I wana out when I am working, but boring at home...what is the problem???

China
April 5, 2010 8:14am CST
I am working in a good company where people are all nice to me. However, after time passed, I can't bear sit just in front of my computer doing rutine work. I wana outside business, a business trip etc. When I was in my office, especially got target in hand, I would like to surf in the internet for a long time even though surfing entertainment is forbiden. However, when I got time at home on Saturday, I didn't know what to do and felt boring very much. I choosed sleep very often when I was at home, sometime watched TV. I have some problem,yep? yes! What should I do to solve this situation? What is your advice for me? welcome to your taking here! I appreciate it!
5 responses
@Wizzywig (7847)
5 Apr 10
I think many people are in this position... they have "good" jobs but they are frustrated by the confines of the job and feel that there must be more and they do not want to spend the rest of their working life doing that. However, they're not quite sure what it is that they do want so dont really settle to anything. I would say, find something that you have always wanted to try, or wanted to be better at - maybe some creative pursuit or physical activity. There are people who love to sing/paint or whatever but realise that only a few can make a living at such things so they give up - which is such a shame. Do things for YOU... if you find a hobby which could also bring in a bit of extra cash, thats great. I dont consider myself in any way qualified to give advice but I offer an opinion/suggestion - Actively pursue your dreams. Good luck
• United States
5 Apr 10
You stated this very well. I agree, I think he/she needs to find something that will interest him/her or find a hobby.
• China
6 Apr 10
Hi Wizzywig, Thank you indeed for your advice and you got exactly what I meant. I do have a lot of habbies like swimming, basketball, tennis and shopping and I did them a lot. However, in my city, doing any of these activities means spending money. I am not the person who cares money very much, and for getting some joy I spend much of my spare time shopping, but only gains me a period-time joy. I feel boring my life, I don't have a girlfriend at present, but I used to have. I live in this city far away from my hometown that means I can't see my parents until holidays come. Sometimes I feel lonely here and want to go out for a trip, maybe the us, tokyo or elsewhere. But what should I do after I come back from a trip?
@Wizzywig (7847)
8 Apr 10
Yes, unfortunately, most hobbies require spending money. Do you have skills that you could pass on to others - in a tutoring position? Maybe instructing in some sport or technology area? Perhaps you could get into the travel industry in some capacity and enjoy the varied experiences around the world whilst being paid for it? Do all the things you'd like to do whilst you're young and fit enough to enjoy them
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
i kinda understand what you mean with that! we can't seem to stay at home too often but we don't want to work! haha its just my feelings most of the time too... i have decided that this means, i want money but i don't want to work anymore - so where can i get that money?!! I want to rest but i don't want to rest at home because it is super hot at home, its not very comfortable... etc. ha ha now i am more sure that i want to be rich so i won't work anymore - and i will want a vacation all the time!!! :D hahaha
• China
23 Apr 10
hey, you got exactly what i am feeling! Maybe I dont' wana become such rich but have a happy work to do. Maybe it is kinda paradox that a good job with high responsibility burden us but the money earned leave me happy; a normal job have us more time to relax but we should face the condition of lacking of money. Maybe I got the core problem with me that is I am new fish to this society and not mature or ready enough to face all these stuff. I have a lot of things to learn. Maybe after a long run, I will be better and know what I should do during my life time. Anyway, thank you very much! God bless you!
• India
12 May 10
Try spending time with your family and friends on your week ends. Better go for classes in which field you are interested. You look for a part time job which will make you to think as you are working on the office.
@klipjobs (24)
• Indonesia
12 Apr 10
collar job by completing the work at the computer and make paper often makes us bored. but this will be familiar with the condition that when we no longer have to open ourselves a chance to try adventure with activities outside the building. if you can find an interesting community to join, so join and do the activities continued with a meeting outside the office, maybe you could join with groups like the bike to work.. or you must spend time in a plan to travel somewhere. with internet, destination information can be easily serached...
• China
14 Apr 10
Hi there, Thank you for your response and the words that mentioned here is really helpful for me and I will have a try to cure my problems. Sometimes we do know how to improve our bad conditions but we still feel bad because of the feeling is not right. Not the right time or right place, etc. Now I GOT exactly "right", I am fine now! hh
@ridwan08 (1183)
• Indonesia
6 Apr 10
i think you can playing or walking around with somebody,you can chat and walking together go to some place,because if you alone.it's no ineractive in your life,plese now call your old friend or your brother,playing together.that maybe can make o happy.i hope
• China
14 Apr 10
Hi there, Thank you for your reponse, and I do have dates these days and I feel good with these guys. Sometimes we play outdoor like tennis or basketball, go to KTV also do me a lot of fun. I find friends aound me is the fortune I have, cherish them and enjoy the time!
@zim1fW (285)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
I could see that you have dreams in running your own business and always on business trips. That's a good dream, and worth pursuing. But dreams have their own time and place. What you experience right now appears to be a result of a career without a plan. Just going the motion that even you no longer enjoy. So I guess it's high time to plan for your future, your career. What do you want to be (I could see that you want to become an executive or a business owner)? So try to list down what you need to become in order to effectively function in those dream roles that you want to assume. HOnestly, you are not yet ready for that right now. Once you have the list, plan on how to acquire those skills within a certain period of time (target dates). Then arrange your work in order to get it. So if your present work does not allow you to develop your skills, then you got to stepup and seek from your company those positions that can help you develop the skills. Then work hard to get to those positions. You will realize that your life becomes so excited you don't want to stop working.
• China
23 Apr 10
Hi zim, First, thanks very much for your excellent response and that does make sense. Considering with your comments, you are much more mature than me to do with this situation. I am jsut a new fish to this society, full of competition. My dreams are worthless, my plans are dush and my goals are impossible. All are of no value unless they are followed by action. Life is changing when we are busy making other plans. Maybe what I should do first is to put things into practice. Never complain to anything else.