What ever happened to LOVE?

Well zandi, i would like to be a husband of a virgin bcoz i am too. Once i said in a dis here that people should not consider the virginity as its related to women. Its an era of equality and if chestity is considerable then why people dont want to find out it in a man? Its stupidity. I am totaly against of this consignment. Have a nice day.

idiotic gender double standard.... However, asking a prospective partner to be tested makes a lot of sense...

Not necessarily, but I would not have married someone promiscuous. I think, if I were to marry again, which I won't, I would ask for an HIV test. I do not know why people are importing spouses. I guess they think the grass may be greener if it is exotic. Looks will fail, figures will disappear, and you cannot take pictures of a personality, to know what your companion will be like if you marry. I think it is probably foolishness, and yes, degrading to be traded like merchandise. I have, however, heard of some of these types of marriages that are really successful, but the people correspond with each other, get acquainted, and even fall in love before the bride ever leaves her homeland, during a courtship period.

I think it'ssad that people think they have to import love. I was watching a show on that a few nights ago. It didn't turn out well at all. I was a bad enough opicker when i knew them in person, lol. there is no way i'd relie on getting one in this way. If a man has to go the another country to find a wife i don't think that says much for him. If women use this as a chance to get out of their country, situation or whatever i don't think that says much for them either. I never had a man that didn't have experience, lol. Don't know that i would have wanted one.lol men demand it, gets that boasts there ego but it doesn't mean it's going to make a good marriage in my opinion. I have always heard what's good for the goose is good for the gander but u know it never works that way,

I've never seen a virgin. Young people are becoming sexually active earlier and earlier is seems. Some girls that say they want to save themselves are convinced by slick talkers to give it up anyway. The notion that you can't love someone because they have been with another person before hand seems a bit silly. I get the traditionalist mindset and all, but today's reality doesn't bit the tradition.

According to me be true to your lovable one..if u want to beloved..be lovable

REally that is sad if the brides are over 20 for sure they might not be virgins! and yup I think the men need to be asked too for ya know they just havent set on their thumbs. I think they buy brides with that one thought also tho the thought that they way over there the women are raised different and that they would be submisive to what the men want and dominate the woman to his demands! Going back to over 100 years ago!

It's difficult to really judge women who lose their virginity because we don't really know how they lost it. At one point in my life, I was so judgmental on the women who 'lost' it during the teems and their early adulthood. It has always given me an imagination or assumption that when one man wooed them, they freely opened their legs and was subdued. I forgot the tales of women who fell in love so much as imagining that this guy was 'the one', only to find out in the end that he was only after her virginity like a first prize award for popping the most number of cherries. Indeed sad, but there are men like that. I couldn't blame these women who truly thought it was love. I can't blame the assumptive women either because we all know that we may be prone to mistakes but we could have avoided it too. So, therefore, as for your question on virginity. I don't believe it should be a measure. However, it should not be NOT a measure either. What I'm trying say is, I'd reconsider women if they lost their virginity due to the mistake of thinking that the person was someone she'd want to marry. But still, there's a lot of reasons and excuse to say. I for one am a woman. I'm quite old or matured, and have even been told not to be overly choosy and just do it already! hehe.. I didn't see 'sleeping with someone' as a criteria for love, neither did I see it as something 'you have got to do'. Virginity has always been 'a gift' for me. A gift to that someone worth it and I am proud to be able to say that I gave it to someone who cherished it and will continue to cherish it forever. Further, as for those men. The nerve! But, I still can't blame them. I think it's both two people's mistake. One, for buying virginity and the other for selling 'love'. I guess they were hopeless to find someone who's willing to take them weaknesses and all. Indeed this is a world of materialism. It's just sad because people have lost the hope of truly experiencing what love is - something priceless and worth it.

zandi 458 hi I think in this d ay and age with so many people marrying more than once, or living together and changing partners'even oftener than married people, a poor girl should insist on her fiance to have blood tests to show whether or not he has aids. since most men are not virgins at all . I married a man who had been married before as just a youngster, and their marriage did not work out. He did have blood work done at his suggestion not mine, but he was clean and I was clean. I pity people who get the virus from marrying someone who picked it up from other girls they had been with. so now days you must know whether or not your partner to be is clean or infected with aids. Its not really practical now days to demand a man or woman be a virgin as so many have had many married partners or live together partners.

First of all I don't know why some people [men] want imported brides? when there is so much to choose in their own country I think these people may find the women in their country to be too independent and therefore they are looking for someone submisive... to do as they say! and then keep them pregnant and in the kitchen...these people are not looking for love..but a house maid! and they want them virgins as well! wow! what do they think?...that they are God gift to women?...in the other hand virginity is gone out of the window no one cares about it any more... what a shame! moral standards have gone down the tube really! but I do agree with you if a male wants to marry a virgin to be a virgin himself... otherwise he can put up with it! and serves him right!

I myself am no virgin but I think if you are able to keep yourself clean before marriage than it is a personal choice. But I also have thoughts that in the end you may want to test the waters to see what you are getting into. I know many countries have different thoughts about this type of plans for marriage but living in the US we have choices. Nice topic and happy mylotting to you.

I don't think vrgnty is important, the most important things is trust and believe in oneself. If you love someone, it's natural that you give your all to someone you love, it does not mean you lost somethings. Everything is a part of our life, making love is a part of love and if you love anyone, trust and concern comes first than vir..if so it applies to both the gender. I don't think just for a girl this rule is applied and not for a boy. These types of thinking if any one possess then they should also think of both if it is so.

LOVE. all of us have an many definition about love. but for marrying a girl it is very important for the guy that the he will marrying is VIRGIN. why? because for a man this is the very great gift he can ever receive for his entire life by marrying a virgin bride so you cannot just say to the groom just to consider it if the one he will marry is not a virgin.