Why did you get married?
By ladybugmagic
@ladybugmagic (3978)
United States
9 responses
@RachelleNH (1396)
• United States
13 Apr 10
What a very good statement made here! I am now divorced but I married for love and I'm sure homosexuals marry for that same reason also.
@ladybugmagic (3978)
• United States
13 Apr 10
This is the happiest I have been on mylot for a while. In the politics thread, we are fairly polarized on the healthcare reform issue, but the majority of us, at least in this thread, all agree on marriage equality.
@RachelleNH (1396)
• United States
14 Apr 10
This is true-love is a language we all speak and agree on 
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
13 Apr 10
i belive they do have a the same reason why i did and everyone else as well. to me i dont see the big deal when there is more imporant things we need to worry about then two people getting married.
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@ladybugmagic (3978)
• United States
13 Apr 10
I agree - how do we convince the others who think they have supremacy as far as marriage is concerned?
@xfahctor (14118)
• Lancaster, New Hampshire
13 Apr 10
The first time? Because was in love and ready to settle down. The second time? Because I was stupid and didn't learn the first time. There won't be a third, I learn slowly but I do learn. Personaly I don't care who marries who, marry your dog if it makes you happy, who am I to judge.
@irishidid (8687)
• United States
13 Apr 10
I hope I'm a faster learner than you. I've been married once. It was horrible. I might live with a guy but forget the marriage!
@lilwonders456 (8214)
• United States
13 Apr 10
LOL...I am with you X. Marriage is over rated. I have been with the same great man for 16 years. We have never gotten married...don't plan on it either. But everyone should have the right to decide if they want to get married or not.
@lilwonders456 (8214)
• United States
13 Apr 10
I don't know why it is so hard to understand that everyone should have the same rights. Homosexual couples should have the same right to get married just like everyone else.
@lilwonders456 (8214)
• United States
13 Apr 10
To me (and this is just me)....it is not a religious issue. It is a respect issue. Most poeple in their lives want the right and respect to be able to make their own choices. Even if other do not like or agree with choices. Mutual respect and Tolerance.
But for some reason it is in some people's human nature to try and dictate how other people live and what they can do. I dont' understand it. I want the freedom to live my own life...then so should everyone else.
They don't have to change their religious beliefs...they can not agree with it all they want....they just have to stop forcing their religious beliefs on everyone else.
@ladybugmagic (3978)
• United States
13 Apr 10
I am glad that we agree fully on this issue. How do we convince those who use biblical references as their reason for opposition? They don't honour the separation of church and state.
@II2aTee (2559)
• United States
13 Apr 10
Lil I'm sorry to intrude, but I just wanted to say that you are 100% correct when you say this is NOT a religious issue.
It's a personality issue. Some people use their religion as a shield so they can hide behind their own personal discomfort. "I dont judge you - but my God will send you to hell!" is a great passive aggressive way to voice opinions against homosexuality without sounding like a bigot.
My grandparents are devout Roman Catholic (and right wing/conservative Republicans to boot!). Untill a few years ago they attended church three times a week. My Grandfathers failing health is the only reason they only attend sunday mass now. They are both very "old fashioned", catholic schooled, and devout in every meaning of the word.
As religious as they are, they never ONCE made me feel like less of a person because I am gay. They have known since I was 14, and their love for me has remained a constant. My boyfriend always has a place setting at every family dinner, and my grandparents call him often for computer help. They include his photos in all of the family albums. They see him as part of our family. I cant help but laugh because sometimes my Grandmother will call and I answer thinking she wants to talk to me... but then she asks for Brian instead LOL!
I know MANY deeply religious people who have no problem with gays and lesbians.
Useing religion as an excuse to hate is a cheap way out. Some people are just too embarrased to admit they dont like gay people for no logical reason whatsoever, so they fall back on religion.
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@jeffdepositar (102)
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
The reason why we get married is to complete the the imcompletness of human being , it makes him/her a grown up and gives her/him responsiblities whether those responiblity are to feed and clothe the wife of to assist the husband. You know it feels so good to grow old with someone you love, marriage could binds two hearts with the same feeling;)
@ladybugmagic (3978)
• United States
13 Apr 10
Marriage seems very loving and it should be granted to people who are very much in love.
@mrblake (65)
• Jetersville, Virginia
12 Nov 17
well I am a widow now but when I got married. I married my wife because she was beautiful, smart, and I was madly in love with her.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
14 Apr 10
I got married because at the time I truly loved my husband. Yes, I think a homosexual couple would have the same reasons for wanting to get married. Why wouldn't they? I know some homosexual couples that got married for these same reasons and divorced for the same reasons as other couples do...irreconcileable differences. Why do you ask?
@irishidid (8687)
• United States
13 Apr 10
My answer got lost in mylot land, but anyway. I got married when I was in my 30s. I already had a daughter. The article about being more likely to get struck by lightning came out at about that time. I wanted more kids and the desire to settle down played a part in my decision to get married. There was my mother too with her "when are you going to get married?"
I got two great kids out of the deal, but if I had it to do over again I would have had the kids and not the husband. Even lightning would have been a better option. Why are divorces so expensive? Because they are worth it!
As for a homosexual couple, I have a friend who is having a commitment ceremony with his partner. I guess would be that they love each other.
@quinnkl (1667)
• United States
21 Apr 10
I have never believed in marriage. But.... the man I loved stated that he did not want to have children without being married. Well, that made sense to me, so we married. Little did I know, that what he meant was, he didn't want marriage OR children and thought that stating this would keep his lying and irresponsible, selfish personage secret. Didn't work out that way. I am, once again, happily single and a very happy and satisfied single mom!!! I think anyone who wants to be married should have the right to do so (just as they should have the right NOT to). The whole denial of homosexual marriages makes no sense to me. Who the heck cares! As a comedian once said, why not let them be as miserable as everyone else!!!!! :-)
