to spank or not to spank

i seldom spank my toddler but i really tried not to. Maybe as parent we are also human and patience is not abundant. i guest if my patience reach at the bottom, that's the time i can spank my child.. but i did it maybe thrice already..

At first you really need to talk them, one on one. They should learn to listen and understand things by having a serious conversation. Then warned them if they do it again, they will be spank. Use your hands to spank them, so you can control yourself. And know how hard it is that you gave them. I think kids have this certain attitude of testing their parents patience. They do things even if they are not allowed to do it. After spanking, explained to them why you did it. And let them know how much you love them.