What if your Husband Cheated

I agree.

I definitely agree with you mavieserrano! Its hard to forgive someone that you love and put all your effort into that relationship, for that person to throw it all away for one big mistake whether they meant for it to happen or not. Even if you were to forgive that person, that trust you once had is out the window and the relationship will never be the same. You will always have that in the back of your mind and wondering if they are telling you the truth that it happened only that one time. Don't get me wrong, people do change their ways, and not everyone will cheat again but the fact is... you are married, you made vows to that person for better or worse, in sickness and in health etc.. A lot of men who goes to clubs without their wives or significant other will actually take their wedding or engagement ring off just to see if the "hot" girls will notice them. I guess it helps their self esteem that they are still good enough to get the hot girl even though they have someone to go home to. I am totally against the whole cheating thing so unlike most people if you cheat on me, you not only better have the guts to admit it but also expect that I wouldn't take them back. The man that I am with now would be hard to just throw my hands up and say, "I'm done". I would consider trying to make things work but I probably wouldn't sleep with him right away. That may sound weird but in my opinion, I feel that if you sleep with the person that just cheated on you, they will think that you are starting to forgive them. That trust is gone, so he would have to show and prove to me that he is serious about making this work again. Especially when there are kids involved. That will not only ruin a marriage but the children would be heartbroken. So its best to just stay with those you married, appreciate them for being loyal, and trust that they will be faithful. If they are cheating though, in time, it will eat them inside.. the truth does eventually come out!!

Yes I truly agree with you angeleyes. At first, fine, you will have the heart to forgive, but if in the event that it gets repeated all over again, then that will be another story. If that was done to me, I would feel that I am not being respected after all. I mean, cut me some slack. if I don;t deserve to be respected as a partner, then maybe I would still deserve to be respected as a person/individual also. I can forgive, but the trust will not be there anymore and eventually it will lead to the destruction of the relationship. Yes and it will really realy hurt especially when there are kids involved. If cheating gets repeated all over again, I would bring my kids with me and definitely leave the man. He does not deserve to have a home with a family.

I also agree with you, she should at least seek counseling to see if she can work it out and rebuild the relationship, she should at least try to fix it.

I agree with you. This is certainly a cause for pause as I call it, I would need to consider all the pros and cons.

That would certainly be true in some cases but in others, the woman has no idea that this will happen and probably is as shocked that he would do something like this to her. So it has nothing to do in some cases with cheating when this is not a habitual habit to need to change the man.

Very insightful thank you.

I have to agree with you, though I disagree with divorce until you at least try to fix it, I also know that divorce is warranted in cases of adultry, so I would at least try to fix the situation. However, the marriage probably would never be the same because the most sacred of trusts was broken when he became one with another woman, something reserved for his wife.