torn between friends

I believe you should tell both of them your part that you are not taking parts and you just want to be friends with the both of them. The fight that they have is their problem, and that it should be their consequence and not yours. Because i think it would be unfair if they get jealous or not allow you to be with the other friend. Just tell them what you are telling us right now and hope they would understand.

..hi.. well, I guess your two friends knew that both of them are your friends.. for me, the best remedy is for you to talk to them both and explain that sometimes, there will be times when you will need to spend more time to any of them depending on the situation.. and tell them frankly that they should not make that a big deal since you are their friends.. you are outside of their conflict.. keep out of their conflict for the time being.. and when you think both of them are ready to face the reality that they did not intend to fall in love with the same guy, that's the time for you to let them talk face to face.. but for now, just explain to them that you are not favoring any of them.. that you are not taking sides so they should not get jealous if you spend more time with the other sometimes.. of course, talk to them one by one not together..

Good day to you Sugaree, Well, its really hard to be at your place, especially if these friends are important person for you. Ask for me, first, I will say a little prayer. That I will ask for guidance and words that I should say to my 2 friends. It is indeed important that every situation should be course thru prayer. Then after that, I will try to talk heartedly to each one of them, that not to get jealouse whenever I am one of them since both of them are important for me. Well, of course, you cannot neglect the fact that if you are in any one of them, the other might be jealous, and this is somehow a normal feeling.

it is really hard for you to torn between two of your friends coz i know for a fact that your close to both of them. i think you still continue to be their friends dont stop communicating and bonding with them if not the three of you. i think also that if they are your real friends they will not think your taking sides. they will understand you, just dont say anything bad that will really give bad impression to each sides. just be with them, have an open arms and ears if they need you. better to reconcile the two,, have a heart to heart talk with them both. good luck.

Well friends, I do not recommend that you see yourself anymore as advisor of your friends, simply because human beings are in most cases ungrateful and cunning. I would keep the tone of normal conversation as well as to avoid getting affiliated with any side, and would instead try to make new friends and contacts, for clearly those friends may not always be there for me, if you get my point.

when i'm in your position,i also really don't know what to do.but your friends just ended their friendship just for a guy?it sounds funny sometimes but these things really happen.actually i,myself have a friend who has a boyfriend and that guy likes me.i know its rude to take chance on your friend's boyfriend so i don't allow it.and that time i really didn't like the guy.and i am not the type that takes over my friend's boyfriend.i don't like ruining friendships just because of a certain guy. as for your friends,it will take time for them to realize what's worth keeping,your friendship or having that one guy.its hard to accept that things specially when you value your friendship.4 years is long enough.and its hard to find real/true friends.its really up to them if they still want to be friends.as for you,you can try to talk to them separately about each other.try to convince them to save your friendships.if its really not possible,then time/God will only tell what will happen next.