Is it always guy’s duty to propitiate a girl after a quarrel?

@markmoney (2868)
Philippines
April 2, 2010 10:35am CST
After a quarrel, disagreement or misunderstanding, whether its guy’s fault or girl’s fault, do you think guys should always be the one who needed to propitiate or appease girls? I would be glad to hear your side. Have a nice day! Happy myLotting!
6 responses
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
2 Apr 10
Whichever of the two is the guilty one, that one should sort it out. One cannot make excuses for anothers fault. TATA.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Apr 10
In a relationship it's not always just one person's fault, it could be both person's.
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
Hi saph! Is the feeling of love cannot be an excuse? That's why if it's his fault and not yours, you should not do anything to fix it?
@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
2 Apr 10
Sometimes, but mostly an argument comes from one and the other will definately join in that argument.
@cloud31 (5809)
2 Apr 10
Depends on what kind of disagreement and if its the guys fault then its his duty to propitiate the girl.And its somehow girls wanted to be that way,depends on the behavior of the girl! If you cannot stay propitiating her then don't do it,its hard pushing yourself to something you don't feel like doing!
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
What if the girl did something that made the guy hurts? Is it still his fault? The guy actually didn't say that he's been hurt but the girl still opened up the issue. Is it really the guy's fault? What do you think? LoL! Thank yo for your response. Happy myLotting!
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
But the girl seemed like she doesn't like to talk to the guy. Do you think if the guy apologize to her, she will forgive him?
@cloud31 (5809)
2 Apr 10
So, in that case its the girl fault,then do you think you need to propitiate her?Its just a guys decision or moves as I've said if you don't like to do a thing then leave it,don't push yourself to do it. Simple as that!!
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
You know how lovely the guys are if they will be the one to come to their girlfriend and make peace with them in a sweet manner. I really do believe it is a guys duty but some in the relationship when the relationship is already long , the process became reverse. The girl is the one that say sorry now. If you really love your girlfriend even it is not your fault there is no problem if you will be the one that initiate to ask for forgiveness or to forget about the problems you had. you can say to her about her mistake just always do it in a nice way. Girls are sensitive and sometimes they tend to do not admit their mistake. Do not force them. They will still realize their mistake. Some says sorry and some are so full of pride. Just understand them.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Apr 10
I do not think so. I think that both sides should apoloogize to each other and talk about what happened to start the fight or disagreement. No one party should have to take responsibility as it's not just one party that is to blame.
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
Hi cowgirl! It's nice to hear your thoughts. Yes, it's better if both party will talk about it so that they can apologize to each other and fix the problem but if only one party is willing to do it, we will always end up waiting for the other one. Thank you for your response. Happy myLotting!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Apr 10
Or in a worst case scenario, fighting again, but that's not good either! Hope your having a good day, happy mylotting to you as welL!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
4 Apr 10
I don't think so, I think that making up after you've been in a fight with your partner is something that should be done mutually. The guy is not the one that is always at fault when there is a quarrel between partners so why should he be the one that goes out of his way to make up with his partner. Besides that, one of the most important things about a lasting relationship is that you are able to resolve conflict and true conflict resolution is not a one-sided thing.
@phynx15 (248)
• India
2 Apr 10
Nice question, i use to think upon this many times but i am always the one to say sorry and propitiate my girl when ever we had a fight. But the good part is that when ever we have some nice time she would thank me for that and accept her fault again. Girls are sometimes very difficult, when we bother them and stay around them, they are fed up of us, when we leave them alone they say we are not caring for them again. Its almost impossible to satisfy them, it seems their wants are unlimited. Living with them is difficult but living without them seems much more difficult. However even if they don't say or do anything they can make us happy with their smiles and happiness. I think it is a boys duty to take care of the girl and hold the relationship. Happy Mylotting
@cloud31 (5809)
2 Apr 10
Nice one!phynxvery well said!