Do you give advice to people much older than you?

Hey setsuna; I think it is totally fine to be looking out for the best interest of your friend and if speaking up and voicing your opinion is what it is going to take and then so be it. I have a friend that is far older than me and I have done just that when he has gone ahead and made a ridiculous choice that was bound to have a negative result. later he thanked me and we have remained good friends. Likely not as a result of my speaking up but I do feel that that sis make our friendship stronger because as he has put it, but not in the same words, I help keep him on the straight and narrow. Keep an eye out for him and his best interests when I see necessary and fit to do so. I do not think that there is anything wrong with speaking up and giving advice, although I wouldn't go at it from the angle of "advice". Just speak from your heart and say it the way you see it. Giving advice when it hasn't been asked for can certainly back fire. An example: My friend was about to loan his truck to some girl he barely knew and met two days prior. I don't even think she had a license. This had been discussed before I showed up. It came to the point where he was about to hand over the keys when we were all outside. I said hold it! Wait and asked him "What are you doing"? in the presence of everyone else. he claimed that he was going to loan his truck to this girl. Basically I just said "What"? "You don't even know this person man, you just met these people two days ago and you are going to give out your keys for your truck"? I added that it wasn't a very good idea and he agreed. He did not loan his truck and our day went forward without incident. He later thanked me as he realized later that was a pretty stupid thing to do after all. Turns out the friendship didn't last more than a coule of weeks and soured in the end so this made him even more grateful for having someone like me as a friend. That is what I mean about speaking your mind vs giving advice. Just say it as you see it when the situation arises and the opportunity is there. Don't go back on something that happened the day before or prior.

I tend to avoid giving advice to people younger or elder till prompted for it. If they ask for advice I don't mind giving it to younger or elder people. In fact at various times I have given advice to elder people. Even in the relics of Hinduism it is clearly mentioned that it is knowledge that is of importance and it does not matter if you get it from someone elder or younger. In fact, there is a story where Lord Shiva (one of three main Hindu gods) understood the meaning of the word OM (a sacred word in Hinduism) from his son Kartikeya. Cheers! Ram

hi setsuna, I don't think so age plays a great role in giving advices to people. Even though all of us increases in age, our maturity varies. There are lots of younger kids who speaks like of an adult and there are also adults who speaks like they are still a kid. As on what you are thinking to do, I think nothing is wrong with that. I know you are just caring for your friend. I think it is a good way to show her your concern. It is better to make a move out of his undesirable behavior than letter her ruin herself by worrying it is not right to give advice to older people. As for me, yes, I also give advices to older people if I think they are being misled in what they do. But I do it in not a direct way. Sometimes, I talk with them and give them examples. I do not tell them directly what to do. Since they are old enough, I know they can realize enough what I am trying to say.

hello setsuna, i am not usually giving advices to anyone, older, younger or even same age as me...unless it is asked. but there are times, specially if they are people very close to us, we can't help ourselves but says what we think is good for them or what we observed and its because we are concern with them... i guess it will be okay as long as we say it in a way that will not offend them. i remember that i am usually the one giving advices to my parents! yeah, and i am glad that they listen to me & actually accepts & put in consideration the advices that i am giving them...

yes I do give advices to people much older than me. i think it's just fine to a person you care about, and if you think it's necessary to a person (no matter what his/her age is) who is doing lots of crazy things in his/her life, if it seems it's already making a great mess most of the time of his/her life. it's not that we have a perfect life goin' on, it's also one way of showing that you cared to that person as much as you want him/her to be in a straight direction, in a happy mood. sometimes we need to advice of that kind of person because we do not know, perhaps he/she just waiting for someone to give that, also in that way, he/she would realize that there's someone cared for him/her. i did that sometimes to my sister who's 6 years older of me, her life is in a great mess really, she got a broken family, got no career, and she raise alone her son...and it helps her i guess, it makes her realize that it's not yet an end of her life, especially that she got a son, and now, she begun to recover, she makes her life busy of doing business, and ofcourse, i'm also there to help her, guide her through...and she thank me for that. this kind of people (messing up their life) sometimes felt they are alone. and that they can't move, they don't know where to start again. and that they don't know how to stand again and face all this darkness in their life. they need some lights to have direction, to pass through the darkness, and this lights are the advices who cared for them. so, try talk to him, don't hesitate to do so, anyway it's up to him if he takes it or leave it. there'll be no lose with you anyway. also, we really never know, if that person realize one thing, that you cared him, Oh boy! that person thank you all his life, he'll tap your shoulder and said be great full to have you as a friend. believe me, it's a warm-heartfelt if you helped a person. thanks for this discussion, happy lotting".)

Being able to say what's on your mind is already a wonderful thing. How much more sharing all your thoughts and points of views to people around you. Regardless of the age or whatsoever, giving your time and your effort to just talk to the person in need is already a big deal. Goin back to your question. Yes! indeed! ;-P

as you have said that he is very older to you but your friend. and no matter what the difference in the age between you. when you are friends. you can share. and the thing which is more important is the good advice to your friend and this i do also. i dont have a friend of double age but i have friends who are older than me and i advice them.

As far as I am suggest that you should not give the suggestion to the people who are so old thatn. I think your friends, can be too old than you, I you speak out something that he can not bear it, I think he will be so angry with you.what is more you may not be friends any more.

i do advice.

I give advice if they want me to...I did it several times and it was more about phylosophy and I wasn't really judge them for what they did in real life..

Hi Setsuna, Good day! Most of my friends are the same age as mine so It's hard for me to imagine my self in this situation. However I do believe that if that person is really your friend there's nothing wrong in giving advice because you care for her/ him. If that person also considers you as her/ his friend then I guess he would not mind as long as you tell it to him in a nice way.

I'm a bit uneasy giving advises to people who are older than me but it cant be avoided that there are some who would ask me some advises. There was this one person who was interested in the same job where I am working and she's asking me some advises on how to do it cause its very important for her. I was hesitant to do it but I still did.

Only if the situation calls for it or the approach me for it. I will not take the initiative to open it or offer my advice because I don't want them to think I'm Miss know-it-all.

hi setsuna yes im a person who gives advice even though the person im talking to is older than me i heard so many problems from them to money,family and how to handle things well giving advice to others do not mean that you have much more experience but for me it's sharing your thoughts or point of view about the problem how can it be handle so that the outcome is good

If he's twice your age he'd probably not listen much anyway, I'd let him live his life. He probably wouldn't change if he's gotten into lots of different habits, habits are hard enough to break as is. If he ever asks you "why is my life heck" then you could say something but I wouldn't before.

That's kind of u to want to help him but u would probably just be wasting your breath. He's probably been that too long to change.

Well if the two of you are really good friends and if you think that his life is a mess, you can give him advice. Giving him unsolicited advice means that you really care about him. Just don't say it like you're giving him a sermon, just tell it to him nicely and that you're just concern about him. I think he'll listen to you, and it's up to him if he'll take you're advice or not.

I do give advices to people older than me. Sadly, some people older than me, especially ages 40 and above (like my parents), wont listen to any of my suggestions because they think I am too young to know about life. Sometimes, they end up being wrong and I'm right.

Not very often. I did the other day when we saw freinds and she was still misserable from cataract surgery and no glasses for readers. Mentioned on how thick mine were and that it will quickly get better.

yes sometimes, at least 1 year older than me, hehe, here in Philippines the advice of the elder is very important, it is in the Filipino values that we listen to the advice of the elder specially when it comes to love, they are good at that because they have the saying in Filipino "papunta ka palang pabalik na ako!" or they in english "you where just heading there but we, we are through with that"