Moving house

So, if I understand you correctly, your husband may get told to relocate any time, with no warning, and no input. If he does, you will have to move. You and a friend have each been thinking about moving, so evidently you see some benefit to it, although the children will have to adjust and you would not be as close to your mom or friends.

I am staying put. I hate to move! It is too much work and then you have to adjust to a new area. New doctors and stores along with your friends. If you are worried about your mother, and you husband has to reloacte I am assuming you will be a good distance away. Is there anyone else near her that could look after her? It can be exciting to move, but I am done with all that. It sounds like you don't really want to!

Yes that can be hard especially when it is a family member that you care about. However moving house can be exciting for so many people but it may also be a lot of work. I sometimes dream of moving, but only because of the hard work that it is to renovate. I mean if we could afford to get other people in, I guess it would be a lot more easier but that seems like a far off dream. I guess we all have obstacles that affect the happy feeling we should be having with something new and positive.

Moving to a new house means a lot of work and a lot of adjustments. The children are the most affected if you have children because they will need a lot of adjustment to people around them and the environment but if it is better for them and for all of you then it will be the best thing for you to do. It is hard to move but once you are settled down, there would be no more problems. If the place you are moving to is good then there is no problem at all. You just have to adjust a little and everything would be fine. Goo dluck.

clearly you are only reflecting in search of decision approval. I recommend you sort out your priorities and do what is best for you, don't use your kids and mother as a reason for how you decide. You must chose right and make good decisions based on what is best for your and your family.

It is really difficult to move, a lot of things to consider before moving in to another house. Appliances and furnitures and other stuffs are to be transported and are at risk also of being damaged. Kids in school are also affected so almost everything is to be adjusted when moving... well i have gone to all of those and i said to myself.. i wouldn't move again.

well we moved over 700 times in 35 years for hubbies work the kids got along fine with making new friends and I did too mostly we had others that moved along with us

I think that families should stay physically close. I raised my boys 1800 miles from my and my husband's family and they are definitely poorer for the result. They don't feel they have any connections other than their friends and their dad and myself. That is really sad for me. They like their grandparents, aunts and uncles but don't feel that their actions would affect them. When I was a teen and early 20's and even now, I think of what my deceased grandparents would think and what my aunts and uncles now would think. Today's youth don't have that and thus, don't have that deterrent to bad behavior. In fact, there is NO deterrent to bad behavior regarding the family and that is what will ultimately bring us down--no family pride because of the distance we (in the U.S.) maintain with our families.

hijugsjugs I once saw a list of the things that stress people out the worst and moving and packing up to move was right up in the top of the list with losing your job, or gettting evicted. For us at least we did not have the problem of children getting used to new schools etc.When I came here I realized now I had to inform almost a dozen people of my new address, topmost my doctor, my insurance, my medicare, my medicine provider oh my it was a bit unsettling and I was just one person, so a whole family having to relocate doctors hospitals,health insurance, oh dear the list goes on and on. I can see if your mum is sick you would want to be close by. good luck and God bless.

I like where I live but there have been times when I have seriously considered moving but the same thing holds me up and that is my daughter’s school, I would hate for her to have to go to a new school and leave all her friends, besides we live across the road from the school and I admit it is pretty handy!

i recently moved and it's been quite hard on my youngest boy,he hasn't coped at all well with moving schools,my mum is also ill but i haven't lived close to my mum for years,i think you should do whatever you think is best for the family,if that means moving away from your mum then that's what you'll have to do,you can always visit her a couple of times a week,and you're always at the other end of the phone,,you only get one life,do what will make you and the family happy

Everything you say here is in the negative --- I see no good reason for you to move , do you??

There is really a lot to consider when moving to a new house and I hate it when we move. It's been three consecutive years that we move to a new house every freaking year. It's good that you consider your mom before making any decision in moving

Good Evening dear JugsJugs ; its been a while ( three or four days ) hence i've connected to the Myllot communitty ( I had to change internet provider hence Blegacom , the recent provider , its givin only 55 GB of downloads , wich is nothin , so i changed to a provider who gives unlimmited download space :) for less money) aniwho now back to your question ( wich i'm sorry to answer it this late ) well when i was young ( starting from my first seven years ) i've mooved not reguraly but just five times up untill now , and my first moove was when i was eight years old , we mooved out because my mom had married someone else and tricked her to sell the House so we cann moove to hes house , i got to make only one year in my first year school then i had mooved to another school for four years . The second time i mooved away from my familly because i already had the age of working , so my first job was for an american priest , and i had to translate him when he was talking to Different Priests or other contacts he made to make he's charitty work , this had made me visit my whole country almost , it was a great job and i was well pâid , so it allowed me to help my familly verry much , but i couldn't stay away from my familly so after two years i quit the job and started to search jobs outside roumania , after eight months of searching and running after paperworks i had finally found a job in Belgium and so i leaved , after six months i made my mom , sister and grandma come and live with me in Belgium , now my sister has a fiancee and a job and her own house ( trough credit bank though she still pays and will pay for the next ten years ) but its her's !!! What i wanted to say , a moove doesnt necessarally means that you have to neglijate your closest and dearest perons , because if you trully care about them you cann do anything in your power to have them close to you :) ...i wish you all the best dear friend in you new and fresh start ( if you decide to moove ) , and if you dont i wish you all the best aniways and a healthy recovery for your mother . Have a nice day dear friend

We moved from the city out into the country a year ago. We are now in a small village. We had been living in the city for the past 25 years or so and were so used to it. The move was hard work, but we just did one task at a time as it came up. It is very exciting to move house, but also very stressful. I have no intention of moving again, but would do so if I didn't like where I lived. As long as you stay on top of the stress, it should be OK, and it is great to have a new home. _Derek

Yes, there is a lot to moving. Maybe it is wise to move but not so far that you can't be relatively close to your mum if she needs you. Moving does feel like a fresh start. If you don't feel happy where you on by all means you should move. I wouldn't want to leave knowing my mother was sick.

I got an error submitting my response so I hope this isn't a duplicate... Why are you considering to move? There must be a reason, and it is probably important for you to even think about something that can potentially be life changing. Focus on that too and maybe you can finally decide. I'm sure you can work it out. Good luck!

Doing a move is a really big life changing experience. You have to adapt to the new location by make appointments and changing addresses to the new place. Then you have to pack up all your stuff and move it there and get rid of the excess. I think it would be good to move if it was beneficial and great for the whole family.

Hi Jugs, We have a lot of things to consider when we decide to move the house. If the current living enviroment is not too bad, it is wise not to move. Basically the elder are not willing to suit a new enviroment as they have feeling, emotion towards every stuff they used around. If you move far away, your following concerns may come along on your mom. Surely, you need to consider your kid or your husband, if the new place deserved better than the current one, you need to have a considerate planning on this.

differnt with you, am a student studying in the winchester school,in the last two yeas, ilived in the erasmus park, but the price got higher and higher every year and the poor condition, ihave to move out to find the new property. then i went to the southampton and rent a two bedrooms flat with my friend.the flat looks very new cos just repainted by the landlord, i am truely love that place. and now am really engoy my life in there. i move house several times , the trouble is packing all of the things and still need to rent a storage to keep for a short time. am not the local people and not have my own house in there,so that's really unconvient for me.am already got tired to move house any more!