love vs. relgion

Things would work out fine if one has to sacrifice. I think you both can handle it because you both are worshiping to one God except with the fact that we, Catholics, have saints.

You need time- a lot of time, i have also heard many situations like that and most of the times the guy choses to let go of his religion..born again are also like catholics too- they don't have images though. I think you need to have a heart to heart talk- but don't let your love go to waste..

why should either of you have to give up on your religion? if you really love someone you accept something that is as big a part of them as their spirituality. even if it's different to your own, it's a large part of the person you love. if you love someone, you won't expect them to turn their back on something so important to them. there is no reason why people can't have a happy life together with each having a different religion. and by different religion, I mean different religion. not different denomination. different denomination is even less of a problem. you're both believing in the same Deity. where's the problem.

I am not trying to be offensive here. But if you two love each other, why give it up? You can still practice your own religion. I don't think there are any laws saying you have to have the same religion.

Hi domieniqueer, I could totally, totally relate with what you're going through right now. My boyfriend of four years and me have different religion. I'm a Catholic, he's a seventh day Adventist. I have considered the religion difference before we got together, but I still went through it because I love him. Our relationship has grown deeper, and we both see each other to be married in the future. A lot of our friends are always asking me how about the religion if we get married? And they always expect me to be the one who'll get converted because my bf has really strong beliefs in his religion. But I love being a Catholic. I am born and raised as a Catholic, and I will die as a Catholic. I respect his religion, but I do not see myself converting and becoming one of them. We do have different beliefs when it comes to that. Religion differences has always been a heated discussion for both of us. But there's always a COMPROMISE. I believe we can go through it in the future if we learn to compromise. This is what I'm thinking: get married in a civil wedding, he would still go to his church, I'll go to mine. We'll work things out. I love him so much and I won't let our differences come between us. The important thing is, we both have faith in God, we even pray together, and we will make God the center in our relationship, despite the religion differences.

Why the hell should you give up your religion to be with each other? Catholic and christian religions aren't even that different! I'd somehow understand it if another one of you would have a religion where the main rule is that you must eat human meat every month or something like that but I guess cannibalism or satanism or anything similar isn't a part of either religion... I certainly don't think you should break up just because of religion, maybe because I'm an atheist. But tell me why, I really don't get it...

Hi domieniqueer if you love each other, you should accept each other's belief. Being both Christians, Jesus should be a point of unity and not diversity. If he loves you he accepts your beliefs and respects them too cos of you. I think that a marriage can survive if you are both willing hard to patch up things when there is a point that you are not agreeing upon.

Is it because your parents require you to date people in the same religion? Well, my parents did require me back then but I did not take it seriously. Why give the relation up? I mean, you believe in the same God. Why stop loving when this God that you both believe in wants you to love? Is it because you plan to go to church with him? Or are you looking forward to a very long relationship with him, to the point that you are married? Well, just find compromise. Talk about it and do not avoid the topic. Direct conversations about this topic will help you resolve the issue. You can't keep running away if the thought of separating or leaving your religion tortures you. I guess he feels the same way too.

Perhaps you can stay together. It depends though and it is really tough when you are of different religions. Roman Catholics are born again if they believe in Christ as your boyfriend is. There may be a way you can work it out together and accept each other's view points but it will take much discussion.

helo domie, at least you're both Christian, different sects that is. recently my cousin who's a Jehova's witness and her wife married in City Hall where a judge held the marriage for them. you can take civil marriages, you can still talk about god but don't argue or it will cause LQ in your wake just love each other and God would rather want that.

I will respond by telling you of a situation I myself am in right now. A guy I know and talk to a lot and get along great with is a strong Christian. I'm a strong atheist. I never thought I'd like someone who was religious. Ever. I fell for him before I knew he was Christian, and I was stunned when I found out, but I accepted it as a part of him. He knows I'm atheist, and he accepts that as a part of me as well. We've discussed the topic, but we've never argued about it. Now, I wouldn't say I'm in love with him anymore like I was before, but I still for sure like him. I recently found out that he's loved me for a while now, but due to certain circumstances it just never happened. But I did tell him that his talking about religion makes me uncomfortable, and he has not mentioned it around me since. And when we talk about maybe one day getting together, he told me that he didn't mind that I was atheist, and he knows that I wouldn't change him being Christian even if I could because it's such a big part of him. If you truly love someone, their religion shouldn't matter. You two would find a compromise in between, like in my example, he would stop talking about his religion around me, and I don't mind him being Christian. If you can't find a compromise though, it means that religion is more important than that other person to you, which contradicts the fact that if you love someone, you'd do anything to make that person happy, and that just wouldn't work out.

i am a catholic too, an open minded one, nowadays we all have different situations and we have different understandings as well.In your case you dont have to let go of each other, all you need is a great deal of respect, that is a very sensitive matter both of you have but if love has its way both of you will not face problems along the way, let respect and love blossom in your relationship... good luck and God Bless