Cupid strikes - across the borders
By vanny
@vandana7 (100614)
India
April 12, 2010 10:40pm CST
Sania Mirza and Shoaib Malik are married. Mirza looked pretty decked up like a doll! She was always a doll and darling, so we Indians can always understand - especially those shy glances that the cameras captured. It is love on her part no doubt.
As to Shoaib Malik - I can only say I have nothing against Pakistanis but much against this cricketer. I wish Mirza had fallen for somebody like Wasim Akram, or the Squash player Jehangir Khan. That would be more in league, as they are dignified, erudite, and debonair. Malik is way off from that image. He is what every mother would warn her daughter about. Malik would be the kind of guy I would keep my doll away from. Wonder why Mirza didnt see him for what he is - after all, Ayesha Sidiqqui is not some girl from poor family trying to make it rich by fleecing the rich and famous!
Hope Pakistani people will treat our doll well. I'd rather they promised me that Shoaib Malik would be whipped in public if he strayed or hurt our doll than promise our doll a gold crown. That is something even we Indians would have given to her even if she'd chosen to marry a Pakistani, provided he was worth her.
And though I am not related to her, a pang of motherly fear has overtaken me.Am I the only one who is feeling insecure about Mirza's future? Is this the feeling of love we have for all our girls?
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
15 Apr 10
Hi I wonder what to reply?
By the way u know the ages of Waeeem AKram and Jehangir Khan???? Come On
well, cross border marriages, media coverage, Ayesha Siddidqi Blames, Hurt feeling of Sohrab. Future of This Marriage etc make it differnt
Sure paying so much Mehr is not right too, its create effects in socity, such icon should set standards in a way that if socity follow them it must be easy for them. infact they might do it simply and discourage such heave Reception, mehndi, walima and such Mehar and Dowry traditions
Anyway, i heard they are going to stay in dubai, so what pakistani can do?????
Anyhow wish them all the best and hope that it will bring both countries bit NEAR
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
15 Apr 10
...My goodness Vandana.........you are protecting Sania like a mother hen....Imagine asking Cupid here to protect her and to take up responsibility for her......Its sad that you are also taking this marriage between two souls as an Indo Pak thing....We Indians tend to get too emotionally involved when we come to personal lives of public people..and always give a prejudiced verdict.....
I really felt sorry for Sohaib and Sania the way the media had set up a watch in front of Sania's house hoping and waitng for titbits which they could flare up to big proportions ...And I am feeling sorry for Cupid too for having to act as a spokesman for his country....Vandana ,both of us know that this Indo-Pak war thing is something that is politically motivated and there are foreign hands with vested interests who are keen that the two countries should remain enemies for ever.....I dont think we should blame the citizens of either countries for the current state of affairs......sigh.....@vandana7 (100614)
• India
15 Apr 10
Yeah rose, I too think there are vested interests. Countries whose economies are highly dependent on sale of arms would definitely like the issues to continue to simmer. It is up to us to become wiser.
Of course, I feel like a mother hen about Sania! But cupid dear, it has nothing to do with nationality of Salim Malik. If she'd found some casanova like that in India also I would have felt like that. Hope you are wise enough to understand that concern. :)
And I am asking cupid a favor as he is my friend. :) Hope he wont let me down. :)
@vandana7 (100614)
• India
15 Apr 10
Cupid,
By looking after my girl, I meant if you feel something unfair is being done to her, do express - even if it is not heard. Do not be silent. Hamari amanat samajh kar khayal kijiyega. :)
And I am so glad to know that educated Pakistani feel the same way about politicians as we Indians do. And that it is their vested interested as well that makes them keep the war on. I dont know how far it is true, but in arms deal, there are ample kickbacks, which the politicians share along with senior army officials. Makes me feel sick!
Of course, Kashmir and Siachen are non issues if they can be discussed on the table. One negotiation party after another till the issue is resolved. I give some you give some together we stop this massacre of our own countrymen. We've lost so many! Not a single one of our politician has a son in Army! Do you have any politician whose son is in the army?
As long as we are not fooled, and you and me are able to be friends, knowing that we are not fooled by our politicians, we have chance for peace. Lets hope some honest guys reach there.
Have a nice day.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Apr 10
hi vandy I guess things like this can happen in most any country really. I have seen some really intelligent and very pretty young women who have
married a guy who in my estimation was not fit to tie her shoelaces. I guess love is a really odd thing, maybe it is true that love is blind.'Your friend Sania Mirza sounds like a very pretty and attractive girl and I hope this Shoaib Malik is good to her. No you are not the only one as I have seen things like this happen here in the United States too.Sometimes these creepy looking guys can turn out to be decent menafter all,so lets hope this is so for your young friend.
married a guy who in my estimation was not fit to tie her shoelaces. I guess love is a really odd thing, maybe it is true that love is blind.'Your friend Sania Mirza sounds like a very pretty and attractive girl and I hope this Shoaib Malik is good to her. No you are not the only one as I have seen things like this happen here in the United States too.Sometimes these creepy looking guys can turn out to be decent menafter all,so lets hope this is so for your young friend.@vandana7 (100614)
• India
14 Apr 10
This creepy looking guy married a girl and then denied his marriage. And our Sania seems to be too much in love to face reality. :( Why this seems to catch our attention is that Sania is a Wimbledon player, and we all are very proud of her. Salim Malik belongs to a country that is our sworn enemy. Of course, this gives Sania a chance to be an embassador for our country. But I would prefer a better guy than this fellow who denied his previous marriage.
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@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
14 Apr 10
Is this what people call blind love,
or LOVE IS BLIND? How could she do it?
Prof
or LOVE IS BLIND? How could she do it?
Prof
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
17 Apr 10
Hi vandana, we have nothing to say about Sania's choice. But I'm some extent disheartened. To become tennis star Indian Government gave her enough support.
Is there no Indian boy whom she might choose him as her life partner. I'm also feeling insecure about Sania's future. Pakistanis are very conservative. I have a doubt whether Sania can ply with short tennis dress.I think the conservative Muslims of Pakistan will not allow this.
@vandana7 (100614)
• India
17 Apr 10
Hi bhanusb, first and foremost, it is personal choice. Love does not know boundaries. :( I only wish it was not Salim Malik. :( The guy lies through his teeth. :( After the initial attraction gets over, will she be able to put up with him? She has been much stronger person. As to her future - her career graph is already on downslide. So in principle, there is no future. Not really. Not all Pakistanis. Some yes. Wasim Akram's wife is a psychiatrist/psychologist, and she looked pretty modern to me. :) As to defying the system, they wont clamp things on her considering the fact that she has already been allowed to wear such things so far. She must have defied quite a few of those conservative people out here as well, so she is hardly likely to be sensitive. Of course, here she had the support of her near and dear. There she wont, unless Malik turns a new leaf.
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
15 Apr 10
Hi Vandana....Well I fel you are being a bit over protective towards Sania...She is 23 ,cute,mature,and not just an ordinary Indian girl.She has seen the world and knows how to get what she wants ,be in in sports or her personal life..See how easily she ditched her childhood sweet heart whom she had got engaged to with much fanfare,and found a new friend within a short time....She was in a haste to end her engagement and got married much earlier and not certainly the way she had planned...
Surely her marriage to a Pakistani player does not deserve so much of publicity and fanfare..I blame the media for trying to make her private affairs too public ....I really feel sorry for her....And yes I feel too that Sohaib may not be the right guy for her,and this marriage is surely going to affect their career to a great extent,and they will never be able to deliver their best in their respective games in future,thanks to the media......Any way let me wish them all the best in life....
@vandana7 (100614)
• India
15 Apr 10
Hi Rose, at 23 I dont think I was smart enough to know the difference between love and good friendship. If I am of low IQ, then I have to give that benefit of doubt to Sania. May be she is also late in realizing the difference. If she knows the difference then going into that marriage would be so much of a farce that she would have to endure for the rest of her life! Dont you think? I wouldnt call it ditching. It is avoiding pain in the future - for both.
True it is a private affair. But we all have loved her too much to see her with a guy who doesnt seem to deserve her. Media will stop of course. Just a couple of months from now. Sania is no Ladi Di to find place in tabloids continuously for almost an year! I too wish Sani all the best. :)
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@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
14 Apr 10
Hi Vandana,
I amy not have a baby girl but if ever, i will fell the same. i am over-protective and will always love what is best for my girl. of course, i want to make sure that she will surely be loved and taken cared of.
@abirsinha (114)
• India
13 Apr 10
Sania and Shoaib marriage is boon for both India and Pakistan and it would some water on the fire of enmity that is raging between the countries..
I wish the couple marital bliss and happiness..
Vandana, you are partially correct.. Shoaib's image is a bit bad but that is due to the circumstances that took place. It was out of a kiddish folly from Shoaib but the truth about ayesha has come to light and people know whose fault was it.. So dont be too much pessimist and give the lad a chance.. :D
@vandana7 (100614)
• India
14 Apr 10
Abirsinha, honestly my first choice would have been an Indian. I would have got her married to Omar Abdulla, even if it meant she would be second or third wife But Salim Malik - the guy is a conman inside out! Known one at that! How could she have fallen for that guy. I would be ok with many Pakistanis, and feel the same way as you do. But Salim Malik!!!! The girl has to be blind not to see the drawbacks of the guy! I dont think it is kiddish folly! Cricketers come across plenty of fans! I think he must have assiduously pursued her! She is herself quite rich! So she would hardly have run behind a guy like that leaving our own handsome guys like Irfan Pathan, and others. No - definitely he changed his mind later after marrying her.
But Salim Malik - the guy is a conman inside out! Known one at that! How could she have fallen for that guy. I would be ok with many Pakistanis, and feel the same way as you do. But Salim Malik!!!! The girl has to be blind not to see the drawbacks of the guy! I dont think it is kiddish folly! Cricketers come across plenty of fans! I think he must have assiduously pursued her! She is herself quite rich! So she would hardly have run behind a guy like that leaving our own handsome guys like Irfan Pathan, and others. No - definitely he changed his mind later after marrying her.
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
13 Apr 10
You are right. Though it is Sania's personal affair, as a mother many feel the same. I saw people talk in bus stand, near vegetable market that Shoaib is full of lies. How can Sania take him to her life? Did not she get a better person in India, who is dependable? But no one has any right to comment on other's preferences. Let us hope she will be happy and bless her, she being Indian.
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
13 Apr 10
Your heart is soft like a cushion.
You are perfectly right in saying that Malik does not have the personality and character to match with Sania Mirza.He indeed is a Casanova who likes to play with the emotions of girls.I can just pray to God to give him peace of mind to leave all the things behind and start a fresh life with high moral and spirits.
@vandana7 (100614)
• India
14 Apr 10
Hi Bamrahkirti, men who are like that never really settle down. :( He is a casanova, and he will remain one. He might at the most show a temporary retreat, but once the child is in the picture, he will again start galavanting as then it is the woman who gets torn between giving child a stable family by adjusting to such things, or walking out. Will Sania have the guts to move out? Even if she has, will the Pakistanis - who are so obsessed with murdering their own kith and kin for the sake of prestige, let her survive? Though I too hope she would be fine, and my fears could be baseless, my heart says she has just set herself up for a big heart break in future. God give her strength when things go bad. :)
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
13 Apr 10
Doll? this lady was double crossing her childhood friend while having an affair with the tarnished Pakistani. How can a man who is banned for match fixing be a good hubby? One who doesnt mind selling his own country for money cant be a man of intergrity.. Sania was foolish to fall for this man..
@vandana7 (100614)
• India
14 Apr 10
Hi Preethaanju, childhood friend is not essentially childhood sweetheart. To date nobody has been able to clearly differentiate between when a friendship is just that and when it crosses over to love. So why do we expect Sania to be perfectly clear about her emotions. Think of it like this, had she continued knowing fully well what she felt for another man, then there is every likelihood that they would have more differences and more heart break. It is better to break before, when the boy still has some scope to recover. But as far as Shoaib Malik is concerned - I fully agree that man is certainly not worth a penny.
@udayrao2 (781)
• India
13 Apr 10
You are absolutely right - I think Sania should have talked this out with her parents and close friends/confidants before taking the big jump, because every one knows what a character & attitude Shoaib Malik has or rather lets say does not have - whether in his personal, social or professional life; she should have been doubly careful about him; what guarantee is there that he will not treat her after some time, the same way as he did his former wife??
And regarding Sania, she is no doll either, now that she also has ditched her family and childhood friend in favour of Shoaib, I wonder whether she is really simple and innocent as our media used to report about her - any other girl with good culture (or what we call "Sanskar") in her place would not act that way!!
@vandana7 (100614)
• India
14 Apr 10
Hi Udayrao, I feel to some extent most people are innocent. Nobody knows for certain when or why a particular relationship crosses the friendship level to love and why other friendships remain only friendships. So a good friendship may seem like you care for the person a lot, which is true, but not necessarily love. If the person does come across the difference between the two types of relationship, then it is only honest to break this one. After all, you cant marry somebody for honor, and pine for somebody else! That would be surest way to hurt everybody involved. To that extent, Sania did her childhood friend a favor. And I grant her the benefit of her immaturity. I am sure her childhood friend will see it as it is, and move on.
