How is it possible to stop loving somebody?

I don't know the answer...I'm still searching for it....

Simple start hating them

For me, love, respect and trust were slowly replaced with hate, repulsion and distrust. It happened slowly over time and events.

usually it was because they had betrayed my trust,and then tried to lie about it. especially if i'd already found out they were talking s*it about me behind my back while they were doing it. refusing to help with something/being indifferent when you've helped them innumerous times in the past doesn't sweeten the deal either.

For the most part, I think that you would stop loving someone from hurt and betrayal of trust. But I have heard of others that have said 'we have grown apart', or 'we are going in different directions' and such. I think sometimes, you think the other person might have changed to suit you, but when they did not, you give up, too, maybe. But I don't know how you actually stop loving someone. I still love everyone I have always loved, just to different degrees. If that makes sense?

i love somebody for i think almost four years now, and i would like to stop loving him..I am tired love him which i know in return he will never loves me whatever happen to the world. I don't know what i am going to do i love reading forums which gives an idea on how to forgot the feeling of love to one person but i find hard to do it..it seems so be very difficult..

bLESS YOUR HEART, I'M SORRY U ARE HAVING SUCH AN EMOTIONAL TIME. bEEN THERE DONE THAT A LONG , LONG TIME AGO BUT HAVEN'T FORGOTTEN HOW IT IS. I loved my ex more than i should & took so much crap off him just to try to make our marriage work. It was my 2nd marriage as well as his. He was a drunk, an abuser, liked the ladies etc. I was pregnant when i left him & later lost the baby. I did not here one word from him at the time. That hurt me so deeply that i never wanted to see him or hear from again. He tried to contact me but I WAS THROUGH. TOOK ME a long time to get there but he hurt me so deeply over this that i can't say i automatically stopped loving him but i had the sense to be through. I hope u can get wherever u want to be, dawn.

Love has no real workable definition....That is to say that,It's kind of subjective.What's why it's important to have some agreement on the "terms of love". Men and women seem to have different terms.....Men often think that after a commitment is made ,no more effort is required. Which makes most women very unhappy!!....LOL!

In my experience love is grand! But it also hurts. There really is no choice as love seems to just hold of you. In love the stars are brighter and the sky is bluer and the whole world is your castle. Falling out of love is not manageable. I feel that when someone betrays you it is your choice to stay away from that person cux of the hurting but in time to come you find that that same love is still in your heart. It's best to be love and be hurt than to not have loved at all. Love is the basis for all life. Take care. quita 88

Hi dawn, it is a choice. We then put in our ego behind our choice. All the stubbornness we have we use to make our love seem perfect. The perfection was never there in real world. It was in our imagination. Let go, and it will come back. Problem is you wouldnt want it. :( The idea of remaining in love is so appealing. Life seems so devoid of expressions without it - as if there is nothing beyond it. That is not true. Every relationship has its ups and downs. So everybody is in love at times, and is un-loving by choice. I stop thinking of the person. That is the best insult I can offer.

This hits home! well I once fell deep in love with someone, but little by little found myself less and less appreciated so yes that made me fall out of love with that person. Eventually I had enough.

well i learned to stop loving after i found out that he was going to hit on me no matter what i did that makes you stop loving someone

Falling in love is not a choice, but a chance as it happens unexpectedly when seeing someone that triggers that unexplainable feeling of wanting to be with that person. Falling out of love is a choice as one feels being on the losing end or being waken up by the love spell. No matter how much we love someone, there should always be a sense of evaluating any relationship if it is indeed worth carrying it on. To fully understand the meaning of love, you should first know yourself too well as to how much you can really love and never being left out on having respect for yourself and loving yourself.

There is no stopping love I think. It's just stopping to have commitment with them is the right words for the case. I've done some in past relationships because of broken trust and cold relationships.

All those reasons are true Dawn. But I don't think love is a choice. It is something that just happens, it becomes an intrinsic part of a person, of who they are. So saying, there is no choice involved to "unlove" someone. For the reasons you mentioned, they don't stop you loving the person...that's why it hurts so much. The love just fades away over a long period of time as you adjust and heal and eventually you are left with the memory of the love which is when you decide or realise or whatever, how real the love you felt was. Or you realise that the one you loved actually didn't truly love you in return when you believed they did and that realisation tends to cancel out your own feelings over time. When we love someone we usually admire and respect them and we like them as a person. When we stop being able to admire and respect them there is a shift in the love we feel towards them as well. It's not so much a decision that we make to not love someone but that by their actions and behaviour they become unlovable. It works both ways too. The partner may also find that their other half has become unlovable and their actions therefore mirror their partners' and so the relationship becomes basically loveless. Does that make sense to you?

I stopped loving my ex. he disappeared and I was devastated but with the help of my best friend I finally mended. He help me see I Only thought I was in love. But at the time I thought I was.At the time I thought I would always love him. But after I stoped and looked at it . Really looked at the situation, I saw it for what it was , attraction but not love, not really. Once I understood the truth , I started not loving him in a week.now I'm with a man I truly love , If we were to part, I don't think I would stop loving him.But I can see if trust is broken or there is abuse where love can die instantly.So the answer to your question it isn't a decision per se. It just happens.

well i guess for me it's not really a choice. this kind of thing just happen and i have absolutely no control over it. just like falling in love, i can't choose who i fall in love with. when i was younger, i had this list of characteristics that my 'dream lover' must have. but when he finally appears, i realise i just can't fall in love with him. i've fallen out of love with others. the analogy i find really applies is that love is like a brick. it's strong and solid and try chipping away at it everyday. one day the brick is going to wear so thin it just breaks. guess it's the same way for me. it's not one particular incident or event that drives the love away. it's the slow and steady wearing off that does it. one day i realise that i just don't love the person anymore...

I was married to my ex for a total of 14 years.... I was in love with him and thought I was very lucky because he was good-looking and alot of other women thought so also.... There are two sides to everyone.... Some people act the same around everyone but at home there are loving moments you do not see in public all the time.... My ex was very physical and mentally abusive over the years..... I worked he peddled around trying to make money.... never held down a job..... when we were short on bills he told me I was lazy and needed to get a new job....I have had broken bones, bruises, and stitches over the years.....the day he made me get a abortion (which i tried to leave before coming to this ---did not turn out so good for me) I lost all respect and came to my senses... then about 2 years after that he started to bruise my son and that was enough for me...... I finally (after trying 6 times over the years)got out with my son into a safe place..... I never turned back or cried about leaving.... I wish I would have been able to get out with my son sooner..... Learning all of this from me one could understand how you could lose love for someone and never regain it.

In my experience, the only way that it has been possible for me to stop loving someone that I used to love was because I was betrayed in some way. You see, I really did love the boyfriend that I had eleven years ago and I would probably still love him today, but I thought that we were happy together and that we had a future and then he called me and informed me that he was taking another girl to his mother's wedding and at that point, I went from loving him to loathing him.

From what I understand, loving someone is partly a chemical interaction as well as a choice. I have chosen to stop loving someone because she was not good for me to be around. I suppose others 'fall out of love' when there is no more interaction of hormones. I don't know for sure how Love works, but do any of us?