Dont you just hate it when your misunderstood?

Hi, setsuna26. I am having this same problem myself too. When I am talking to someone they just ignore any of my words and they focus on what they want to say to me. As soon as I say something, then what I said gets misunderstood or read/heard the wrong way. It makes me so sick! And they see me trying to explain to them on what I mean. But they just hear what they want to hear. I don't know what should be done about this. If they insist on being stubborn, then I will let them be. I will not stop them. It is sad that people don't never seem to get what someone is saying to them. They only listen and respond as if they are so much smarter than I am. I can't stand this in people.

if i already explained to them and they did not understood nor accept my explanation then i just leave it and dont want to insist coz it means they are not interested. perhaps i will just be quite and listen till its done, i cant just get out coz im professional and professional people tried to finished things out pretending everything is fine.

I hate being misunderstood, especially online when communications aren't exactly the strongest anyway. It's much easier to be understood over the phone then it is an IM, email or discussion here. I do get irritated, and have probably asked myself "are they dumb" but I try not to as we come in contact with people from all over the world here, who have different levels of understanding of the english language.

Hi, Well there is always a lack of empathy in issues like these. The misunderstanding may be in my part as well. We have to consider whether we are actually imposing our opinions on others, when the person we are trying to make understand may not be ready for this at this moment. Sometimes we get unnecessarily firm and isolated in the process. We think we are being misunderstood, while either the real cause for this trouble may be something quite different. Misunderstanding doesn't ensues from a single person. The two person involved should be considered accountable for it. Finally, if we are clear to ourselves, if we have this belief that we perfectly know what we were doing, then there should be no remorse for that misunderstanding. The truth and honesty ultimately triumphs. We should just wait till the misunderstanding goes away. And believe me, it certainly does. Tampering with the situation that is already in jeopardy will make it worse. We should have patience and stop worrying about it. It automatically fixes itself, stabilizes and normalizes itself. That is the rule of nature. God bless you

Being misunderstood is probably a very annoying thing to most of us. Also, people just like to make deducements based on what we say, and oftentimes they misinterpret what we are trying to communicate. This usually happen in emails or instant messaging, where we don't get to see the other party and can only use words to convey our message. In this case, if possible, I will call or meet up the person to iron out the misuderstandings. It does help most of the time.

This happens to me several times a day. One of the greatest adventures in my life is my marriage. I have the best husband I can imagine, but the adventure comes because he is Indonesian and I am American. English is his 6th language and we got married before I could speak Indonesian. We are constantly misunderstanding each other! But I have learned that it isn't so important to always understand what a person is saying, exactly, or to be totally understood myself. In the case of my husband, I know that his intentions are always right, that he always has my best interest in mind and that he loves me... so whatever he says, even if it sounds crazy or unrealistic or just mean, I know that whatever it is he is trying to say is actually brilliant and caring and sweet. In the same way, when I feel frustrated because I have explained myself over and over again to no avail, I just say "okay Babe, you know it isn't important. You do what you think is best." Or if it really is important, I draw him a picture. He does the same thing for me. Works great.

The problem with your scenario is that you assume that since you think its a good idea, everybody else should think its a good idea. And to take it one step further, since you think its a good idea, everybody should accept it. If that proposition were true, then all politicians should get elected since coming into the election, they all think they have the best idea to handle the problems of society. Nobody is dumb in your scenario, you just have different opinions. There are no right or wrong opinions or ideas. How do you know that your idea is better than theirs? If ever you are in that position, I think you should just step back and think, have I done everything I could to pitch the idea? If your answer is yes, then you have done everything you can and the ball is now in their court.

Hi setsuna! I meet few people like that ultra stubborn, what ever you say and how good your attention they will never change his mind. I find sometimes it just waste my time. Maybe people we meet just have negative thinking in his mind and what ever we do won't work. cheer up ok!

there are events when you are misunderstood in the life and there is nothing we can do about it!!then its time to clearify which becomes very upsetting!so if iam alright then i give adam to the person who misunderstood me!!

Remember a telephone? how it works? hmmm Good! Telephone works vice versa. Meaning, there's a caller and a receiver. In a normal conversation it also works same way. One must start a conversation then a certain receiver or a listener will also cooperate in hearing and understanding whatever the person is discussing. But due to some unwanted circumstances, often times the relayd messages is not clear to the listener. He/she might have own interpretations and understanding on a certain topic. You'll feel bad,that's normal but then again try to make an effort to clarify things to him/her to avoid further conflicts or misunderstandings.. right?! PS: just like me and my best friend nachi! lol ;-P

yes its not a good thing when you are misunderstood,,but i dont hate it i just find time to get over with it

i also experience same thing but i try my best to explain my side and do everything for them to understand me, but sometimes i get mad when they point out that im the one who always do mistakes, i really hate that!! sometimes i curse them!