SISTER BETRAYAL,is it forgivable?
By zip12ph
@zip12ph (179)
Philippines
April 4, 2010 2:05am CST
Can you forgive your sister who hurt you? its not a simple kind of hurting but to the extent of using your own name and becoming wanted by police, while she is nowhere to be found. How can a person you love betray you like this? What will you do in this kind of situation?
2 responses
@workingmoms (195)
• Philippines
4 Apr 10
Base from the Bible you should forgive right? But let us admit that it is not easy. Don't force your self to give forgiveness when you yourself knew that you are not yet ready for it. Ask guidance from Above to help you ease the pain and anger...then ask to help find the grace of forgiveness.
@blainecindy (1)
• United States
14 Apr 10
I come from a family of six sisters and one brother. Growing up in such a large family, with so many different personalities, there was always some argument going on with one or the other of us. Of course, those are just normal growing pains and those squabbles really do not mean much in the end.
However, recently my sister did something that was considered unforgiveable. At a family gathering that my youngest sister had at her house, my other sister was found in the garage with my youngest sister's husband and they were kissing and making out. Needless to say, they were both drunk out of their minds. But this was truly a serious offense, even though they were both drunk. My youngest sister was devastated. As a matter of fact, she locked her husband out for the night. They had both really hurt my youngest sister. And after all, aren't sister's husbands and boyfriends off limits? But I guess when you are drunk you can really lose your judgement easily.
Time went by and there was bad blood between my two sisters for two or three years. My youngest sister felt betrayed and my other sister felt guilty. And of course, they were both too stubborn to call the other one.
Finally one day my youngest sister decided to take the first step. She called my sister (the one who had done the wrong) and told her that was willing to forgive her. She said that she just could not live her life with such a grudge. She said that this grudge was just holding her down, like a weight around her neck, and she wanted to get rid of it. So she reconciled with my sister. To this day, she says that one of the best things she ever did was forgive my other sister.
Sometimes forgiveness and reconciliation are exactly what the situation calls for. Besides, I believe that blood is thicker than water. Anyway, I am glad that I have both of these sisters back in my life together again.
@dupedestafada (6)
• United States
24 May 10
I have recently found out that my sister and brother in law had stolen my mother's savings and a significant amount from the money I sent my mother every month. I am not interested in forgiving them and least of all when they are refusing to give the money back or help support my mother. I want them to be exposed for what they are and suffer the consequences of their crime.
In order to deal with my hurt, desolation and anger, I started a blog http://dupedyestafada.squarespace.com to provide a forum for people in the same circumstances to share their experiences. Through the telling of my own story, I hope to encourage others to come forward.
Duped Estafada