Meeting your myLot friend part 2 - security concerns

Well Dawn, the best Place is public first I guess I have met a couple of Friends from online and well they certainly are who they say they are but I have spoken to these Friends a while online so to me if they can keep up for 12 months being phony they are very good But I will have to say you are right it is a risk that is why I am double careful

Funny Me------I should come up with a different response ---- so i would meet them in private I dont think girl can manhandle me that easily despite of her being a karate master Serious Me----i dont meet them either until and unless i knew them for hours Every body say that meeting strangers isn't good 'Ya

Oh, I would prefer meeting an online friend at a public place of my choice...whatever be the gender. One can't trust anyone these days. If possible, I would try to tag along another friend too...if not, a public place that I know well is the best option. You are right about one can never be too safe.

Hi! I would not meet a person with whom I have interacted on line only. If at all, there is chance to meet her/him, I will ask for his/her cell number and will make sure that s/he is a genuine person and if s/he does not interact with conviction or I found something phony, I would prefer not to meet her/him. As regards mylot friends are concerned, I know those who are in my list are really nice people and if I am meeting anybody out of those friends, I would gladly meet them.

Well, I will admit that there was a time in my life when I met a lot of people online. In fact, it was through the computer that I initially met my husband. The main thing that I did whenever I was meeting someone in person that I had only talked to on the computer prior. First of all, we would always meet in a public place. In addition to that, I always had at least one person with me because I know that there is safety in numbers.

I think is a huge gamble. Still a very public place would be a good stop to chose. I think you should have some other people stay at a distance to watch that person is not following you after the meeting. I would recommend you do a criminal background before the meeting too.

Dawn, you're a jinx! Every time I get a white page it is in replying to you!!!!! GoAskAlice - if you read this, is there anything we can do to retrieve our responses that are wiped out? (except remembering to copy before sending) I have met one of my online friends - well, actually two because both husband and wife were online friends. We have been to each others' homes and are still friends. I had arranged to meet another one but circumstances interfered with arrangements. I hope to meet her next time she visits, possibly later this year. There are a number of yuwie/myLot friends - all female - whom I would dearly love to meet, but oceans separate us so it is unlikely. However, dreams are still alive! After interacting with these friends for a very long time, some more than three years, I think I know they are genuine and I would trust them and invite them to stay with us if they came here. There are other friends whom I would like to meet, but would prefer to meet them for a coffee or meal or a day out somewhere, rather than invite them to my home straight up. If I was meeting a man, my husband would definitely accompany me.

If I have the least suspect that the other person smells trouble, I would not agree to meet this person in the first place. Let's say that I am longing to meet this person, then I try to fix the appointment in a public place. thus I could feel safer that if something crops up I would feel safe to ask for help. Secondly I would inform my closest friend and ask him/her if they could accompany me for the appointment and keep a closeful eye on me during the whole meeting. Thirdly I would keep my mobile and the emeregency service handy in case I need to call for assistance.

I didn't see the part I dawn. It depends how long you have chatted online. More or less you can visualize the kind of person he is. A year old friendship online should be able to gauge the person's character. I am quite skeptical when it comes to meeting online friend. Especially when reading a lot of shocking news about being murdered after meeting online friends. You must use a lot of common sense on where and how to make the meeting a success.

If you're different genders always meet the first time in a public place. I strongly advise females especially to bring a friend with them the first time. I have met several myLotters now and the important thing to me is that they feel safe with me. I know that I am not the mad axe murderer but they don't. So for me what is vitally important is that they should feel safe. So when are you coming over?

hi dawnald If I was meeting someone I had spoken to online, I would probably invite her to meet me in our vistors lounge as if she or if it was a he would not likely be doing anything bad in plain view of a lot of old duffers here sitting like bumps on a log w atching Bonanza reruns over and over. they were turn around and stare holes in to my vistor for sure. As visiting hours are over at six in the eveing my online never seen friend would then have to leave. i am pretty careful about meeting people I have never seen before but just talked to,as you never know who this person really is.

Okay so we're still in the Atlantic Ocean, and I start getting some bad vibes, they're in their own boat but are giving me some suggestive looks and blabbing about something bad they've done, I take the fishing pole I just happen to have with me, get as close to their boat as possible, and knock them off it, then I speed away before they can catch up to me.

I have never got to meet anyone i have spoken to but one & she lived right here in town. She was very nice & had a beautiful new home that she kindly showed me w/alot of antiques which i of course loved. She was coming to see me but she never has. Guess i didn't make a very big impression, lol. I would love to meet some of my mylot friends but u are right u don't know what they'll turn out to be. It really could turn out to be scary. I did meet 2 of my ebay customers when i was selling on ebay. They both came to see me, one from Ca. & one from texas. it turned out great.It is alot to think of nowadays.

When it comes to security I'm very strict As you know I only do meet ups with women so before hand I tell them what kind of a person I am. I tell them what's negative about me and if they are comfortable with that then it's a go. I also tell them that they shouldn't expect greatly from me because I'm a very quiet person As far as I know all who have avail of my free pick ups and meet ups services before went home liking my negative personality. When asked "what's your negative personality that I should look out for?" I answer "I eat women" and most of them seems to love to be eaten Don't think bad of me Miss Dawn, I just want to make people smile or better laugh. Don't take all those crap that I've written seriously. This is me when I'm pretty comfortable with the people I interact with. In any way, if you find my post very disturbing just tell me*shy*

As I am sure you been told by many who answered before me..it is always safer to take someone along with you..let them sit at another table and if asked to leave to go somewhere else it is best to refuse. At least till a few meetings till you can judge if they are reliable enough to be alone with...I haven't met up with anyone online in person yet, but if I did I would surely have someone with me close..and always have a fully charged cell. Even if it is another woman..still can't let your guard down and there should be a signal/code..for your friend to either join you, or call you so you can have an legit like excuse to leave...

Just bring lots of candy and baked goods and I'll TRY to behave!

My Sister, meet a great on-line GUY (or so she thought). In Public place fall in love and married him, all went well for almost 12 years then he turned into a A$$HOLE; a rich one with Lawyers so she did not fair so well from the divorce just got rid of him.

Just don't give him/her your real full name and address and I guess you'll be fine...Just be careful on what kind of discussion you're talking about..if it gets personal, I usually try my best to not get in more further..but if they want my advice well..it's a different thing...I simply just know where I'm standing and just do what is necessary...After all, the idea of getting a best friend through online world is simply wrong in the first place.. Have a good day.

Meeting an online friend in person is something great every body looks forward to. Just online talkings will not confirm a person whether he or she is good or bad. Only personal meetings, if you have the mind reading power only of course, will bring out a fruitful result. If you are a girl meeting a boy, better be on the safer side always. Try to meet him in a public place such as a restaurant, library, parking lot etc. where you can easily draw public attention if something goes wrong. If you are a boy meeting a girl, no need to be afraid of the circumstances. You can meet any where you like, but chose a common place where the girl will feel herself safer so that she remembers the first meeting always. In both cases, please don't try to outsmart each other. You are there to make friends,to continue with your online acquaintance and not to degrade each other.

I'm not sure I'd ever meet someone in person I've met online. If I did, it would be in a very very public place and maybe with friends. If he/she won't go for that, then we'd never meet, which would be fine with me.