What do you always argue about with your mother?

As far as I can remember, I think there was never a time that I was rebellious to my parents and all that cause I grew up always saying "yes" to them. Now that I am older, my parents I think are still expecting me to do the same things I did before which is something I cant do anymore. So that's the reason I get to argue with my parents especially my mom.

Oh! I think that's not very good if you get to argue with your mom everyday. I think arguing everyday is not really a very good thing to help nourish that you have with you mom. I get to argue with my mom but most of the time I dont and only at times when I have to make a decision.

My mother is also like that even though I am married too. She always insists on the things that she wants but is most of the time inconsiderate about your own decision. Its not that I dont like my mother, its just that I think I'm already old enough to make decisions of my own.

I wonder why are mothers like that when in fact they spent a lot of hours helping us how to speak and become independent and now that we are able to, they try to prevent us. I dont know if I am gonna be like that when I become a mom but I hope not. I also want my kids to think for themselves and have to respect their decision even if its against my will as their mother.

Sometimes, there's wisdom in what she is saying but there are also times that we have to do things on our own. Of course, we respect their ideas and their opinions but everything still goes down to us. I just dont know why my mom tends to be so pushy sometimes but I hope there will come a time that she would have to lessen it.

Yes, i know.. Giving advice is good but pushing us when we are against their advice is different. I know that they just want the best for us but I don't think that pushing us to do what they want solves anything. It just makes the problem bigger. I hope that they would stop being so pushing... *sigh*

Its not that I dont like my mother or something. Its just that there are things that she wants me to do that I dont like that's why we end up in an argument cause she will insists on what she wants and I also insist on what I want. The situation is actually complicated and my sisters are the only people who understands my situation.

I think we are at two extreme position, and i guess your mother with the same style as many chinese parents! Than i think you should change the way while you commubiate with your mother, but one important point you must know, parents always give us the best love in the world! belive it!

In that sense, your mother is in the right tract and she wanted you to be in the tract that will give you good things. I understand why she has to argue with you in that sense cause she doesnt want to be lead astray. And you are very lucky your mom never gave up on you. My husband would also say the same thing.

I do not deny the fact that mothers really know best. I think they aleady have experiences that are incomparable to our own experiences. Maybe the reason that they are so strict is that they didnt want us to make the same mistakes they made cause as you said, they wanted what's best for us. But sometimes, mother's also have to let go cause kids also need to learn what is there in life and parents role is to guide them to the right track.

I know what you mean. My mom thinks very differently compared to me and I really respect her as my mother cause I know she knows a lot of things and have more experiences than me. There are just times that I have to do things on my own and support is more needed rather than retaliation.

I know think they know best but sometimes there are things that are not applicable to our lives that they wanted us to do. Everything that we need to do now should be considered cause they can also influence the kind of life we are going to have in the future.

I was like you when I was younger. I always seek my mom's advice and also depended on her to make decisions for me. I did that cause I also didnt want to disappoint her and she was happy about that too. But I came to the point that I wanted to do things by myself which she didnt agree. Trying to make her understand even if the issue is not very hot anymore was not effective. So it always end up in an argument.

Of course its appropriate to appreciate what your mother's opinion cause that is her opinion and there's actually nothing that we can do about it cause that's how mothers think. We may or may not agree with their opinion but in my case if something is insisted even I dont like it, then that's the time I would have to disagree and usually leads to having an argument.

We also have some family counseling from time to time but it usually happens when the situation already needs attending that would need all members of the family. There were so many times that I would just have to cry my eyes out especially when they wanted to me to do something I dont like. I really dont have a choice at some point but there are still arguments and my mother usually wins.

I was in that same situation a year ago. I dont have a doctorate degree yet but I am also a teacher. I got married last year and one of the reasons why I wanted to live in my husband's place is to have my privacy and I was also thinking of deciding for myself now. Well, I had an offer to teach in the university where my mom was working but I have to refuse it cause there are so many things that needs to be considered. She insisted on what she wanted to do until it came to the point that I have to give in and told my husband I would have to go home and just go to him every weekend. This was of course not agreeable to him so we really have to talk about it many times and he also didnt understand why I have to do what my mom said. Its actually complicated but good thing, my mom stoop down when my father and sister talked to her and made her understand that I didnt want it. Good thing my father and sister was there.

There were so many times that I wanted to be myself and not being forced to do something I dont like. There are things that I can do for myself and there are things that she wants that I need to do. There was even a time in my life when I have to consult everything to her and wait for her approval and things like that. Now, I think she pushes me not many times anymore but maybe eventually I will have to do things on my own.

Oh no! I think that's reason enough to have an argument with her. I think you are just so concern about her being addicted to gambling cause its not good. I mean, its okay to do that but 2 days straight is not normal. I think something has to be done.