How would you feel living in the US if your parents picked your spouse?

I would say I like this one or that one but never go out and just pick someone for them I did my choosing and they did too. DOnt like the idea that they might pick an old man for me if he had money! grrrrrrrrrrrrrr

If I am in the situation I will not agree, if its alright I wanna go with him. So that our relationship contnues as long as it is. But I did not yet gone to the U.S. If that is the case I will not allow him but if he will pursue it , its his will but if there's other reason that I will let it go w/ him even late its alright.Doing that far relation is different in real life. Soits not easy to handle, many obstacles that happen in life .

I would not want my spouse chosen. It is an idea that I am not used to. I am a very independent person and I don't think I would be able to let my parents make a lifetime choice for me. I can screw up pretty good without any help..LOL..I would love to have a say in the future husband of my girls but I'm thinking that they wouldn't have it either.

One of the greatest things about living in the US is our freedom to choose. I know there are many countries where husbands and wives are chosen in advance by family members. I can not imagine what kind of life it would be to be forced to marry someone you did not choose for yourself. If my parents picked my spouse, I'm afraid I would resnt them for it. I could not be truly happy if the choice was not mine to make.

Well, if I lived in the US -I don't- or in any other country, I would never let my parents to do that choice for me. If they ever tried, I would never obbey something as irrational as that, as I am the only person who has the right to choose who will be my companion

I live in Canada and dont know anyone who had parents picking their spouses for them. I sure wouldnt have liked it. But thinking back, maybe it would have prevented me from marrying the wrong man. But then I found the right one.....on my own!!

I think I would have liked it if my parents had done that. I'm in Canada, born and raised here. I went through my teens without dating, not even asked. So when a guy showed interest in me when I was 22, I held on and wouldn't let go. It was not the best move in the world. Without going into the nasty details, I think my parents would have done a better job had they at least introduced me to a potential suitor. My father was a good man with tons of friends, some in high places. He probably would have done good for me given the opportunity. But things like that didn't occur to our parents. That's not the way we were meant to be raised. (That's a general "we"). We were raised to be good adults who make good decisions, not have our parents continue to make all our decisions for us.

I am living in the States and I would have hated it if my parents had tried to pick my husband. I would have rebelled for sure. As a parent, I would not want to make such a choice for my girls. I mean, marriage is a lifelong commitment of LOVE. I would not want to make such an important choice for them especially if it was a wrong choice.

I don't think my parents would even try to pick a spouse for me, but even if they did I would not marry that person just because they picked him. I would also not try to pick a spouse for my children when that time comes although I might have a bit to say about whether or not I think their choice is right for them.

it wouldnt happen. i wouldnt want my parents pick a spouce for me. i can remember when i was younger my mom would kid me about marry the girl next door or across the street. but naw they were more like sisters to me. i know when i first dated my wife her mom and brother didnt like me too much tried to get her to break up with me, but now after 25 yrs they are happy she did because i take good care of her

I know the whole parent picking the spouse thing is not a law or common practice here but actually it does happen in some families. Ive known of parents here to really put pressure on their kids to wed someone they didn't want to marry just because that person had a lot of money. Now if my parents were to pick my spouse I'd run for the hills. They've made just enough mistakes in judgement of people for me to know I can't exactly trust them in that department. They'd likely stick me with some abusive lunatic just because he was a church going man with nice teeth.

I would not like this at all. but than if that would happen I would not be single LOL

I don't think I would allow my parents to pick who I married; but I certainly value thier input. When I met my husband, my mom and dad were a little sceptical at first but they soon realized what I saw in him and warmed up to him. They were trying to protect me and I appreciate that.

Personally i wont allow anyone not even my parents to dictate me whom am i goin to marry and thank God they dont.. although that case is still happening here in some parts of the country (Philippines) most especially from those family who belongs to a higher class or well-off.