Why do some girls like bad boys or jerks?
@eddyspaghetti (1225)
United States
April 2, 2010 2:26am CST
Response:
Maybe girls view bad boys as being more masculine and macho, while good boys give off more of a feminine vibe. Some girls like the sense of being in trouble and going on adventures. The thought of doing something bad might give girls a thrill or high. Bad boys usually take the lead, which gives the girl a sense of security. On the other hand, good boys are often times on the safe side and often times than not, the girl may have to take charge.
What do you Mylotters think?
11 responses
@wealthydavid (29)
• Nigeria
5 Apr 10
Bad boys always go after the girls, while the good boys just desire them without making a move. Girls also think bad boys can protect them while it's the exact opposite.They use and dump them. I have seen girls make this mistake again and again. I think they just have that instinct...be with the bad guy, get cheap popularity but their reality, is always told to the good guy when they need a shoulder to cry on. what a life lol. bad guys enjoy the babes good guys provide a shoulder to cry on...lol
@wealthydavid (29)
• Nigeria
6 Apr 10
eddy,
just couldnt stop laughing when i saw your post. thanks but again, that's what we see daily..i'm normal anyways lol
@eddyspaghetti (1225)
• United States
6 Apr 10
wealthydavid I'm confused as to whether you are female or male. Your screenname David implies that you are male but your profile says that you are female. So, which are you David male or female? I'm glad I brought laughter to you and I'm happy that you're normal.
@eddyspaghetti (1225)
• United States
5 Apr 10
Oh man that was indeed some very insightful theory. I believe this theory and I believe you laid it out very well. Good job! Women just fall for bad boys to have that popularity believing that they are secure for that brief moment in time until they are dumped. That was masterful analysis of the situation. Your post sounds like a movie. I hope you are not describing yourself as the good guy or the bad guy, because either way would be bad for you according to your description. I hope you are just a normal guy. =)
@abirsinha (114)
• India
2 Apr 10
Girls are often attracted by the attitude and street-smartness showy-ness of the dudes or so called bad guys.. Because Bad Guys are the most talked about in the circle.. Its happening 2 b wid bad boys...
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@abirsinha (114)
• India
2 Apr 10
Good Guys get good gals and are more secured.. Bad guys get gals but cant retain them... Simple fact.... Bad guys will be after other hot girls 2.. Initially they might get many gals but no1 they can proclaim 2 b theirs... But good guys stick 2 1 girl with whom they are committed and secure...
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@eddyspaghetti (1225)
• United States
2 Apr 10
That all makes sense and sounds true enough. I can see the path of that happening. I would personally rather be with someone who has both qualities but instead of being a "bad girl" I would just like a who knows how to have fun. I don't want a dainty princess but a girl who knows how to rock someone's world but remains civil all the same. I guess in the end it is to each their own and just like in the movies the good guy ends up prevailing in the very end.
@xxazndragon01 (1250)
• United States
7 Apr 10
eddy i think girls just like the thought of a guy being bad cause they are popular and when a popular guy goes with a girl most of the time the girl feels good about herself and mainly i think the girl just likes the proven fact that he is bad boy and she wants a bad man xD
@eddyspaghetti (1225)
• United States
7 Apr 10
Girls want to be bad through association with bad boys. They, indeed want to feel popular and a bit rebellious by going out with someone who their parents might not deem appropriate. In the end I think the the good guys get the good girls and those who know what they really want, like stability and other things that good guys can provide. So, which are you, bad or good? ;)
@PocketRocketsAA (628)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
I have to agree with that, Eddy. Some girls usually go for the bad boys because they look tough and can carry themselves independently. They give girls a feeling of security as well. I used to like bad boys too. LOL. Yeah the one that had a bunch of tattoos and loved emo music! Until I fell and had a a relationship with one. That's when I realized that it's actually better to have a "good guy" as a boy friend. The bad boys, they're better as crush material. I've learned my lesson with those bad boys. I like good guys better! :)
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@eddyspaghetti (1225)
• United States
2 Apr 10
That bad boy just couldn't handle you. I'm glad you moved on to the "good guy" or "nice guy" You don't think nice guys are pushovers, as in do anything for a girl? I feel that sometimes if a girl gets anything she wants then she becomes spoiled and always expect more and more. Do bad boys get their girls anything or do they leave them wanting something because they never get any. I wonder why guys don't like bad girls. What do you think Pocket?
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@jongskie721 (45)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
girls sometimes like bad boys or jerks because these bad boys gave the girls the sense of being a good girl, that girl who could change it all, the girl who change the bad boy in him and be that good boy because of that girl
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@eddyspaghetti (1225)
• United States
2 Apr 10
Ohhh I see, that reminds me of a few movies. One movie that comes to mind is A Walk To Remember. That makes sense. I myself am SOMETIMES a bad boy and my ex-girlfriend told me that she stayed with me because she wanted to change me and make me a good guy. Everyone influences each other and it all depends on who has the stronger influence that prevails.
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
3 Apr 10
I'm going to have to disagree just a little with the good guy feminine vibe thing. Some guys know how to balance things out as in know how to be a gentlemen but also be a strong man at the same time. Those are the ones who actually get how its suppose to be done.
@eddyspaghetti (1225)
• United States
3 Apr 10
You're right. Some guys do know how to balance out how to be a gentlemen and be a strong man at the same time. However, if a guy is over-courteous and gives a woman too much attention, it can be a turn-off her. But there is definitely nothing wrong with being a gentleman.
@machivado (528)
• Indonesia
3 Apr 10
Some girls like men who lead...and often in younger age, rebellious boys tend to go with their own ways..so no wonder they attract young girls...But as time goes by it gets more complicated...like they say..women are unpredictable..
@eddyspaghetti (1225)
• United States
3 Apr 10
It is true that younger girls tend to want to be with rebellious boys, because they're not as experienced with life and love yet. However, older women tend to go for men who are more mature and stable, because they are more experienced in relationships and realize that stability is more important in the future. They might have already experienced jerks breaking their hearts and learn to go for guys who know how to treat women right.
@rhymemartin (21)
• Philippines
3 Apr 10
It is because bad boys rock. Hahaha.. They may look tough, but sweet within. Hahahaha.. I like bad boys, too! Hahaha.. ;)
@eddyspaghetti (1225)
• United States
3 Apr 10
Some bad boys may look tough on the outside and sweet on the inside. Those are the ones who get women! It's a shame that not all men can be tough and sweet at the same time.
@apoljuice1 (730)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
I'm drawn to bad boys because they can do anything without caring what other people would think and I respect that. They have a tendency to talk crap and everybody would believe them. They push limits, go over the limit without being caught. And generally they can make a boring day interesting. They're more outgoing, funny, talk a lot, and you can easily connect with them.
My husband used to be a bad boy. He's the ultimate bad boy. The tats, the girls, the gangs, and all the vices you can think of. And here I was the goody-goody. Though I didn't really like him at first because I didn't like the crowd he was with (usually a gaggle of girls), I didn't have much of a choice when we were stuck together in group at the office. I got to know him better, and eventually partied with him, until we got together. And I didn't think it would even be serious, you know just that one time thing. He would flirt with other girls, and I would flirt with other guys, and we called each other buddies. But we'd end up together when the day ended.
You'll appreciate a badboy, especially when he gets sick of being one because hopefully by the time you catch one, he's already over the girls, the vices, the gangs and the parties. And since he's done it all, his focus will be on you for the rest of his life. ;-)
@eddyspaghetti (1225)
• United States
3 Apr 10
I'm glad your happily married and was able to experience the things you need to experience as a youth. It is interesting how your husband was not the knight in shining armor but the cool guy who lurked in the shadows. I like your conclusion that because the bad boy has done it all their focus becomes on the girl and they forget everything else and they live happily ever after. Very nice, too bad that a lot of guys are scared of bad girls. Lol.
@prettynest (33)
• Malaysia
2 Apr 10
well friend, iam agree with you. Actually I think good girl sometime want to be a rebel too. Just want to proof to the society that they only human who can be naughty and not being nice everytime.
@eddyspaghetti (1225)
• United States
3 Apr 10
I agree. Society tends to view women as nice, composed, and pure. Rather than always having to follow societal norms, maybe women want to be just like men and be able to do whatever they want, and women are attracted to that. Deep down inside, they just want to be bad girls themselves.