Do love triangles happen in real life?
By lady Di
@lady1993 (27224)
Philippines
April 7, 2010 5:33am CST
I have been watching a lot of romance movies in my life... And I'm just wondering if love triangles really do happen in real life? Are they as dramatic as in the movies. As far as I've observed, in a love triangle one of the people involved in it always dies so the other two can have a happy ending; or one of them just gives up so that the one he or she loves can be happy.
I can say that love triangles do happen in real life- my friend was involved in one, the two guys almost fought but the other gave way [the other 2 got together and they've been dating for over 5 years now]..and there was this one time that there was really a big fight over one girl...
So who else is in a love triangle right now?
4 people like this
23 responses
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
7 Apr 10
Hi Lady,
Oh yes, love triangles definitely do happen in real life and they can be every bit as dangerous and dramatic as what you probably see in the movies. I really don't know why people put themselves and others in those situations because the outcome is almost never good. Sometimes the slighted person will peacefully and quietly walk away but all too often even a normally peaceful person will freak out. It's always best to break it off with the person you are with first before starting to see someone else. Even when you break things off, it's good to give a bit of time before seeing another person so that you can heal from the previous relationship as well as the other person. How often do you hear of a crazed ex going after his ex's new boyfriend? All too often.
1 person likes this
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
dear lady,
it is true that love triangle happens in real life. usually two girls and one boy. now you know whose fault it is. saying goes they row their boat in two rivers. and it is impossible that way especially if the other person in the triangle do not believe that it will succeed. mostly it ends up in heart breaks.
have a nice day.
ann
1 person likes this
@xGuilt (26)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
i believe this Love triangle thing because it happened to me just recently just months ago, and boom they ended up together my friend and her while i was kicked out of the triangle. it kinda bothers me that she thinks that for her im only her older brother and she's my litle sister even though we're the same aged.
1 person likes this
@replyashu (745)
• India
7 Apr 10
yes they do happen, it has happened with me quite a few times
at times i were the center of the triangle
and at times i was part of it
and at times i was of of the side
i have experienced it in real life, so can say it is natural
TATA
@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
Yes it happened, it happened to whom I knew. I knew them because their children are my friends. What had happen to their parents was so unexpected. In fact, I often saw them together in the park. But lately I have know that the guy left and go with the other woman. The kids were miserable and was very sad(naturally). One day they tried to visit their father but nothing happened, their father was deeply tied with the other woman already. Their Mom was so depressed but, was
1 person likes this
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
9 Nov 10
They do happen in real life, and the outcome of something like this is never a good outcome. That said, my mother was involved in one with the first boyfriend that she had after my father passed away. There was her and another woman as well as the man. In the end, I don't think that he ended up with either of them. My mom was greatly hurt by this relationship, but she was able to recover from the relationship so that was a good thing in the situation.
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
Yes, they actually do happen in real life too, most of our friends sometimes tend to be a lil bit closer to us. That sometimes feelings grow out of this closeness.When we start feeling something much more than friendship then thats the sign that your slowly getting yourself in trouble and maybe interfering in a relationship already. Sometimes things happen for a reason, maybe you dont intent to do it, but somehow someway it still happens.Every now and then i always hear people experiencing love problems because of a third party, i think its common nowadays. Thats why you really need to be more loyal and trust each other in a relationship in order to at least lessen the possibility of love triangles .But its a fact that it does exist.
@RoseYap (51)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
Yes it sometimes happen, i believe it so. But not dramatic as in the movies, coz u know sometimes people think practically, no need to be greedy when it comes to love, they often think about that, why do i have to chase him if he chose the other one, but still i have a feelings for him, do i need to fight for it? Thats why there was called "Third Party" when it comes to relationship, but Third party has a lot of meanings: the one who is on the top of the triangle was giving his/her love with a two person equally and he/she both love them. It happen to me right now, I have this boy on my side, but there is a girl on the other side that flirting my boy, even if i was here with my boy, she always act like my boy girlfriend, yes sure i am jealous but i am on the right place to be jealous, my boyfriend really dont like it too, but he just dont want to break the friendship with that girl, i respect it too. He just dont let me see the messages of that girl for him. I just hope this girl wont take advantage my respect for her friendship with my boyfriend, i really dont want to break it Because i have also friends that is boy, but i dont flirt with them. i have boundaries when it comes being sweet, unlike her.
1 person likes this
@farkirikofar (140)
• Indonesia
7 Apr 10
i'm not currently in a love triangle, but once my teacher told me a story about two girls that had a big fight over one guy, until teachers have to break the two. for me, love triangles happen, but the ending just never as happy or sad as in movies like you said. almost all love triangles i heard about ended ugly.
1 person likes this
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
7 Apr 10
HI Lady1993, reality is stranger than fiction. One has to remember that most movies are based on fiction, and though the story is a moving one it rarely happens in reality. I don't lik love triangles. If the other person is undecided, I will give her space to decide bu I will never be the second option.
@Candymin (145)
• China
7 Apr 10
I completely agree with you, Ronaldinu.
In my opinion, never let youself be into emotional triangles. It is truly a miserable thing for both side. If the other person involved hasn't determined his heart, I would give him time and space to make a decision. It is much more fair to both of us. Reality is reality, very much different from fiction or movies.
Happy forever!
@dasiejanie (590)
• United States
8 Apr 10
This love triangle is hard on the person left out,
or the person who removed themselves from the
picture. My 24 yr old son dated a girl for 7 years
they grew up together in love. Well he got into trouble
went to jail, she gave up on him then, but right before
he was to be released she started visiting him, talking
on the phone, she said she still loves him, even though
shed gotten engaged while he was in jail. The other guy
was in the service, to make along story short, she told my
son she wasn't going to stay with the other guy, she cancelled
the wedding, my son was out of jail by that time, she came
over all the time, then she goes to visit the other guy in Seattle
comes back starts coming over again, then we find out she
asked the one in the service to marry her!!! We confronted her and
we haven't heard from her since... Sad
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
10 Apr 10
Nothing in a movie is real. Even movies based on actual events, are only 'based' on actual events, and generally fiction.
Now are there love triangles? Sure. But in real life, love triangles rarely have a happy ending. At least, out of all the love triangles I know personally, not one had a happy ending. In fact, most of the time, all three people involved end up hurt and bitter.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
For me not happen in me but in other person they happened because they don't content only one,two they want more.
@mae_dyrish (237)
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
Love triangles, well for me it really happens i have experiencing this feeling of being betrayed with my best friend. We were best friend for 3 years in highschool, i have a crush to a guy but sad to say all i thought that guy really loves me but all of the sudden i have heard that he is courting to my bestfriend. He just using me for him to be with my friend, and it really hurts to be threatened like that. As days passed by , i just received the news that my friend and crush was in a relationship and it really hurts but still i accepted my bestfriend even though of what she did i still understand the situation. I know there are lots of guys that is deserving for my love. And and now they we're not together,my bestfriend married another man.
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
9 Nov 10
yes, there are lots of guys in the world that truly deserve you more. I think friendship is more important than love- but you don't really have to choose between both of them. At least you still have your friends, guys- they just come and go until you find the right one.
@Libertywu (136)
• China
9 Nov 10
hi, i don't know how to comment when i see your topic and content. Because i'm in the love triangle at this moment. I have no idea how to choose in two guys. No matter who i choose, the other will be hurt. To be honest, i would like myself to be hurt rather than them. Some people said, Be love is something, love is nothing. But i can't enjoy the feeling of being loved. Love triangle is really a dilemma.