The guy you are dating says he will eventually go back to his ex

How could you continue in a relationship if you knew that it wasn't going to last? It seems kinda messed up to me! I think your friend should go ahead and get out. It's kind of like being in a business that you know is going to fail - what's the point?

Whether it is right or wrong is something he has to decide, however in my opinion, getting back together with the ex because the family is pressuring them too or just for the sake of the child is the wrong thing to do. As for your friend, he's made his decision seems like, that would be the end fo the relationship for me. I would stay with someone that told me out right that they are planning on going back to their ex. I dated a guy one time, we got together shortly after he had split up with his wife......I knew, and I told him, it was over. He told me I made him miss his wife! Yeah, no thanks, don't need the drama.

Your friend and this guy really love each other. So why should he be back in the arms of his ex girlfriend. I just don't understand the guy at all. What's the use of living with an ex that you don't love anymore. I understand that there's a child involved here but it does not make sense at all. They will just keep on hurting each other and the child will suffer the most and then another break up will happen. The child will go to the same hurting process again. The never ending cycle of break up. And I think your friend needs to find another guy just to be safe.

How old is that guy zashimi? Why can't he decides on his own? Why does he dating your friend if he cannot stand on her? I mean what is this guy purpose of seeing other girl when in fact he is set to go back to his ex girlfriend? Well going back or being together again with the ex just for the sake of the daughter is actually not a good reason.. That is not a mature reasoning... If that guy decides to be with his ex again... he must LOVE the girl too, otherwise it would be miserable not just for the two of them but also for the child too... And it is very UNFAIR FOR YOUR FRIEND too! I mean what is the point of hanging still with that guy, when he will go back with his ex anyways? Your friend will look like the "bad girl" for the eyes of many only... Like she can be tagged as home wrecker or something... worst the guy cannot and would not defend her for how? The guy cannot even stand on his own... He doesn't have disposition... Better cut the communication... I am sure there is someone out there who is more deserving for your friend's love... Someone who can fight and stand for her... and someone who can give his FULL love on her... And most especially would not hide her but rather will be proud of her...

I think so. It is because they already have a child. Your friend will have difficulty getting his full love and attention because I think he still has feelings for his ex and his kid. It is best that your friend should start forgetting this guy now.

I don't think they should get back together just to make his ex's family happy. But, I don't think he'd even be considering it if he didn't still have feelings for her. In my opinion he's using your friend to get whatever he can't get from his ex, sometimes it's as simple as listening. If she's a secret, has she spoken to his family/ex? Is she sure he's really not with her? He sounds a bit flaky to me, but whatever your friend decides to do, just be there for her. You can tell her why things aren't right with it, but she's probably not going to listen. All you can really do is let her know your feelings and tell her that no matter what you're still her friend, and you'll still be there for her.

Is your friend in love with that guy already because is she is, then that's a big trouble. For the sake of your friend, I think she should forget the guy or wait for the time that things will be settled. I don't think she can handle it if in the first place they're relationship is already experiencing conflict.

For me I don't like that way if I wear you don't get again with him find another that is no problem about.

He will eventually go back to his ex? His new relationship is secret? These are signs that the guy is using his current girlfriend. Also it seems he just made it clear to her that he is not going to commit to her at all. So why bother staying in this relationship? At the moment the girl is just like a mistress to him.

it's pointless to be in a relationship when your partner is not completely into you. if he wants his ex back then fine he should spend time with the ex. i would tell the guy, you know what , let's not waste each others time.