How do you say when love you experience is genuine?
By grayscythe
@grayscythe (174)
Philippines
April 12, 2010 6:46am CST
How or when do you say that "love" is genuine?
I know of this girl that's claiming that her love for her boyfriend is genuine.but from how i see the situation,as i already know her personality that she doesn't know how to love.Why do i say this?because she only cares for herself,she's so selfish and only wants money, she had left all her employer with problems as she would go to a leave of absence and will find her self in a new job in another place or country, makes everyone her enemy even her family she would not hesitate toi have an argument anyhwhere, anytime.enough of it.
Situation now is that she will get married soon in june.but she has a boyfriend in another country and her future husband doesn't know about it.she is working in another country together with her other boyfriend while her future husband is a a european also in another country.they just met last february in an airplane, after that the guy started calling her skype, online communication and over the phone without having physical contact after they met in that plane,then they got engaged less than a month after they met each other, then the guy started supporting the girl financially by sending money and all the things the girl wanted n ow they're here in the country for the guy to meet the family if the girl to plan the wedding on june.
Do you think that this is genuine love?Oh I almost forgot the important things here, the guy is actually 24 years older than the girl, meaning he is as the same age as the girls parents, and guess what he is the first boyfriend that is so far off the qualification of the girl, i mean all her boyfriends we're young and handsome...her reason when she was asked by her parents on why she will be marrying the guy? She said the guy loves her because he provides everything she asks
One more thing that made me think if this is really genuine love is because after the marriage she's not planning to go with the guy but rather she will go back to work in another country and...
she asked her mother if its okay that she will not let her husband touch her within a year...sounds fishy to me isn't it?
1 response
@prettyface1978 (69)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
i have heared and read the same situation that you have here. In my idea, love depends on how a person understand and shows it to her/his patner what is important is that she/he is sincere and that she/he has no other hidden agenda why she/he chose a particular person to be her/his partner. With regard to this girl, I agree with you I think there is something fishy.hehehe. If she said she loves the man, why she has to build limitations to their relationship to think that she agreed to marry the man? I don't want to be judgmental but I can't help it. I think what she love to the man is not his being his but the money and comfort that he can offer to her. She is so materialistic, I don't think a genuine love will depend on things that a person can offer to his partner. I can't imagine a person will say to his/her partner that, " I will love you if you can give me anything I want." or " I will love you if you have millions of bank account." For me it is not genuine love but material love.
@grayscythe (174)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
Yeah I really think that's the case, and now they're off to the girls place to introduce the guy to the family.after that the girl will go back to her work in another country.oh do you know in what else a cenomar(certificate of no marriage) is used for other than a requirement in weddings?I'm just also curious as to why she processed 3(three) individual copies, well not photocopies but original copies at the same time
@prettyface1978 (69)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
She is confusing. Why she still want to work in the other country rather than being with her husband? Then she will say that she truly love the man?oh,oh,oh..I htink she has to think again. Why she need 3 original copies of cenomar? What is her plan? Is she planning to marry again? Does she has an intention to have a bigamous marriage? Lot of questions in my mind.hehehe. But i think her intention is quite clear.hehehe. She only want money from her husband and she want to be together with the other man. Her husband is some kind of an insurance.
