When I say YES, it means YES, NO, MAYBE!!!

@Theresaaiza (10487)
Australia
April 7, 2010 4:39am CST
It's been known for a long time how baffling the female mind can be sometimes. Not to generalize but it does happen often to most of us, women. NOTE: Men, you are likewise welcome to give an answer. We don't always mean what we say. But sometimes, we mean them. When we say yes, it means yes, sometimes, it means No, sometimes it means maybe. When we say NO, it could mean, Yes, Maybe, or no. When we say Maybe, it could mean No, Yes, or Maybe. You are getting what I mean perfectly, aren't you? The point is, we are plainly confusing. Do you expect people to read your mind? To read between the lines? To note the yes in your NO, or your NO in your yes? Or are you straightforward and honest with your choices because too much mystery is a waste of your time?
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
7 Apr 10
I'm going to have my husband read your discussion. You've explained the yes/no/maybe syndrome very thoroughly. I couldn't do better. Maybe when we really mean no, we just have to stamp our foot when we say it?
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
8 Apr 10
I think they tried to mimic them a few years ago. Isn't that what 'break dancing' was?
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
9 Apr 10
Or perhaps a bit of tap dancing! LOL
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
8 Apr 10
That gives a lot of meaning to the phrase, "More than words!". We need other gestures to back us up! Men will go crazy reading all those gestures! Nyahahahaha
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@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
11 Apr 10
I pretty much say what I mean, and my yes means yes and my no means no - but that doesn't mean that I can't change my mind - later.
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@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
11 Apr 10
I can sometimes be so slow to make up my mind that it will drive people (generally speaking Maggiepie) crazy - but that is also a good sign that my mind isn't working at its top speed too and is probably NOT a good time to ask me to make a choice.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
11 Apr 10
The problem with me is, I tend to change my mind as fast as I blink, driving other people crazy!
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
14 Apr 10
Poor Maggiepie! Ficklemindedness is actually really common among women.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Apr 10
theresaaiza well for me i want to empathize that when I say no I mean no as in no, do not go there , do not do that, do not ask me to do that, in essence its what do you not understand about the word no? Yes sometimes we are upset and our hubbies beg us t o tell them whats the trouble, well usually I do not want to because my hubby always had to solve everything even if I all I really wanted was him to hear my upset andjust be there for me, do not solve anything, just listen to me, not a problem just a feeling and all I want is your to listen do not do anything please do not do anything. I am sure others have felt this too we did not want to be patted on the head and hubby just fix it all up we just wanted to share an upset or a feeling do not do a thing but just listen to us once in a while. he he.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
9 Apr 10
I get what you mean. Maybe men just think that there are always concrete solutions to all problems. But us women feel a lot of struggles which can only be pacified by listening ears or a comforting presence, even without doing anything solid about it! Very true.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Apr 10
When I say NO it means argue with me and try and talk me around. NOT... As far as expecting people to read my mind, I only get like this when it's something I've told the person before repeatedly and I'm just tired of them not getting it.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Apr 10
I do agree Dawn when I say no it mean n o as in what do you not understand about the word no, n o?
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
9 Apr 10
Oh I'd get really impatient easily. I want people to get the meaning of what I say right away. Sometimes, when I don't say anything at all, that means NO. I think I did cause a lot of miscommunications at home all through my entire lifetime.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
8 Apr 10
Oh, no, dawn, I won't argue with you! have a nice day!
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@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
9 Apr 10
When I say "yes", I mean "yes", and when I say "no", I mean "no". However, I may also mean,"I'm saying yes (or no) because that's what you want me to say, but I'm not happy about it and wish you'd change your mind. After 54 years, I know what you're thinking.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
10 Apr 10
I also get what you mean, bellis. We are only forced to say some things because we are left with no choice.
@sunil_008 (1269)
• India
7 Apr 10
hi, i don't really know how to reply this one.i think your yes and no's all depend upon the type s and moods(guess work). so most of the times it becomes difficult to understand what exactly the woman wants. if there is a may be in a yes and yes in a no then there would be 2 outcomes on the whole issue. and as a man i think i would get confuse to a situation like this. well, if there is a no in yes and yes or may be in a no then i guess god will also take a pen and paper to calculate what it is exactly. well to do so he also need time and we are just the mere men....so enjoy the blessings of nature...
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
8 Apr 10
"i think your yes and no's all depend upon the type s and moods" - and we women happen to be very moody! Men will always have trouble reading through the meaning of what we say.
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@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
7 Apr 10
Iam straightforward and honest. Yes= yes, no= no, maybe = maybe. Not to say that sometimes your mind can not be changed at a later time to something else.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
8 Apr 10
My mind is like that most of the time, very changeable, very fickle. That's why I keep sending out all the wrong crazy signals. Yes means yes or something else. But you have a great attitude towards deciding on things. Keep it up.
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@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
I admit that I am like that, I belong to the species of womanhood. I really have a confusing mind. My boyfriend is always confused with my decisions. So when I say NO he already knows what I mean in that is YES, and when I say YES, he already knows it that its a NO. WAhhhhhhh... Good thing my boyfriend knows how to read my gestures. If he saw me making faces, for sure there is something on my mind that I need to let out. So he always give me sometime, in order for me to speak out. He knows how to handle or manage my tantrums. He simply knows me...
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
7 Apr 10
Why, what a remarkable boyfriend you have! Believe me, we can only marvel at gifted male individuals who can read through a woman's thoughts. However, that's only 2% of the male population. The rest of the 98% either just couldn't understand women, or refuse to! Anyway, don't take my statistics too seriously!
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