my friend can't stand to be alone
By doormouse
@doormouse (4599)
April 5, 2010 10:14am CST
i've got a really good friend who hates being on here own,she'll ring all the time to see if i can pop round for a cuppa,i don't mind,i think it's funny,i like going to hers for a cuppa and a chat,but my boyfriend thinks it's wierd,he says it's not normal and she needs phsyciatric help,lol,,her husband found that comment amusing aswell,,she also knows everyone,if i take her shopping with me,it's normally a nightmare coz she stops and talks to loads of people,whereas me,i don't talk to anyone,,my friend is so funny,i love her to bits,,does anyone else have a friend like this
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14 responses
@GardenGerty (160696)
• United States
5 Apr 10
I know just about everyone when I go to the store. I have taken to going at really odd hours just to avoid having to talk to everyone, because they will think you are rude if you do not. I think I have had friends in the past who disliked solitude, but I really enjoy it. I guess I am more sociable online than off. Actually with all of my online friends, I think I am only alone if I am not online.
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@doormouse (4599)
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5 Apr 10
i hate getting caught by people in the supermarket,i just want to shop not shop and talk
@Nikhil1418 (38)
• Qatar
6 Apr 10
I have the same frnd like urs ..... but he don't like anyone who loves me more than he do... and he said that to me ...so i said anyone can't love me like u r doing.
he was so happy..and i love him 2.
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@doormouse (4599)
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3 May 10
ah bless her,i used to love it when my mum went away when i was younger
@AmbiePam (92794)
• United States
6 Apr 10
Actually, that really isn't normal. I imagine she has some inner fear of being alone. Not afraid of being unsafe, but being afraid to be alone with her thoughts or some other inner battle. I'm glad though that you love her so much. Maybe your presence can start to heal her a little bit. Funny friends are some of the best friends!
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@doormouse (4599)
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6 Apr 10
she doe'snt need healing,and she's not afraid of being alone,she just does'nt like being bored,i think it's funny coz whenever my phone goes off during the day i always know it's her,i love chatting to her coz it stops me being bored aswell
@jugsjugs (12967)
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8 Apr 10
I have alot of friends like that who either turn up for a cuppa or they ring or text me first just to make sure i am going to be at home or free for a cuppa so they can come round for a chat.How ever i also like time to do the things i like aswell as all the things that have to be done like the letters,phone calls,housework,animals also to spend some time with my husband and children as a family even if it is just messing about in the back yard.If i do not see some of the friends as i have not been here etc then i either catch up with them at a later date or will chat to them on the phone or internet.
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@doormouse (4599)
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8 Apr 10
if you're busy then do what i do,i just say no,if i've got stuff to do i'll always do that first,my friends will still be there later,,unless you tell them you're busy they won't know
@danverxxcore (347)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
That's so envying. hehehe. I also want a friend like that. Although Im a he but my group are always listening to me. I want to be alone by myself but they want me there it's ok though. I could not stop making them laugh even for a while. Maybe that's why they want to be with me. But i REALLy like a friend like that who keeps you and makes you laugh unlike friends who are much quiet and want to keep you at all times.
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@doormouse (4599)
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6 Apr 10
i'm fairly quite,but my friend is the complete opposite,that's probably why we get on so well
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
5 Apr 10
Some people don't like spending time alone. I like it when the kids are in school, but yet there are times, it just drives me crazy. I need to have communication with another adult.
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@doormouse (4599)
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5 Apr 10
i love it when the kids are at school,i get to watch my programmes and not blinkin H2O or hollyoaks replay
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Apr 10
hi doormouse my bestfriend nelda is much like that, and when she takes me out she always talks to everyone whether she even knows them or not, '
she loves people, and can get them to talk. I do not have that
ability but wish I did. She is very outgoing and makes friends]of
everyone from the butcher to the baker to the candlestick maker
to coin an old phrase.And yes I also love her so much, as we have a lot
of things in common.since I came here to gold crest she emails me from
work every day to make me not feel so lost.
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@lulumartin (963)
• Germany
6 Apr 10
Hi, doormouse.
So far, i do not have a friend like that. Honestly, i cannot stand always going out with my friends. If i have a friend like her, i will be annoyed. Sorry, there is no offense. It's only because personally i do not like to hang out so often with friends.
Well...i think every one different. And it's true that some people hate to be alone and always want the companions from friends. I think if it's ok for that, then it does not matter. And i guess your friend does not like the quiet atmosphere. That's why she always want to talk and talk...so there will be no quiet moment ;-)
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@doormouse (4599)
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6 Apr 10
she gets bored very easily,and as i'm able to work due to ill health i get bored aswell,so it keeps both of us busy,it's a great partnership
@lologirl2021 (5542)
• United States
5 Apr 10
I do not have a friend like this. If i did have a friend like this i would tell them to be strong and fight for her life. If she can't stand to be alone maybe then she should start fighting it with stuff to do. She needs to stay active and maybe you can give her some pointers on things to do and not be so bored. Maybe a good one is making money online or even going for walks and exercising. Maybe she should take up a hobby to do at home.
One last thing is i have never heard of a cuppa and am confused what that is and what your going over to her house to do.
@doormouse (4599)
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5 Apr 10
my friend gets bored very easily and she hates it,so she likes to kep herself active by talking to people,,a cuppa means a cup of tea or coffee
@1anurag1 (3576)
• India
6 Apr 10
i think some time it happens to be bad. but i dont think you just go to the psychiatrist. may be your friend is a very social and not able to find any besides you.
so you must talk to her on this matter once in good words. and things may be ok in time.
goodluck
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@doormouse (4599)
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6 Apr 10
she does'nt need help,it was just my boyfriend being silly,,she's got loads of friends and she's very well liked by everyone,i wouldn't want her to change
@carinaweng (47)
• China
6 Apr 10
hi friends,your friend is pretty girl,when i go to market and want to buy things which i have no idea whether it is worth to purchase or not,at this time i will talk with person who know it,i have a sincerely friend during high school,but recent year she go on her university in other place,but we keep in touch with each other,we also like to chat in cellphone ,tell another what happened around us and change some view of point about things,cos there are million metres in the two of us,needless to say we have to manage to handle difficult problem with ourself.
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@pierrella (1087)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
Not really, but my mom is really talkative. However, she can stand being alone. I don't know to what extend is her attitude but I guess some people are really like that :) As long as it is not too much, it's okay. If not, that is the time a psychiatric help is needed
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@doormouse (4599)
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5 Apr 10
my friend is lovely and i don't mind her being like that at all,that's what makes her her
@joystick (1675)
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1 Mar 12
I have a very close friend, she is great fun.She do not ever seem to mind when ever I turn up, no matter who is at hers.I find her funny, as at times there has been loads of people at hers and they are all friendly people, she always has a smile no matter what.She never seems lonely and is not a person that will call you up, as she has no one else to have a cuppa with.At the moment she has this thing about chocolate gateau, where as if she knows I am popping to see her then I know there will be a gateau in the fridge, that she has ready for us.