Is it difficult for you ask some one to return you what he/she took?

Just recently I asked my friend to return the money she borrowed from me, it took me a more than 2 months to keep on asking about it. Good thing we have cellphone nowadays, I could easily ask them about the money they borrowed. Way back before I could not do it face to face, so I just let them have my money and let's forget the rest of the history. Because of the cellphone it helps me to keep on asking the things or money that hey borrowed from me. That's all...

Doesnt bother me to ask. If they dont give it back, I'll drive to their house and ask them to give it now because I need it. I dont feel embarrassed at all as Im not the one being wrong, I was nice enough to lend them something, so how dare they not give it back when I want it. Its the same as if a robber were to walk in your house and take something.....you wouldnt let him now, would you? I also live by what I believe in, if I need to borrow something, I give it back ASAP and thank the person for being so nice.

I tend to have the biggest problem asking people for the money they owe me. When I need some one to pay me back due to being short on cash myself, or due to the fact that it has been well past the timein which the person was supposed to pay me back i feel like a pest when I ask for it. Some people you have to hound to get anything returned. A quick example I have is about 5 months ago I made the mistake of selling my laptop to a cowoker and agreed to allow him to make payments to me. BIG MISTAKE!! Not only was he not paying me when he was supposed to, when things went sour at work he decided he wasnt going to give me the last $100 he owes me. Sometimes I guess we just have to bite the bullet!

This eould have to depend on the item and my relationship with this person. It seems the closer we are to someone the more difficult it is to have confrontations that don't end in disaster.

Hi,there.I feel so difficult to ask someone to return me whay he /she took especialy the money. I seldom borrow things from others cause I feel uncomfortable when I boorow things.I would rather lend things to others ,anything I have.But I just can't understand why there are some people don't return them to me.I usually wouldn't take them back initiatively unless my urgent need.

For things like books, gadgets at home, or office necessities I can easily ask the borrower if I need the thing back. But for money matters, yes I find it very, very difficult and really oftentimes, do not ask the borrower to return it to me anymore. I can only ask my own brothers or sister if they were the ones who borrowed from me. Other than them, I can't do it anymore and just leave it to the borrower if he/she still returns the money or not. But of course I find it more difficult to again lend money if I knew he/she will not return it anymore. Since it will be "charged to experience", that experience will serve as a warning guide for me to learn who to trust and who not to. Again with the exception of those people who borrow only a few bucks and obviously who are just maybe too shy to admit they really need your financial help and politely borrow from time to time and might want to return the money but just CAN'T afford to anymore. My mom always tells me, It is better to give than to receive. If many asks for your financial help, it means you are blessed financially. The more blessings you share, the more blesssing you will still receive." :)

I have no problem asking someone to return something. I don't like to pester them, but I will ask them at least once a week until it is returned. At the end of the day it is your property and you were doing them a favour, so they should respect the fact that you want the item or the money back. When I lend someone something, I tend to say "you can lent it until -insert date-" and when it gets to that date I ask for it back. Doing it this way means that the person I leant it to is not surprised by my request and I can claim that I need to back for a specific reason, which is why I asked for it to be returned for that date.

Hi udayrao, It is hard to ask someone to return what ever they have borrow from us especially when it is happen for quite a while. I do not know but I did not like to do that especially if it is our own friends do that. I might not feel it to difficult to ask for some thing like books, gadget etc etc, but I would find it too difficult when its come to money. I feel shy to ask for it even though it is my money that I want it back. I try not to make my friends feel embarrass because of my action. If I had to do it because I really need that money, I will make sure there is only him or her and me in that place. Some argument might happen when he or she forgot it and even worst if they say they have paid it all. Some people just hard to understand. When they need it, they would come to use with their sweetest smile but when it is time to return it back, they just forget it.

You must have heard of this saying "Neither a borrower nor a lender be as you will lose both money and friend". You will have by this learnt the lesson of your life and that you would be careful in the future.

As far as I am concerned, I think it will be a little difficult for me to ask the someon else to return me waht he took. I think I will a little shy to say the thing out of my mouth. I may just do not say it .Just keep it a secret as it is.have a nice day.

It's true that, for example when you are a kid, you don't care that much about consequences, so it's easy to ask for lent things to be given back. However, now it's very difficult for me. I always think if that person will feel offended or think that I'm not trusting him or her, or even that I'm trying to pressure that person... a complicated thing, the human mind.

Hi udayrao2, Yes it can be awkward sometimes especially if the item in question is money. But then it also matters how badly you need that item back. You might just have to over come that fear.

I try not to loan things to people for this very reason. I hate feeling like I'm pestering people about returning things. At the same time, if it's something I need, I'll keep asking about it until I get it back. There are certain people that I will not loan things to no matter what. They either never returned what I loaned them last time or took a really long time to give it back to me.

It depends on the person who borrowed. If we're not that close, I tend to be shy to ask them to return what they took from me.

This is very irritating ;people borrow our things and we end up asking them as though we are the borrowers and they are hesitating to give us soemthing.When I was in school, I had read a prose extract "Umbrella Morals"[forget who wrote this].Essentailly, it these morals refer to the owning of another person's umbrella, books etc.., I have great difficulty in asking things back anD I had also lost one cassette like this, long back.My husband has pointed this out many times to me and showed how foolish I had behaved.If it is some precious book of mine I would keep it under lock an d key and not tell anyone I have something.

hi udayrao2 yes I really do as it is not like I am an extrovert so'when someone borrows something and does not give it back I just keep hoping that this person will realize its time to return it. finally I will go and ask but I hate having to do that . really hate it.

Indeed nowadays it is so difficult to get something back from a friend stuff that they have borrowed. But what I do is I try to find ways on how I could ask it from them without having them feel that they haveno intentions returning them. I always think of how would they feel because of course I would not like that to happen to me as well. So, maybe just find grounds on asking them nicely would be the best thing to do even if it is so difficult especially when we are referring to monetary.

Yeah there are a lot of people that you lend stuff for and then they act like you never did. Or they take their sweet time in returning it. So much time that you feel like that you have to say something to get them to return it. The problem is, trying to find a way to communicate that you want that thing back without coming across as being too pushy. Say too much and you could come across as being in the wrong. I rarely lend things to people anymore. No matter how much they beg, I refuse, because there is a chance that I might never see that again. Mostly money, in fact, many times money, but there are other things as well. Perhaps it is just my experiences, but people are very bad in returning things at a very timely manner. And asking for it can be a bit frustrating, as they act like they were going to get around with it eventually, despite it being several weeks. So yes, it is hard to ask but I take care of that problem by never lending anything to anyone.

as for me it depends on the person who i am asking to return my things if that is my close friend or my relative , family it is very difficult and i think i can not manage to do it but it is just a normal friend or someone you know so it is fine , i can do it right away just think to take back what is mine.

for me is not embarrassing, i will surely ask someone to return what he/she borrowed to me because its my right and he/she also promise to return it so whats the difficult about this thing, its your right and you must do what is right