of friends and was working. After marriage I am become sober, lazy, do not feel like going out and can count the number of my friends in one hand and yes I work no more as my hubby wants me to be at home when he comes back and wants to see me when he goes out of the house. I am become so dependant on my hubby that sometimes I need to get his approval even for the smallest of discussions which I know he would approve. My parents keeping telling my hubby that he is the one who is responsible for spoiling myy habits and he smiles and says he accepts the blame. So friends do you think I am lucky to have such a loving husband. He is very possessive though.
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laglen
@laglen (19759)
• United States
31 Mar 10
I think it is great that you love your husband. But you are losing yourself. You may not mind now, But I am willing to bet that you will soon. I suggest you find something to do that is just yours. For instance take a class on something that interests you but not him. Ceramics? Yoga? whatever. You need just a little something that is yours and yours alone.
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Ravenladyj
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
31 Mar 10
But you are losing yourself Oh I agree completely! and the potential of it becoming a really bad situation is there as far as I'm concerned....
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avani26
@avani26 (1518)
• India
31 Mar 10
I am married for around 15 years ans still feel that it is just yesterday. He wants me to do something but I am quite lazy and just the thought of going out is irritating. Thanks for your suggestion I will surely do something.
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laglen
@laglen (19759)
• United States
31 Mar 10
well good luck to you. The desire to not do anything is a big sign of depression. I am NOT saying that you are depressed. just watch your self hun.
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Sreekala
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
3 Apr 10
Hi avani, I don’t’ think I am so depended on my partner. I am working in office and shouldering all responsibilities at home, especially on kids. But I have to admit that I am depending on him for some works. In other words I can’t say that I am able to do all works myself. I need his support and I am sharing every problem I faced. On some issues he is more sensitive than me. For e.g. if our son got ill even if it is a minor one, he got tensed much (he wanted to see their smile always) but my thinking is we have to face these problems in our life, solution is consult a doctor and he will be alright soon. There is no point of getting tension unnecessary unless there is no big issue. In your case, you are so lucky to get a supportive husband. Your parents are right upto some extend. Since you are enjoying his attitude and your life there is no issues. Enjoy it.
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kalav56
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
3 Apr 10
Between the two of you you seem to be the stronger one Sree!
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avani26
@avani26 (1518)
• India
3 Apr 10
Thanks Sree for understanding what I meant.
kalav56
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
1 Apr 10
If you feel you ae lucky then you are.It is a matter of individual feeling.I certainly admire my partner and I also feel that I am quite lucky to have him a s my husabnd.He also tends to feel the same and he has expressed this many times [after some 30 years of marriage]and says thatI am a rare find.
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avani26
@avani26 (1518)
• India
1 Apr 10
That is what i meant and wanted to know.
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ernkjha
@ernkjha (46)
• India
1 Apr 10
Yeah definitely admires my partner always. Whenever i couldnot do any of my important works or fulfil commitments may be bacuse of any sort of reasons like ill health, busy in something else, my wife use to do all these and that too with full effort and efficiency, she is always standing by my side to help me out of any situation of professional as well as personal life. She really stands to the meaning of word partner and if she can take so many pains for my sake and good will, why can't i admire and appreciate her and make the bond between us more stronger, Right na!!!!.
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avani26
@avani26 (1518)
• India
1 Apr 10
That is such a good way of putting it. I really feel good that men always feel so strongly about their Partner and admire them.
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phynx15
@phynx15 (248)
• India
31 Mar 10
Yes, i too liked my partner a lot. You are also very lucky in having a partner in whom you can depend and with whom you are happy. It doesn't matter how much people or relatives may say. Your happiness counts in your life, but I think you should still be careful especially if your husband doesn't trust you like the way you trust him, a relationship can last if both the partners are mutual in everything.
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avani26
@avani26 (1518)
• India
1 Apr 10
My hubby does trust me only thing is that he is very possessive and so am I.
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abirsinha
@abirsinha (114)
• India
1 Apr 10
I admire my partner a lot. I feel she is the most wonderful person in the whole world who understands me like nobody else. I feel so easy when i stay with her, she is loving and caring and understanding. She is quite possessive too. But i love her. And She is wonderful at bed.. ;) I cant live without her.....
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avani26
@avani26 (1518)
• India
1 Apr 10
Good to know that someone atleast feels the same that I feel about my hubby.
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Ravenladyj
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
31 Mar 10
I am become so dependant on my hubby that sometimes I need to get his approval even for the smallest of discussions which I know he would approve I'm sorry but thats something you should really be concerned about IMO...especially since you said he is also possesive...Thats a very bad combination..You have a brain of your own, opinions, thoughts and feelings of your own USE THEM... As for me "admiring" my husband...LOL um no...I love him dearly we are best friends but I dont admire him and really feel there is no reason to...Yes I think he is a hardworking, loving, kind person etc but I am to and I wouldnt want him to admire me for those qualities...
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avani26
@avani26 (1518)
• India
31 Mar 10
As I said I am married for 15 years now and we are still going strong infact sometimes our common friends ask us how can he be so possessive evn after so many years of marriage. He has changed a lot for me and yes he is my best friend.
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missingribs09
@missingribs09 (56)
• Sweden
31 Mar 10
uhm great that you have loving husband. but sometimes we must be independent or power to make decison.like give in take.respect each other.but anyway im happy for you anyway. my husband so opposite he he.but i love him
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avani26
@avani26 (1518)
• India
31 Mar 10
I was independant and used to be stressed out often but now I am free do not have to worry about anything even the smallest thing gets taken care of.
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