Do U Thank Mylotters----When They Accept UR Friend Request
By sunnycool
@sunnycool (12714)
India
April 11, 2010 9:32am CST
I never thanked some one for accepting my friend request--------I do add some mylotters each day but never thought of greeting them 
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Coming to the virtues i look for someone before adding to my list is they should have atleast 100 posts to their credit so that my list contains active ones---it makes no sense to have someone who leaves this site in a week or two---some are exceptional though
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How about you then---do you thank someone when they accept your friend request or you just go on participating in their discussions---
Firstly what makes you to add them up---
----As they were close to your attitude
----You like their Humour/Wit
----You had good time with Him/her on boards
----Or you decided to add them up as he/she was there in your friend's list
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Coming to the virtues i look for someone before adding to my list is they should have atleast 100 posts to their credit so that my list contains active ones---it makes no sense to have someone who leaves this site in a week or two---some are exceptional though.
How about you then---do you thank someone when they accept your friend request or you just go on participating in their discussions---
Firstly what makes you to add them up---
----As they were close to your attitude
----You like their Humour/Wit
----You had good time with Him/her on boards
----Or you decided to add them up as he/she was there in your friend's list9 people like this
35 responses
They are friendly, nice and have a great sense of humour. Now, for some here i just add them, because they are damn @sunnycool (12714)
• India
11 Apr 10
you gotto be kidding me about the mylotters who match your attitude levels SB 
Being Witty is real far --- so i shall stick to the first question
Being Witty is real far --- so i shall stick to the first question 1 person likes this
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
11 Apr 10
you copied my attitude---i should complaint about it now---you're not suposed to do SB 
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BB, i only requested one friend and you know how that turned out. And i can only remember two who thanked me for adding them on my list. And for the attitude, 
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
hi sunny,
well i think i have thanked some before but only few. and right now i don't usually send invites anymore not for any reason but sometimes i just forget to or i just thought that they are already on my lists...hehe
bu anyway, i usually send invites to those that i always see in my discussions...
and those that i always come across with in other posts and those that just strike me with their answers in posts...
but when someone sends me an invite, i accept them no matter what.
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@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
hi winks! happy to see you here!
well well i do remember that time that we have that conversation from having the first period to becoming an environmentalist!
and yes everything starts there, well i have seen you already in other posts and i thought you are already my friend, not until i want to send pm to you...hehe that's the time i guess that i send a request and i am also happy that you accepted my request and from then on you become one of my dear close friend here...
well well i do remember that time that we have that conversation from having the first period to becoming an environmentalist! and yes everything starts there, well i have seen you already in other posts and i thought you are already my friend, not until i want to send pm to you...hehe that's the time i guess that i send a request and i am also happy that you accepted my request and from then on you become one of my dear close friend here...
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
12 Apr 10
hi my dearest friend. happy to see you hear. i am refreshing my memory how we came to be friends. who invited who and did we thank each other? hehehehe. i remember one discussion where we had a lengthy exchange of responses on the nappies hehehe...and it all started there. let me take this oppportunity to thank you for considering me as one of your friends here. thanks for the invite or for accepting my invitation to be your friend here.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
12 Apr 10
How about me Ladies ---Was it me who added you to my list or you guyz added me----i remember my very first interaction with winky---i think was there consoling me as i was really angry that time on myotters for not responding to my discussions ---i would have left this site long back if she never visited that site and from then she started responding to my posts without fail and i should thank her for winky's discipline
Ckyera----i dont remember how we met in the boards---all i can is get hold of that discussion where we had a great time barging and i dont get the topic of that post so i go blank now---its your turn to throw some light on our interaction.
---Was it me who added you to my list or you guyz added me----i remember my very first interaction with winky---i think was there consoling me as i was really angry that time on myotters for not responding to my discussions ---i would have left this site long back if she never visited that site and from then she started responding to my posts without fail and i should thank her for winky's discipline
Ckyera----i dont remember how we met in the boards---all i can is get hold of that discussion where we had a great time barging and i dont get the topic of that post so i go blank now---its your turn to throw some light on our interaction.
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
12 Apr 10
I have pretty much just been accepting friend requests lately without checking profiles or anything. I don't have much time on here, so I have been accepting everyone that requests me. If they start to spam me or I can't find any interesting discussions because they fill my "friends started" discussion sortie with a bunch of one-line and uninteresting topics, then I can always delete them later. I have PM'd with friends right after we have become friends, but I have never even thought about thanking them for accepting my request or for requesting me.
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
13 Apr 10
It is interesting that he thanked a few people for accepting his friend requests. I don't remember seeing him do that, but maybe there was more to it as you said. I was threatened or probably more accurately compelled into accepting one person's friend request, but it was all in good fun, since I had been stalking him for a while before he sent me a friend request. He said that I was one of only a handful of people that he had requested, so he would be really hurt if I didn't accept it. Of course, I would have accepted it anyway, because he is fun to interact with, which is why I started stalking him.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
12 Apr 10
I came accross lamb thanking few mylotters for accepting his friend request(there must have been some other reason for doing so) and some other girls doing that---they're so patient and thank each and every one who adds them up---its like showing their friendliness---coming to us---how rude we are PA we never thanked anyone for accepting our friend request
) and some other girls doing that---they're so patient and thank each and every one who adds them up---its like showing their friendliness---coming to us---how rude we are PA we never thanked anyone for accepting our friend request 1 person likes this
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
12 Apr 10
Hi Sunny,
I never thank them via PM but if given the chance to affirm them i do. like i see them in one of my discussions or i respond to their discussions i thank them for acepting my invitation of for inviting me to be their friend. it's always good to affirm people.
They light up my life and i love increasing my circle of friend here. i have fun interacting with different people. quite challenging!
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
hi winks! i'm so happy to be one of those who have light up your life in here...
i feel like people close to you are somehow related to a song...hmmm like your husband being the wind beneath your wings...and your friends to light up your life.
i feel like people close to you are somehow related to a song...hmmm like your husband being the wind beneath your wings...and your friends to light up your life.1 person likes this
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
12 Apr 10
hehehehehe from nappies to themesongs. oh well, what's next my dear. please don't forget our virtual trip and there's another one coming. check on sunny's discussion about women in europe...wanna join part 2 of our virtual trip hahahahaha!
@vandana7 (100119)
• India
11 Apr 10
Hi Sunny - hope you've forgiven me for my mistake yesterday. Now, I too hardly thanked anybody, which is bad manners on my part I supposed. I guess I should also feel flattered that so many people want to be my friends. :) I dont refuse friendship offers. Even if they leave, I think they might just come back with a bang. :) As far as I am concerned, there may be one reason too many for adding friends. One is English. Second is Avatar. Third is a need to protect or defend the person in some way. Fourth is intellectual match. Fifth is humor. Sixth is politeness. Seventh is common interests..... Not necessarily in that sequence. :) So you see I cant possibly confine myself to your list. :)
@vandana7 (100119)
• India
11 Apr 10
I didnt ask you to add! 
You mentioned whether we have to bank on, so I started thinking why I do. Avatar is definitely something that prompts me to add. :) But apart from this, expressions, thoughts, and many other things. :) By the way, I am back because Saphrina asked me to irritate you. :)
You mentioned whether we have to bank on, so I started thinking why I do. Avatar is definitely something that prompts me to add. :) But apart from this, expressions, thoughts, and many other things. :) By the way, I am back because Saphrina asked me to irritate you. :)@sunnycool (12714)
• India
11 Apr 10
I do not take things that long and most of it i do not drag them---so stop worrying about the things which happened yesterday atleast in my case
.good list though ----do you really think we should have something to bank on to add a mylotter to our list---well not for me
.good list though ----do you really think we should have something to bank on to add a mylotter to our list---well not for me @sunnycool (12714)
• India
11 Apr 10
Adding each and every one can be the ridiculous thing you expect me to do it doesn't make any sense and i dont want to get lost in a pool of discussions either 
@kooltiger (848)
• Pakistan
11 Apr 10
no i really dont thank any 1... because i dont get any notification that who has accepted my friend request... in fact i dont even know if i m responding a discussion and the creator of that discussion is in my friend list...
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
11 Apr 10
you would get a notifier specifying that the mylotter---you have placed a friend request has accepted your request.I think you have turned off your notifiers---there by you dont get any updates from your friends posts and the ones who joined your friends list recently---so change your notifiers first and then every thing would be in track
---so change your notifiers first and then every thing would be in track@kooltiger (848)
• Pakistan
11 Apr 10
i think there is any problem going on with the notify system.. i have cheked all the boxes for notifies
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
11 Apr 10
I do not usually thank them for accepting my friend request, I do thank my referrals or email them to let them know I am here if any questions may arise. Now the circumstances for which I add people vary. At one instance I could do it just because it would benefit them, or it may be that it benefits me. It may also be that I like their discussions, or it could be that they were on my list prior and I had deleted them or they me for some reason.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
12 Apr 10
I never had to thank my referrals---i wonder if they would read my PM(my sleeping referrals didnt) though----we cant expect them to get familiarised with the PM that easily.i used to thank mylotters for making their posts in my discussion but i no longer do that except in few boxes
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
11 Apr 10
You seem to be here for more than 4 years now and you must have come accross all kinda people here and i really wonder how long is your friends list cream ---do you have thousand friends in here or more
---do you have thousand friends in here or more 
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
11 Apr 10
never did i thanks someone for accepting my request and i guess it is not needed. but there were times i guess in the past, that i thanked them through posts but not through PMs.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
12 Apr 10
but from what i have learned, as a line in the guidelines says that we don't have to thank everyone who response to our discussion is true if what we will have to say is the simple thank you. but to recognize the member for giving his response, we can always comment with thank you following some statements or a follow-up question and that will keep the discussion going and thereby make the discussion a good and healthy one.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
11 Apr 10
I used to thank each and every lotter who made a post in my discussions but stopped doing so as we are not supposed to thank someone for making a post---sending PM's for thanking them would be real far
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
12 Apr 10
haha i respond to my friends discussion if they interest me---irrespective of them being old or new friends---its good to take part in their posts though which helps us to understand them better
@May2k8 (18322)
• Indonesia
12 Apr 10
However, I never again send them friend request. By saying the words thank you in my heart think it's enough. Anyway, I'm not necessarily be here forever sometimes forget whether they had become friends or not. Even though they did not post I still will accept them.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
12 Apr 10
That really cool May---it should be in our hearts rather than showing it to them as they might take wrongly I never accepted a mylotter with zero posts----however i have added one who had 6 posts
---it was a sad end though
I never accepted a mylotter with zero posts----however i have added one who had 6 posts ---it was a sad end though
@Revan2009 (469)
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11 Apr 10
I always thank people even if they're not my friends. I guess I might have forgot to thank a few people but only because I was very busy.
I guess I might have forgot to thank a few people but only because I was very busy. @sunnycool (12714)
• India
12 Apr 10
It always good to be nice to others and thank them for participating in our discussions and for accepting our FR too.I'm puzzled a bit now----If i should thank you ---this isn't related to making response
---this isn't related to making response 
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
11 Apr 10
Actually I don't send friend requests... But I always add those who sent me invites... I actually don't check their profile first before adding them, I just accept them thinking that they are one of those mylotters that I interected with...
Actually some, after accepting their friend request were sending private messages-- inviting me to join their site... But I don't actually pay much attention on them, their message if I saw that they just made few responses in here... It made me think that they just joined this site to earn referrals only... I mean that was their main purpose of signing in here and adding friends...
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
12 Apr 10
Its the same with most of the newcomers in here they dream over making huge number of referrals in mylot and start sending referral links they hardly last long in here they make their wayout as soon as they come to know that it isn't that easy get some one in your downline easily
@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
11 Apr 10
Sometimes I do thank them if they accepted my invitation for friendship. Especially if I need some information from them. But if they are the one who invited me and I just accept me I no longer say thank you to them. Just accept them would signify a thank you I guess.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
11 Apr 10
mylotters used to convey their regards by adding profile comments---as they seem to be malfunctioning---every one stopped caring about thanking others for accepting their FR---it feels good though to receive a PM thanking you for adding them up to your list
@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
That's true it would be different if you receive a thank you message thru your inbox messages. But I guess most of the people forget already about that good value and that includes me. Too bad..
@hora_fugit (5863)
• India
11 Apr 10
I don't request anybody generally. So it's hard to thank anyone. But there are times when I want some people to be my friend. I exercise my will power and they request me themselves (90% success) otherwise I request them finally. In both the cases, I thank them...
About what makes me request them, I generally look for 'appealing personality'. And yes I like Wit for sure. All misters and misses of this kind are welcome!
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
11 Apr 10
So you wait until someone adds you up----why dont you admit that you interact with them in such a way which drives them to add you up ---if they do not send a request then you shall add them up------good way to select friends though
---good way to select friends though 
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
11 Apr 10
I don't see the need to thank the person who accepted my request for friendship. It is understood that we are in a social site and fostering friendship is the real reason this site existed while helping the owners of this site to generate profit. I accept anyone who requested for my friendship as my hobby is a 'collector'.If there is one thing to learn about life, that would definitely be friendship. I suspend all my judgement and selection when it comes to virtual friendship and continue to admit those who even have zero besides their names. If we don't accept them who can they count on here to help them in their journey to share the fun in mylot. On second thought, if they don't perform then I would not hesitate to axe them from my list. 
If there is one thing to learn about life, that would definitely be friendship. I suspend all my judgement and selection when it comes to virtual friendship and continue to admit those who even have zero besides their names. If we don't accept them who can they count on here to help them in their journey to share the fun in mylot. On second thought, if they don't perform then I would not hesitate to axe them from my list. @sunnycool (12714)
• India
11 Apr 10
I believe in the saying----prevention is better than cure----rather than alloting an hour or two to remove the inactive ones from your list i prefer to add the active ones which also helps me to keep my list tidy.Coming to your Collector Avatar---you can be on a roll until you reach the most number of friends ever a mylotter had
.Coming to your Collector Avatar---you can be on a roll until you reach the most number of friends ever a mylotter had 
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
11 Apr 10
Its better to have ten friends who can keep you busy discussing whilst having fun rather than having hundred who look forward to spam you or seldom make posts in your discussions---its good to add only those who match up with our views or opinions
@xxazndragon01 (1250)
• United States
11 Apr 10
sunnycool interested question you got here well for me i look in quality posting people so i can start a conversation with them via board chat now there are many people out there that have my ideas and thoughts but i have yet to find them but people on this board are very friendly and easy to get along with so i guess ill greet them with a hello every once in a while
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
11 Apr 10
hi Dragon----its always good to have some fun on the boards and later add them if every thing goes fine between us---i found many of my friends that way but i never thanked them for accepting my FR and neither they did---this can be considered for us to be friends in here lol
@Tallygirl09 (1380)
• United States
11 Apr 10
You bring up a very good point. I have never sent a greeting or a thank you either. Frankly, it never occured to me. I add to their posts and sometimes do send IM's if it makes sense. Usually I will add them if they have similar interests and outlooks or I find them interesting in their comments. I am the type of person who doesn't have to have my friends agree with me all the time, I like them to be individuals. And if they have a sense of humor that's a big plus too! People do come and go but many do come back so that's something to think about too.
Take care.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
11 Nov 10
First of all, I have to say that I have never thanked someone for adding me to their friends list. However, I have had some people that have thanked me for adding them to my friends list.
The main things that I look for in a friend is that I like to see that we respond to the same kinds of discussions first of all. The other criteria that I look for is that they are active on the site. Finally, I look for someone that is interested in more than making money online.
