My Younger Brother Wedding! What can I do?
@lovelysassygirl (256)
Philippines
April 8, 2010 3:52am CST
My younger Brother's wedding will be happen this year. Im so happy for him. And Im happy too especially He told me that I will be the Bride Maid. He asked his gf for it. And good to hear that His gf likes the IDEA since we are friend also. And the BestMan will be his gf's cousin. That the arrangement between them. Now my elder Brother demand that HE want to be the BestMan. Because He thinks that he MUST be the one not me, he said we are in the groom side not the bride side. I really dont know why suddenly my elder brother demand it. In the first place He never treat us as his sibling. He never been good to us. He never been close to us. I guess he really want to destroy the wedding! He dont like to hear any explaination. Sometimes Im thinking for the sake of my brother wedding,I will giving up. But it really hurt too much for me. Why? 8years ago my brother want me to be his specially person in his big day. He promise me that I will be his maid of honor. I know that my younger brother dont want He to be the bestman in the first place they never been close. You know the feeling that "you know is yours" and then suddenly will take away from you. It hurts. But what can I do? Just giving up just not to destroy the wedding or Be selfish person.
4 responses
@saizo6 (2199)
• United States
13 Apr 10
Wow, congrats to your younger brother. Mine is getting married later this month so I kind of know what your feeling. But that issue with your older brother is really a mood dampening thing. I honestly think that he's being too demanding. He really doesn't have any rights to demand to be the Best Man. It's your younger brother's choice on who he wants to choose for that role. And you shouldn't have to give up your spot either. That's just wrong. It's doesn't matter that your on the groom's side of the family. If the bride is happy with the arrangement and you guys are friends then it's no big deal. You guys should really get this worked out soon though. The longer it's left unresolved the more tension it'll cause for everyone.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
Congratulations to you brother! I felt the same way when my sister got married but I didnt feel that way when my younger brother got married cause I knew that he was gonna stay home with us after his wedding.
I dont think that your brother is being taken away from you. I think he's marriage is going to add something to the thing you call yours cause your going to have a new sister and that's his wife. And after a few months another thing will be in your "yours" list and that's going to be your nephew or maybe a niece. My father always is happy when we get married even though he knew that we have to move away with our families but he thinks about it as a blessing cause someone is added in the family.
@pandaeyes (2065)
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8 Apr 10
It is your brother and his girlfriend who must decide as it is their special day, not the other brother's.
You don't have to give up being the brides maid as that is a completely different thing anyway,you are there to give female support to the bride.
It sounds like your older brother is jealous about the gf's cousin being the best man.
Do you have the tradition of giving away the bride?
That is more the sort of thing the older brother would do but that would be on the brides side of the family, not the grooms side.
He is thinking that he should be your brothers best man perhaps because he is related but I think the grooms best man is usually his best friend or a close friend not just a relation who is male,it must be someone he really wants to have there.
