I am feeling the need of being appreciated.

I can understand you bamra. I think the power of appreciation is enormous and we all need it from time to time. Be it in the work place or at our home appreciation is an incentive that gets us going and make us sweeter, more lovable and make us love the work we do. However, having said this, never count on anyone. Life us like that, since the time I have stopped expecting from others I am better off. Pamper yourself once in a while. Get off the drudgery, let go, buy yourself dresses, chocolates, books, go for a lavish spa session or whatever makes you happy. And dear, you are the best. I really appreciate all your endeavor. Never feel down for something that's not in your hands.

Lack of appreciation from your loved ones will surely weigh you down but that is not the be all and end all of existence. Appreciation is a kind of bonus and so to say frills around us but there is more to life than bonuses and frills. We need to please ourselves which in fact gives us the kind of push that we need to move on. To be able to live we need to perform certain duties and duties done to the best of our ability can and will give you comfort to move on.

Kirti dear! I for one know how hard you work, how dedicated you are to your family an d job.Don't worry about your inlaws.They may take you for granted .Your husband may realise it within his heart , but his ego may not be willing to give you a kind word of recognition.Everyone needs recognition be it a man or woman.He may aso have some problems.If he is a good man otherwise,[without worrying about your inlaws]you concentrate on your husband and as long as you keep doing your duty without expecting this recognition at this stage it may come to you some time later in life.Don't worry. Some people cannot give a word of appreciation.YOu know that the food you cooked with care is good.You just get pride of performance , get the satisfaction of having achieved something-it will all be alright.You yourself would feel good.You did it for the sake of doing something wll.That is enough. Nevr lose dpirit on account o this.You do your best in office and at least htere you may command greater respect than what you do at home.

Firstly tell your husband to help you. You shouldn't have to do two jobs: the job your employed to do and be a house keeper at the same time. If your husband doesn't have a job then he should be doing all the housework, if he does have a job then you's should be splitting it down the middle. This extra time can be used to play with your kids. If your husband is a lazy guy then maybe you can get your kids to help you keep house and make it into a game. "Who can put there toys into the box the quickest gets a prize" etc.

Well I am sure your family appreciates your efforts but are maybe just less vocal about it. Sometimes appreciation comes out during occasions when there are family gatherings. Like my parents, we write them cards on Christmas or birthdays saying Thank You for all they have done. Then they'll realize that we did appreciate even their mere presence.

Short term wise: I think you should have some ice cream :) Ice cream or chocolate is proven to make someone happy for a while. Long term wise: I think you should get a book that you can read on your free time to make yourself feel better. You can add new songs in your ipod every week to keep yourself motivated. You can plan a game night with your husband and kids during the weekend so there is family togetherness time.

I do understand how you feel. It is usually the case especially for working mothers. You are not alone and many of the working moms feel the same way as you do. I know that because you wanted to provide for your family and to take care of them well, you have given even more than a hundred percent of your efforts. I know you love them so much. I commend you for that, it is a very big job you got there.. being an employee, a mother, a wife, a daughter-in-law and other roles you play all at the same time. It is a stressful job but you manage to do all that! Wow and whew! No wonder you felt exhausted and saturated! I think that is why you have felt unappreciated and unfulfilled. It is because you have given all your time to work and family. Please give yourself time too. I suggest you make time for yourself, have the time to enjoy also like doing what you love to do as leisure. For example, if you have a set of close friends.. have some time to go and socialize with them. Play sports if you have one. Do gardening or any hobbies you love. Or you could get a massage or go to a spa or watch movies with your husband. I don't know but i think you just have to require yourself to unwind once in a while. Hope you'll relax and feel alright now.=)

Just try to feel happiness in your daily work.

If no one is doing it then do it yourself.Take time out on Sunday or Saturday for yourself and do yourself a favor.Go for shopping or for hotelling.Best way is go to beauty saloon or spa and have message ,nice hair cut,nail done. That will cheer you up. Apart from this you need to tell you husband directly indirectly how you feel and how its affecting you.

bamrahkirti dear hope you are doing well now. The feeling you have felt now is also what I feel last long time ago. What I did to overcome this feeling I think it reverse so that I will be affected to it . And it is a sel pity. Su we must first the one to care ourself so that they will see it. I guess your husband and kids are quiet with what they felt and observe ,I know they want to praise you but I think they got shy and not showy for it. If you can't hear it from them try to be positive and happy for all what you did and time come they will appreciate you. Stop feeling of awkwardness to it, reverse the situation so that you will be happy and gay.

I know what you mean. Im guilty of this also. Guilty in the sense that I never thanked my mother for everything she did, never did to my dad either. I think its something you have to be taught as a kid. I wish I had the answer to that one but all I can do now is tell my dad that he was a great dad and thank him.....unfortunately, its too late to tell mom.

wellfriend its true after some time the relation becomes ataken for granted one!and then you really need apperication!the family members should consider this!no doubt!

Exactly same case is of my wife she also is always giving 200% rather more than that and she will always complain same as u pinpointed. It is simply because they knows u the best and believe it i am not kidding when u get angry then whole house will be feeling shattered..............

all i can say is that, just pray to God to give you strength and wisdom and more patience to use for the coming days, and believe that all goes well and all your efforts will be paid at the end. :D don't forget to smile

If they complain about you I would complain back about them. As for those feelings, sweaty I would say in my head: "neither required nor desired" for whatever you need from others, you can give that to yourself. You should appreciate yourself and that should be enough because at the end of the day it is what you think of yourself that matters the most, not what others think of you. They may not know any better and that is their problem, that should not stop you from make a balance for yourself with or without their support. Your happiness is just as important. I mean if you are a happy mommy then most likely your kids will be happy too.

Being appreciated is a big thing to you but it does harm to you already. So what if nobody appreciates what you have done for your family,someday they will surely realized that. Stop doing that to yourself working just to be appreciated. Start working because you love what you are doing not because you want to be appreciated. It's about time to love and appreciate yourself. It's about time to indulge with some self luxury that you would truly enjoy doing. They have taken you for granted but it doesn't meant that they love you less. Some people are not that demonstrative I'm sure your family loves you. They were not just good in showing it.

I know what you are feeling, the MIL may not appreciate your contribution to this family, but why not your hubby? Most indian 'saas' are like that, just remove the inlaw from 'mother in law'; all will be happy. A single sentense of appreciation from your hubby is enough, can you tell me why he behaves like this. thnxs for sharing. kalyani