Frankly,tell,are you NOT SELFISH in any matter?

Yes. You're definitely right. Everyone is selfish at some point. But what mostly money is the reason. I'm not saying all. Only some.

Hello Balu Lol no body has ever told me 'You are selfish', i too never felt i am, i have always been helping for my students, staff, family members and friends, but who knows some body may say in future, i don't bother. i know what i am... Thanks for this nice post, cheers Happy easter Prof

i think we all do have our own selfish self inside... we are people who are giving, but sometimes we hold back to ourselves - if this is being selfish then be it. it is almost always correct and right to hold back and to keep something for ourselves.

Hi Baluyadav, I am selfish to the core. I believe selfishness is a virtue. I know you've been led to believe that it is not! But that is not true! Look at it like this, I have some monies, I feed myself well, and then I have enough energy to look after another person. But if I go about giving others without looking after me to a minimum extent - then I will be sickly, grumbling, resenting others who do not do as I want them to do - what is called a martyr syndrome, and eventually make everybody miserable, forcing them to live like I want them to live! No - we each have our minimum requirements, which is of course different for you, and me. Only when we are satiated can true charity step in. So I wouldnt sacrifice my new dress so that my relative buys a house, whether or not I have a house. But I would forego that dress if my relative was starving. See the difference?

hi,friend,i agree with you...now a days wherever you see,we will find selfish thoughts and selfish behaveour even in blood relations also.Happy mylotting.

i admit that iam selfish in some way. there is a thinking within myself when extending help to others. i look down first if that certain people really need to give help or not. like for example we won in a raffle and the price is a sack of rice. there are these people who ask my husband they wanted a certain 5 kilos of rice coz they thinking that 1 sack is too much for the two of us to consume. my husband who is really a kind person follow what they wanted. really my husband felt that i dont want to give rice to them or i will give but only few not the thing they wanted. my husband then told me that im really selfish. in my mind i think im not because for me that person really dont need to ask for the rice coz they have the means to have it.. they are not really that poor people whom you can see that really have nothing to eat. you can see them going bigger or let me say gaining weight... is that the look of someone who needs help. so for me its not bad to extend help as long as you will see to them they really need help from you.

Yes. This I have been seeing from my childhood. Even if we want to be straight forward, when people go on behaving in a selfish way, we too feel fed up and become self centered. Whenever a person visits your house, you go on giving something to them. They will happily accept it. But not a single time will something come from that side to you. They do not even feel for that. They think as if giving is our duty and taking is their duty. We do not anticipate anything from them. But one time or other we do feel the difference.

I think you are probably right. I'm selfish about my kitchen. LOL When my step-daughter cooks something, she never puts things back where they belong, and she doesn't do a very thorough job cleaning. Thankfully my husband is more than happy to stay out of the kitchen! I'm also selfish about my flower garden. It's spring here, so there's a lot of weeding to be done as flowers start peeking out of the ground. My husband tried to help me weed, but in the section he worked on, he pulled the flowers and left the weeds. He did it with such enthusiasm, and was so proud of himself, I didn't have the heart to be mad. And, it was a small section. Thankfully all the sports he likes to watch are on TV, so he won't be 'helping' me anymore...this year.

As far as I am concerned, I think I can not agrre with your idea here. I do not think people are all selfish in any matter.For me, I think I am so generous to my friends, I will try my best to give my friends what ever they want. And they will usually do as they can to help me.