how do you deal with people who only stick to their view of any opinion?

@udayrao2 (781)
India
April 5, 2010 1:56am CST
This is very common- people sticking to only their view of any opinion/discussion or argument; it becomes very irritating but you cannot do anything much if that person happens to be a good friend.Such people will not even bother to hear out,listen & accept anything else at all. What do you do in such cases? I find this a little dicey except that I then ignore and move on. especially if that person otherwise is a nice person.
13 responses
• China
5 Apr 10
Well, if I face such a situation,maybe I will express my views at first.You know I am a stubborn person and good at debating in some ways .If I can't persuade him/her,I will certainly shut up especially the person is my friend.
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@udayrao2 (781)
• India
7 Apr 10
Hi have you heard of this: " If you cannot convince him then confuse him??""
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• China
7 Apr 10
Great idea and I am surely follow it next time.
@udayrao2 (781)
• India
8 Apr 10
Ok and good - it really helps in saving you when in a difficult position!!
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
5 Apr 10
Well, there is really no point beating these people over the head with anything. They will believe what they want to believe. I think we are all this way sometimes, even if it very slight. There are ideas built up in the back of our head and it takes something big to alter them even slightly. There is really no shame in sticking to your convictions, being someone who changes their opinion on a whim is one of the worst things that I can think of. However, there will some people who just will not hear you out. No matter how much you talk to them, no matter how much you try and convince them there is another opinion out there besides theirs, they will not hear you out. They have their opinion and anything that you might say was wrong. I mean, I have been known to be stubborn, but I was never as confrontational as these people tend to be. These people will just not hear you out at all. These people, I try and avoid them as much as possible. Or at least avoid talking to them with that opinion that they hold and refuse to even hear anything contradictory. Some people will hear you out about many things and be fine, but there are just one or two topics that they are passionate about and refuse to hear anything different. Then there are people who will disagree with you just for the sake of disagreeing. At least that is the way I perceive it.
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@udayrao2 (781)
• India
6 Apr 10
Hi Megamatt yes you and i have similar approaches & I think most sensible people do the same.
@grayxenon (1313)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
my principle in life is simple, don't waste your time on things that you cannot control or beyond your power to control. another famous cliche i was once stumble over a funny forum is "opinions are like a** hole, everybody has one" most of which are stinky..hehe
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@jezzmay (1845)
• United States
5 Apr 10
I agree to disagree. We all have our opinions, but that does not mean we should try to push them on others. I also will say on some things prove it. I am willing to listen if you have proof of what you are saying.
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@vandana7 (100617)
• India
5 Apr 10
Hi Udayrao, if there is some good in that friend, I would shut up. If not, I would drop him or her like hot potatoes. :) Honestly, some people are like that. But if they are honest at heart, I am ok with them. :)
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@udayrao2 (781)
• India
6 Apr 10
Hi Vandana yes I do that and I have lost a couple of so called "friends" that way!!
@razim17 (194)
• Malaysia
5 Apr 10
Theres nothing we can do about these kind of arrogant people who always think they are right.Sometimes i just walked away and sometimes i do argue about it.All they have to do is just listen.We are not forcing them to follow view of the others.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Apr 10
hi udayrao2 well now maybe the other person feels your viewpoint is wrong, what the heck ever happened to people respecting each others different views? I mean why do you think yours is the only one that is right? maybe the other person just does not agree with you? If it is a friend who you otherwise care for, just accept to agree to disagree with him or her, unless they become abusive to you.I mean its one thing to try to change another's opinions yet I think you would do better just to accept that not everyone will agree with you, you surely do not always agree with others opinions either do you?
@udayrao2 (781)
• India
6 Apr 10
Hi Hatley yes I do agree I, like all others, have my opinions too but the difference being I agree to disagree and then I do not get arrogant about it when the views are not similar. What bothers me is when you disagree the person at times becomes arrogant & aggressive and on the point of losing his temper and blowing up with a risk of health hazards like a high-jump in his blood pressure due to the excitement!!This more likely as most of the people are like me over the 60s age.
@veejay19 (3589)
• India
6 Apr 10
Uday, one of my neighbours has this irritating trait. He comes to my house, plonks himself on a chair ,takes the newspaper in his hand and then starts commenting. He will not listen to anybody else but give his opinion and stick to it whether it is right or wrong. I don`t get any chance to speak as he speaks in a loud voice and it gets louder if you don`t agree with him. I just let him go on till he subsides and then change the topic.One can`t argue with such persons. Since i can`t run away i have to bear it.Fortunately he is the only such person in my life.
@udayrao2 (781)
• India
7 Apr 10
I know - you cannot run away- maybe he comes to read your paper and he is too stingy to buy his own - haha- so let him read and go away quietly.
• Quezon, Philippines
6 Apr 10
They are closed minded. They really don't know how to think. They are pegged in their own gloomy world.
@thezone (9394)
• Ireland
8 Apr 10
Hi udayrao2. There is nothing you can do as it is someone else's opinion. Just like you have yours and I have mine. Everyone has an opinion and they are entitled to it, so it should be respected even if you disagree. I would not simply ignore them and move on as you put it, as that does not seem very productive at all.
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
I just leave it and do not have to form an argument or rather ignore them as long as i already state my opinion and she/he already heard it and it is up for her.him to believe or if she/he dislike then it is her/his own decision. Then, if he insist with their opinion and i do respect them and anyway they would see to in the end if their ideas are right or wrong and they would realize later if they only ask for advices or heeded with other people opinion they would not be lead astray but since they are so hard headed then I do wash my hands off so I have no one to lame or for them to blame since they only follow what they believe in and in the end would not felt guilty whatever the outcomes of their decision since it is their choice and i just respect them.
@hofferp (4734)
• United States
6 Apr 10
I can only advise and provide guidance, after that, his/her decision is his/hers. I try and not let it bother me, whatever he/she decides to do. And when it turns out I was right, I don't rub it in. I figure they know I was right. And when I was wrong, I also let them know I advised them poorly, he/she was smart not following my advice.
• Nigeria
5 Apr 10
honestly my opinion is to advice them but leave them to their own decisions and choices, people like this are proud and should be left to their own choices