turning the lottery question around

Well, if they were near and dear to me and we were close, and they knew of my circumstances and problems..I feel they would probably just ask if they could help. But if not..I would hate to..but probably would ask, with the understanding that when I get on my feet that I can pay it back. With my mom I would have no worries..it is the rest of the family would probably have to ask..Just back in February we were getting everything shut off.. and everyone around us was getting their taxes..and blowing them..but we didn't ask..and thankfully I cashed out at all my sites enough to keep up barely afloat..but I didn't ask. and they knew my situation because we talked about..but I feel good knowing that did it on my own..even as hard as it was..

I would have to be very desparate to ask anyone for anything. I have never liked having to do that. I feel like u shouldn't have to ask if they know you are having troubles.

Years ago, a friend won $50,000 on a scratch ticket and he got rather upset when I told him I didn't expect any of it. I wasn't with him when he bought the ticket, and I didn't think our relationship was as close as he apparently did. By the same token, he didn't offer me any of it, just assumed I was entitled to a share of it. But if my next sister wins the big one, she has said numerous times that she will take care of me. I think my youngest sister would, too. Not too sure about my older one, though. (She never did like me.)

Hi dawn, If someone very close to me, family or friend had wonthe lottery, they would know what I am going through, so without any asking from, they will me out first because they know that I will never ask for anything, I always struggle on my own and has never in my life asked any friends or family to help out. The first and only time I have needed help was when I got my very first flat(apartment), whe I had to borrow some money from my mother, I paid my mother off in full, and since then I have never ask for help, my family and friends know that I am tpp proud and too stubborn, so they would help wether I like it or not. Tamara

Hi Dawn, relatives? Only if Dad's life or my child's life was at risk. I'd risk staying on roads rather than moving in with relatives or taking from them for that. As to friends, since I choose them, I know their natures. :) I know none of them would grudge me - in fact, they would come forward without me having to ask some monies the moment they learn of such things, as I have helped them in the past. So I think I am ok with friends. :) Here again, if I am alone, I might not take any help. But if I have to take care of my papa, I would. :)

Good one, dawnald! It would take A LOT for me to actually ask for help like that! My mother says she worries about me because she knows I'm not one to ask for help from anyone about anything - and it's pretty true! I think if someone near and dear to me won the lottery and I were desperate, I would "hope" that they would give us some monetary gift knowing our situation. But I don't know that I could get myself to actually ask for any moola . . . too much pride I think. That being said, if I did ask, I might ask for a loan and tell them I'd pay them back . . . and really mean it!

I don't think so. I wouldn't want the relationship turn into a money thing.

somebody'd have to be dying literally. i don't like owing anyone anything-even if they don't lean on you,you always feel obligated.i'd rather exhaust every option before going that route (yea,i'm stubborn).

Hi dawnald, Our family is really close. I had a pretty sizeable amount of cash several years ago. I helped my family out and never have asked for it back...not ever. I'm sure I would not even have to ask. As for asking my friends, I probably wouldn't because well, I have trouble asking for help from anyone. I can't picture myself even asking.

I'm not the type to ask people for help. What I do is complain to them about all the stuff going on in my life, and then hope they offer the money. I'll attempt to refuse, and if they insist, then I take it. I do not like asking for money, and I was raised to never accept a hand out, so I do my best to not ask for them. Everything will work itself out in the end, it always does.

I'd ask them if it was to help my sons but not for myself. If they were that close to me, I'd like to think they would offer anyway.

It would have to be a pretty desperate situation especially one that effects my children for me to ask something like that. I suspect that I might lose that friend for asking them to help me with money so it would definitely have to be about my children to risk a friendship like that .

Up until recently, I would have said that if it were close family, then I wouldn't have to ask for money that it would just be freely given. When I have gotten extra money, I have always given part of it to my close family, because I knew that they needed it - no strings attached. I always thought that they would be the same way, and I still think that certain members would be that way. Unfortunately, I have come to realize that not all of my family is like that, even when they have received a large sum of money and part of that money (a very small part) was owed to another family member, although they knew that the money was owed and such a small amount (in comparison to what they received) would substantially help the financial situation of the person to whom the money was owed. Now, I would say that I would have to be absolutely destitute and completely and totally desperate to ask certain people for anything. On the other hand, if I came into money, they definitely would not be on the list of people that I would help out either, and I don't care how desperately they needed the money. I would tell them that they could consider the debt that was owed to me as paid in full and leave it at that.

Normally, I would never go ask anybody for help, or money under regular circumstances. But seeing that this is a special case, him or her winning the lottery, I would go and ask (hey, I'm already desperate). I would also make my friend/relative that my asking for help is an acknowledgement of her/his winning! Spin it so it would look like it's his obligation to help. Hehe!

The only way I would ask is if one of my Children where really sick and did not have the money to pay for their Treatment or if Gissi had to have major treatments No way would I ask for any other reason those would be the only 2 reasons

If i win the lottery i will surely help my friends and people who are really need certain things. you have shared good things to us.

I am pretty open with my financial situation with friends and family. I feel that if they won I wouldn't even have to ask. It's a given to me that my family would help me out and I hope that my friends would. My friends and family know that I would help them if I won so I would expect return favors.

hey dawnW,... I really don't like other thinking that I am taking advantage of them. I'm not the type to just ask and ask just for the sake of getting what i want.. It would really be embarrassing but if my family really needs it why not? I don't really care mostly about my needs but of my loved ones...

Well I would. If it meant that I might lose my house or my children are in jeopardy, of course I'd ask. I'm sure they would understand. But of course I'm not oging to expect that they'd let me borrow the money. I know it would make me look like someone taking advantage of the situation, but if my family's life was at stake, I wouldn't care really what I looked like anymore. If the person can't understand that, well, that's not my problem. I'd have bigger problems to think about, and my image to them is the littlest of them. So yeah, I would ask my friend or my relative if ever I was in that situation.

Most people I know who won lottery, first thing they do is gather whole family for like a feast, celebration! then they give donations to church. If I am in really need of money I would surely come and ask him for any help. At least you are honest in what you need. I think every one has enough courage to do whatever it takes when life is at stake.