How do you deal with people that complain all the time?
@honeydew82174 (1720)
United States
April 6, 2010 12:58pm CST
You know the type Im talking about. Always have to pick and find something wrong with everything. Nothing positive comes out of their mouth. Do you just listen out of respect? Or do you tell them to quit whinning and find something positive to talk about. I find complainers talk about themselves and awful lot.
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@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
6 Apr 10
I tend not to associate with complainers much. They certainly do a good job of bringing you down.
I find that I probably complain more than most, but I try to catch myself when I do it, and stop myself.
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@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
I really have to be as honest as possible with my answer here. Yes sometimes i just listen out of respect until their done i will just be listening and maybe a couple of nod will do for them but that doesnt mean i always agree to their complaint. when i just cant take it anymore i make sure that they will find out what im being irritated with.Specially if i find their argument really bad at all.Some people just dont get it, only thinking bout themselves and not everyone around them and i personally think they need a wake up call from time to time ;)
@honeydew82174 (1720)
• United States
6 Apr 10
I think your right. Sometimes people just need a wake up call to get out of that mode.
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
In order for them to realize what they are doing someone needs to bow down and kick some sense out of their head!Yes it might be a lil rude but thinking about it its even far worse if you just let someone do something unethical and let her or him get away with it.Specially if this person is a friend 
@BlueAngelRS (2899)
• Canada
6 Apr 10
I have some friends that are like that.....Will sit there and tell me over and over of their probs but won't listen to me half the time lol.....But I try to turn a deaf ear and go uh huh ya ok things like that but it really gets annoying sometimes after awhile....
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@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
6 Apr 10
i just put up with it usually, my partner does it real bad and over the stupid little things. like he's caught in the past, and can't let go if someone does something to him. currently he's been whinging about the school principal, he had a run in with him a few yrs back. now he seems to think that he's got in it in for my son at school and not treating us as good. i've got a complaint when school starts again, but i only need to tell them that i was not happy with something.
i know now i'm the one complaining, but i did read a good article the other day about toxic friends. it all made sense as well.
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@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
Yeah it is awful. But aren't you whining about whining people? Lol. Kidding. I had a schoolmate who's like this. He was never really a close friend but he still drove me nuts.
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@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
6 Apr 10
I have known many people like this in my lifetime. It's all negative stuff that comes out of their mouths. It all depends on my mood at the time. I will either grin and bear it or I will just tell them to stop being so pessimistic. People who are negative don't realize how boring and grim they make their lives. Instead of being optimistic and consider the glass half full instead of half empty.
@jewels49 (1776)
• United States
6 Apr 10
I have a friend and a couple of relatives that tend to be this way. If I am in the right mood I can actually entertain myself with them. I love to play devils advocate and these people are fun to do that with. Every negative thing they say I hand them a positive one on the same subject, or I point out someone else with worse..or real problems..if I can keep them going long enough they eventually quit complaining and stick to small talk, or they quit talkig all together..either way it is a win win for me.
