should i stay or should i go?

i know the intensity of your desire to get a comfortable life and to help your husband but as they say in court, it still boils down to, intensity to acquire and help or intensity of being there for your daughter? the first of the two choices sounds like something that you would regret forever if you don't do it. so that means you can sacrifice not being physically there for your daughter. daughters don't stay children forever but their regret of losing one of their parents to work, so much so in a far away country, is something they don't get over with. so much so if they feel that it is much more than to have the basic food, clothing and shelter they need. take it from me. i was there. peace .

Life is going to be hard when you choose to work away from your family for a very long time. Working abroad is a big decision, you should think about it first. Ask your husband if he's okay with it. Ask yourself if you can manage being away from your family for two years. Think of your child -- can you handle not being able to be there during her developmental stage? There are a lot of factors to consider, so think about it thoroughly. In the end, it will be up to you.

That would actually depend on a lot of things like the salary, the place, if someone is going to be with your daughter. Going abroad is not that easy anymore and you have to think about all the negative things which are happening there. I don't know exactly where you are planning to go so I couldn't go into details that much. In my opinion, it will only be worth leaving your family if you can earn triple than what your husband is earning here. If not, then I think you have to think it over. Remember that the reason why you want to go is money so it should be worthy. You can find work here in the Philippines and in that case you don't have to leave your family. Now if you'll go to a place like Canada maybe or Australia where you can have the opportunity to bring your family someday I think it's worthy enough.

I know it can be a very hard decision to make to leave your little girl at home and go for work. And to make matters worse, you wanna go abroad for 2 years. I know a lot of women who do that, leave their family alone and go to another country for work. They have been doing this for years. So understand this that you are not the only one to do this, there are many women who do this only for the sake of their child leading a better life. You must let your daughter know that you are going only for her sake so that she has a better lifestyle. Also I would recommend you to go to babyzone.com and there look out for this article called, " The Guiltless guide for working mom. I will message you the link. This is a good article, that explains why a working mother should not feel guilty about leaving her child at home for work.

do not make the mistake to leave your family and especially your little daughter for two years with the only reason to earn money abroad you'll regret it for all your life have you even discussed it with your husband? better find some part-time job in the neighbourhood

It's worthy in a way that you will be able to save money and help your hubby to pay your house mortgage but is it worthy to lost your time with your daughter and hubby? what i mean is your time with your daughter is so precious and kids grows fast. Will you risk losing that time for the sake that you can save money? And do you think your hubby would be willing to be seperated with you for that long? I know that this a tough decision to make and a lot of things to consider. I just hope that no matter what will be your decision, it will the best for you, your lovely daughter and your hubby. Have a nice day!

It depends on a lot of things. How old your daughter is. Are you sure that you can earn well enough in 2 years staying away from the family to make things better. You need to consider your expenses too. If you can get a well paying job abroad that working 2 years will be enough to save money, then why not find a similar job in your home country?

I can see why you would want to do what you could to help your family financially, but I don't think that leaving your husband and your daughter for the next two years would be the right way to go about it. As your daughter is growing older, she is going to need you to be there for her, and being gone for two years could even mean that she might not remember you when your returned home. See if there is something that you can do in the area that you live in and let your daughter spend some time in daycare.

If the amount of money that your husband is earning is not enough to sustain your needs then its means you really have to make an important decision and live your family behind so you can help your husband with some finances. When I would have my own kids, I also wanted to stay there and be there for them and take care of them but if my help is needed by my husband then I just have to make a sacrifice. Anyway, later on I think you will still be able to do something about it.

I would say "no". Of course, it also depends on how old your daughter is. If she's young, my answer is "no". If she's in her late teens, "maybe". But why aren't you looking for a job locally where you could be with your husband and your daughter? Leaving to work abroad for two years without your family just doesn't make much sense to me, if they're the focus of your life.

I would never ever dream of travelling away from my family. The family should be placed first in everything, money is second best! Besides I used to say i would return back to work after the kids grow up but nowadays i think i might find it too hard to do as after all life is easier this way, less stressful and at the end of the day i am earning some money online, better than nothing. till now we have managed fine with just one salary. in the past it was this way too , most women stayed at home after all. the problem with today's modern society and life is that we yearn for too many things materially and aesthetically that strictly speaking we can do withiout... for example is it worth it to get up to work every day with all the pressure and stress and less time spent with kids , to then use money to go for a vacantion abroad? in my opinion it isnt!

personally i don't like the idea of going abroad to earn money because money can't buy the lost time between you and your family, it's not all about money, its about how you would sacrifice your budget to earn something

I definitely don't think that working abroad is the answer. Think how much you will miss your kids and your husband and how much you will miss out on. That is time that you will never be able to get back. If I were you, I would first look for a part-time job to see if you even like working outside of the home and then maybe advance to a full-time job. This would bring in extra money, you would feel like you were contributing to the family financially and you would get a sense of self-worth outside of the home. Going abroad to work seems extreme in this scenario IMO.

for me you should stay at home because for us mother, it is very important that our kids is always beside on us so that we can look forward a they grow. Through this we can guide them in everything that they do in their lives and for them also to feel that we are always right there beside them.

i don't think it's worthy to work abroad leaving your family for totally two years.it's a huge challenge not only to you but also to your family. your daughter would lose two years' care for her mother.if she's in teenage,that's even worse for your daughter.and think about yourself,you'll miss your child and family,life abroad will probably hard for you. so i suggest finding a job in your local town and so you can have enough time to take care of your daughter and your family.after all,the time you spend with your family is much more precious . hope that will be helpful.

I was also a stay-at-home mom looking to help out financially. I don't think it's going to be worth working abroad without seeing your family. If you have been sahm for 4 years you & your daughter must be close and she may have a difficult time adjusting to your 2yr absence. Maybe apply for part time work in your area. Have you ever considered working from home? I've been working from home part time for the past year and enjoy what i do. If you do consider working from home be sure to talk with other moms who are working from to get some information before making a decision. If you ever want some information on what i do feel free to visit my site or contact me at www.internetceomoms.com/mobra I wish you the best.