Tough or Tender Love?
By that1ne
@that1ne (9)
United States
March 31, 2010 4:15pm CST
My friend is in her mid-twenties and still lives in her moms house. Recently she's been wondering why there has been turmoil between the two.
"She just won't let up! She's on me about everything!"
She's aware however, nothing will change until she moves out.
Her dilemma left me thinking. "Wow!" Parents must really find themselves challenged when it comes time for their child to go and spread their wings.
Some teens just aren't ready to take life on. Others may need a slight push.
When time permits, should parents push or put up with their teens?
2 responses
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
31 Mar 10
I think that it all depends on the given situation. My husband and I still live with his parents. We're saving up money to get our own place. His mom has told us that we should not rush out and we're welcome to stay here for as long as we need to. Now of course we bump heads from time to time and my husband and I like to slack but so far we've been very civilized etc. We go by their rules.
I think that in the case of your friend she should step back and maybe look at what's going on in the household. If she's not been helping out as much as she could be, she could try doing that a little more, maybe offer to pay for things, take her mom out to dinner etc....
The biggest problem we've faced here is that sometimes we have to be asked to do something when really we should just know to do it.
@that1ne (9)
• United States
31 Mar 10
Nice input. You are SomeCowgirl.
I asked my dad how much of a challenge it is to him raising my younger brothers and sisters. He says he likes to see a little effort. If your child is actually showing you more than they're telling you, there on the right track.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Apr 10
Showing more than telling huh? Well you can always report one of them, just hit the ! by your discussion and type something like "woops I posted this twice, could you delete this one?" and it will be deleted.
@minotaur87 (769)
• Singapore
7 Apr 10
Yeah, I think sometimes tough approach should be used in order to let the children to become independent. If the children continues to rely on the parents for a long time, then they may never learn to grow up and become parents themselves or lead an independent life when the parents have departed from this world.
@that1ne (9)
• United States
7 Apr 10
hey thanx for your reply. You're right, if you wait too long you put off vital growth and maturity. I think too it take for the parents to see a little effort. Their kids taking the initiative to do what they know will be better for them in the long run. Thanks for your input minotaur87
