what is my sons behaviour problem

I went on a 8 week course and in the time that i was on that course i learnt alot of different things on that to do with how the child feels about things and not just how the parent or other people feel and it made a lot of sense even with a child with adhd it made alot of sense.Its not a cure trying things that are sugested,but it do open your eyes to how a child sees things.I have been offered alot of help aswell as advice from people who deal with problems in children aswell as all the usual things that all parents have tried and there are things aswell as people out there that can help.The system to get to see the people is a fight on its own and unless there are big problems like in school or anti social problems then the only other person you can get to so you get to see the people that may help is the dr of your son as they can do a referral.It took me nearly a year in total,thats a year after he had kicked the teachers,ran off from the teachers,smashed the class room up constantly all in school and that is with out the not sleeping etc here.I had photos,written reports,folders crammed full by the teacher in the school aswell as parents in the school trying to kick my son out of the school.My son had to listen to the parents aswell as the children repeating what the parents were saying all day every day,that did not help him.I was and i still am thinking of taking him out of the school,but with the adhd clinic backing me all of the way i am sitting back as now the school have got all these people watching them to see if they are doing all that they can for both of my sons.Grit your teeth and go to the drs if you know this is not normal for a child to be like that ask to have him referred or re referred.Your dr is there for you and your sons health.

After reading this discussion the answers/posts I think our friends are right and your son needs professional help. You and he both will benefit from the help the drs. can give. One thing tho, do not blame yourself. Hang in there and get the help you boy needs. many hugs and prayers, quita

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I know for sure that if my child had such a list of problems I would not ask for a diagnosis from a website forum. You have your own type of Obama Care in the UK so why not take him to a doctor and get some medical answers?

Sounds to me like ADHD and possibly autism. But take him to a professional, please...

If you can get him diagnosed,you will get all sorts of help . My nephew is ADHD and gets a classroom helper at school. The wetting himself thing maybe unintentional but i know how frustrating it is for him as I was a bed wetter till I was 10 years old and I would have loved to have stopped it but it wasn't by choice. It was discovered to be a muscle problem in my case,thankfully neither of my kids had the same problem.

It really sounds like he could be adhd, or also could have something tragic happen and is acting out. The doctors won't help you? I would definitely request his doctor to refer him to someone that might be able to help. Don't let them just shrug you off. Good luck to you.

A lot of the problems you are having match the way my niece was as a child could it be possible he is autistic. My niece was not diagnosed with autism until she was 13 and it took my sister a lot of pushing and insisting that there was something wrong to get that diagnosed. They decided that she had a learning disability at five but not until her nursery teachers had wrote her off as being lazy. I do not know if this will help but a lot of autistic children (if that is what is wrong) like a routine and hate to have breaks in their routine. Does he seem better when he has a routine to stick to. I know my niece does. I hope that you succeed in getting the right help for your son I know how difficult it can be as I have seen my sister go through it all. Good luck I hope that you get some answers soon.

hi doormouse I am sure no health expert but it could be your child is another one who is autistic. you are going to have to go to your primary care doctor and find out what is wrong. He will probably send you to the proper specialist. this person can check your son out and tell you just what is ca using him to act this way. You c annot just handle this on your own as you need to know what exactly is wrong and how to help him. good luck God bless.

Hey ses so like me you know with great leadership qualities as well as arrogance . Some things touche me like i as well used make my bed wet , when i was born i was suffering from something! which was a result of very less exposure to sun of my mom... hEy but Since when i have shifted to inDia i have made a lot remarkable improvements and yeah that problem with playing more than 1 kid is troublsome for if its too long, its normal for kids like us.. See we desire to be leaders when were a group and when we arent able to become then we feel extremely down and that is surely the reason i used to be jealous with every other human beaing around but thank gOd that was my childhood and the only thing that cured me was my being always ahead of everyone and the leader in every group i am... What i suggest (not a gud idea as your the mom here) is boost him up and motivate him to get that extra edge to climb over others, i wasnt good in studies, never but i was intelligent and smart, my mum never believed that though .. She still thinks im a Kid but believe me im Happy that i confront yet someone like me again. Were rare but very important species lol. No seriously i can promise you this that when your kid will start rocking you will be so proud of Him like my mum does . Let me guess he is great in every field he gets in right !! like swimmming , riding, playing pool or anything he likes , he might be great in it and would try to be best at it, If yes then were brothers and i just got a new mOm , HI mum!!! Cheers and how are you ...

ask the doctor or the children advisor you must be prays alot, give n say that u love ur son. never give up, bcoz he is a gift for u, u must be patience you must be very strong n special parents so god give u this special child he is only 8years old. dont give him sugar, sugar makes him more active n the energy he waste will alot more destructive, only at certain hour u may give it as a present if he have alot energy use it to do sport activity, such football, or other give him list structure, n u n him must follow the structure every hour must have a mean, i hope this little can a bit help thanks

The best place to go for help is the school where he attends, as they are the people that can back up what you are saying.I would take a report from the school to the dr and see what he can do to help.The dr tends to refer children to mental health for his age and they are the people that will say if he has anything or if he needs help in every day life.If he has these problems you are lucky he has not been excluded from school, or worse still had to go to another school, even with a reason or name for the cause.