Will you give one more chance for a person who have hurt you so much before?
By Curlann
@annierose (21588)
Philippines
14 responses
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
29 Aug 10
Love is a great feeling which has to be expressed. If you find it true, never fail to convey, thats a tribute to the love in real.Yes am in true love and its a feeling of happiness life long.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
12 Aug 10
yes i had an ex bf that lived far from me. and when i said i cant go to his country anymore bcs my mum didnt let me he called me many bad names and talked so mean and i forgave it and gave him a second chance. anyway it ended bcs i was always the one caring more and he was always acting careless so i said to him my feelings are not the same anymore and it ended. anyway we must always give second chances bcs we all make mistakes and we can lose an opportunity to be happy just bcs we didnt want to give it ^^
@markroderick (888)
• Philippines
10 May 10
It depends I guess if the person who hurt me before is really sincere in asking for forgiveness. But if he is my ex-boyfriend I guess its a big no. He could still hurt me the way he did before. And beside its always a case to case basis when giving a chance or forgiveness.
@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
10 May 10
I would say, it depends on the matter. If it is a principal matter, than I would give them one more chance but I would never trust them anymore. If it is trivial matter, than I would forget the hurt and give them chances. Next thing, you will ask, what is a principal matter and what is trivial? It's entirely your decisions. Like, a long time ago I decided that lying to other people is a principal matter. While stealing my boyfriend is a trivial matter for me.
@annabel_nov (85)
• Philippines
26 Jun 10
yes, i will give another change because i do believe that we deserve another change. just as Jesus was able to forgive our sins even 777 times. I have been betrayed before and it really hurt so much, but, i have forgiven that person for hurting me and accepted him. I do believe that when you love someone, you must love that person without asking in return, it's called unconditional love, the same love that Jesus has given unto us. Let us be forgiving because in that way, you will not feel any grudge, any untoward feelings within you and you can focus on the future.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
25 Jul 10
yes if you really love the person yes but depends of what the person did. if the person beat no we cant bcs those who beat in women cant stop :( anyway if he cheated and told you the truth maybe we can forgive i dont know but if hid it and you found out alone after a long long time is hard to forget and be in a relation again. anyway it all depends of the reason why you were apart^^
@kingnigth (51)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
If you judge a person you not love him, but if you have qualification on how to make decision what his standard of living, personality, good ethics on how they treats you and others? well, you have to make right decision.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
5 Apr 10
I guess it would have to depend on how i was hurt by that person? i have always been one to believe that everyone deserved a second chance. There are always exceptions though. Just search your heart and let it guide you. If someone that has hurt you deserves to have a second chance it will happen.
@craftyhomebody (443)
• United States
5 Apr 10
yes i have given second chances and thrid chances and then
one day someone said to me why do you think you need to be there
door mat think about it awhile
@rumshie (186)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
it depends upon the reason.
if i was hurt due to THIRD PARTY/LYING/DISHONESTY/ETC then i'll never give him any chances. OVER MY SEXY BODY! LOOOOOOL.
but if i was just hurt because we broke up with an okay reason (such as misunderstanding,studies,etc) then why not? :
@pasopatione (6)
• Indonesia
7 Apr 10
No twice come opportunity on life just do it you are filling what you do, don,t things how to do, but things how you get, use imagine in your mine make you heart happiness the money came to following, don,t forget pray to God
@mitchann (303)
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
If that question came up before when I was single, I would answer this way, "I wont give another chance to someone who has hurt me.
But since this question came up just now that I'm taken already, My answer would be different.
I know its so difficult to forgive someone who made you cry, but mind me I gave him a chance because I still love him.When I was in the stage of grief and despair, I promised myself that I will never return to the this guy. But I was wrong.
I accepted him and gave him a second chance, even though their are still doubts I do believe he has also learned his lesson.
@Tgray61 (29)
• United States
16 Apr 10
Yes, it is possible that you can give your heart to someone again after they have hurt you before. However, does it really make sense to do so....forgive but do not always take them back It is evident that those who really love you do not hurt you...or at least they do not do repeated these to hurt you. Love is kind, patient, understanding, sweet, it feels good, and most of all it makes you feel great. It is realized that majority of women are more prone to giving men chances after chance. But why is it the majority of men will go to hell in low places before giving women chances after chances after hurting them. This means men tend to know their worth value....this i something many women lack. No one should give a person too many chancing because it psychological prepare them to get they can always hurt you and you'll always accept them back.