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It was sorry to hear that - yes we come across such eccentric people in the present society. I too heard such things in other situations - I feel bad,but cannot do anything as people have this sort of dirty bent of mind.No one can mend them instead better to be away with such persons so that we can spend life with ease and not tensions.

I don't know to call that honesty or or sinister when people behave that way. But I do know for sure I won't want those characters around me or my family. I have had someone talk inappropriate trash like that in a time of respect.

Wow.. that must have been a weird moment for you. Anyway, there are lots of people like that in our lifetime, we just have to make do with it.. too bad..

This person may have been grieving for his father and was not in a place where he could handle hearing about your mother’s passing, perhaps. It is a bizarre way to react to news like that but everyone handles grief in different ways. Sounds like emotional overload or something, I guess you will probably never know. I am sorry you lost your mum.

That guy is indeed your very good friend because he will surely believe everything you say Anyway if I find myself in this kind of situation I usually say condolence and just shut up because definitely I don't know how to handle this kind of situations and sometimes I'm a bit stupid too. I can only give a sad face and a face that shows "it's sad but it would be okay"

hi,dear dawnald, in nowsdays,there really have some monstrous people,they don't will put the others' thing in heart,though sometimes we told them many times ,but they also will forget . so it no need to take care about that .

Dawn I think I would hit him, that is so terrible I would not have even wasted my time trying to convince him but then for him not even to say sorry, it is awful specially after what you did for him

Hi Dawnald... There are a few people, who might respond in a way that they might regret later. Such people always have problems with socializing. Maybe, this friend of yours is one of them. Or maybe, your friend didn't believe that your mom had passed away, when you told him about it.. and in his disbelief, he called you liar. (I am sorry, if I am writing anything wrong, as this is a highly touchy topic.) It might be that that later when he came to know the fact, he felt sorry for his mistake. But I wonder, in any case, why didn't he apologize immediately?

He must have thought you were horning in on his share of sympathy-getting...

Hi Dawn, That's horrible! Why in the world would anyone lie about such a thing. Did he actually call you a liar or did he say he couldn't believe it as if he was maybe shocked about the news? I can't imagine accusing someone of lying about such a thing. No I don't think I've ever had anyone say anything quite so inappropriate to me about something like this.

Wow that's crazy! Even if I thought someone was lying I doubt I could say it to their face. My foster mom passed just over 3 years ago. I was devestated when it happened. She and I were very close. I was in an online gaming league at the time.. actually I ran the league, on Pogo. It took time for me to tell everyone about my mom's passing, and one day I went into a game room and one girl was looking for sympathy cause she didn't feel good. She just went on and on about it. I had to leave the room or else I was going to really lay into her. I just wasn't in the mood to deal with other people's petty BS. Well more recently my husband's mother passed away. When it happened I posted something on my Facebook page about it. This girl who I barely know responded asking about when services will be held. I got a little irritated. She didn't know my MIL, her husband used to be good friends with my husband but they lost touch years ago... all in all it didn't seem appropriate that she'd expect to come to services that in my view should be for close friends and family. So through my irritation, I removed this girl from my friends list without a word. She bugged me for a few days, and I continued to ignore her, then her husband started sending me messages, which I also ignored. Then one day she sends my husband a message... a good long one about how she doesn't know what she did to have me defriend her and how hurt she is that I won't speak to her (remember I barely know her, don't even think I met her face to face, only used to work with her hubby). So she sends this paragraph, longer than the one I'm typing now. Then she sends him a second message afterwards: "BTW- sorry to hear about your mom". My husband responds to her "Thanks for your condolences nearly 2 weeks late and as an after thought.. it means so much to me. BTW I don't really give a cr@p as to why my wife won't be your friend anymore as I have more important things on my mind these days. Thanks for being so thoughtful!" She sent back another sob story which again ticked me off.. something about how she really would have liked to have gone to the services and how her husband considers my husband such a good friend (yet her husband did not offer any sort of condolences and hasn't even spoken to my hubby in any shape or form in years.. other than being friends on FB). I was ready to lay into her again, but hubby told me just ignore it. In the end both she and her hubby are deleted from both mine and my hubby's FB page. Don't ya know a couple days ago her hubby sent each of us another friend request.. which we ignored!

I myself am guilty of this, of saying inappropriate things at the wrong time, but I am trying my best to correct this.Things like this weren't taught at school. Giving appropriate reactions especially to very sensitive situations is not easy. ONe has to be careful to avoid hurting someone's feelings.

Yes of course.I think many people had the same or similar experience.I think you must be very sad about your friend.You gave him your good faith but you didn't get the payback.But you know,there are many different people in the world,every one has different character,not every one will apologise for his fault,even he was not aware of hurting you.If you are mind,I think you can talk with your friend and tell him how you think about him.And at the next time,if somebody say some weird thing,you can tell him.

Well im sorry about your mom and yesi find myself on both ends of that sprectrum. If i have bad news my friends and co workers have nothing to say but sorry and a sad face. But then again with bad news i cant help but to do the same cuz i dont know what to do. however one friend stood out above the rest. He instead of simpyl saying he was sorry asks alot of questions on the issue and how i felt about it and it made me feel better to release some of that.

Dawn, I am thinking of you now on this anniversary. Some things play over and over in our lives. He sounds like he had some pretty messed up emotional issues. We love ya, girl. I have been hitting a few anniversaries myself the last month.

Who would ever lie about such a thing? That man/woman is really off his/her mind.

Always happens to me. People with poor communication skill speak wrong words in the wrong place at the wrong time. Actually, I would be very upset when I heard something weird on some situation. I think I am also poor at this skill and my hubby told me once I should not speak a lot on same occassions. That's why I ask myself don't think too much on words others said. At least, I would feel much more better.

sometimes they got shock on what we say and they easily that we are liar, coz they don't believed on what we say to them. maybe he got shock about they herd from you. he don't know that life is to short. we don't know how long we stay here on earth. only God knows! and we only ask if whose the next inline? lol

usually i'm the one who says inappropriate things, because sometime i don't think before i speak. but i also have experiences with someone saying something that is totally inappropriate. it was when my bestfriend broke up with his boyfriend of 2 years, when i tried to comfort her, there's this one guy who says bad things about his ex, and also he speaks it with such a crude way that i didn't know what to do.