Child Support
By Lochoa
@Lochoa (222)
United States
April 8, 2010 4:38pm CST
My husband says he may have gotten this girl pregnant like 14-15 years ago but the girl "ran away" when she was like 3 months pregnant. I think it was more like a fling than a relationship when she got pregnant but he hasn't seen or heard from her since then. Well actually he said he seen her about 10 years ago and she had a 2-3 year old daughter, enough to be the baby she was pregnant with but she denied having a kid when he asked her about it. Weird. And about the time she was still pregnant my husband asked a friend of hers what ahppened to the baby and they said she had an abortion but then after he seen her with a daughter and she denied it being hers he's been questioning her honesty.
He barely knew this girl and they were both VERY young when all this happened after she ran away he heard she had the abortion and got into drugs and all this. He wonders that if if she had the baby and not the abortion that she can come back for child support after all these years? Is this possible?
2 responses
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
8 Apr 10
Yep, I'm pretty sure it would be possible. If she demanded he took a blood test and it showed that he was the father it would be very likely that the courts would award her child support, even back support for all the missed years. In some ways it seems really unfair but if it's his child then he should be responsible for it too. Hopefully it will never come to that and you guys wont have to worry about it.
@Lochoa (222)
• United States
8 Apr 10
I feel as though it would be unfair b/c she hid it this whole time. My husband and I have been together for 11 years. I feel bad for the daughter, if there is one though. For her mother to keep something like this hidden for so long but from the sound of her it doesn't seem like she's a good person at all. After she ran away my husband heard so much about who she really was I told him maybe she was sleeping around or maybe she just made it up who knows. When you're young like that you do stupid things but I feel bad for my husband too b/c he can't not think about it when fathers day comes around and stuff like that but he's wouldn't be up to finding the mom now and asking her if she has a daughter for a paternity test.
I rarely think about this b/c it's all so "what if" but I was watching MTV today and one of there episodes had this "father looking for their daughter" so it just had me think about this.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
9 Apr 10
It might not be morally fair, but it would be legally. If she's 'hid' it this long then she will probably never come out with it - if it's even true, like you said. But it she does and it is his then your husband has every right to get to know his daughter if that's what he wanted. It doesn't have to be a one way street where this woman gets money from him and he gets nothing at all in return.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Apr 10
Yeah, if she had it and if she can prove paternity, she could come back for child support. But how likely is that if she hasn't done it so far?
