What is ok and what is not ok to do in public by a couple?
By markmoney
@markmoney (2868)
Philippines
April 13, 2010 9:08pm CST
Do you think it is right to show your affection to your partner in public places? It can also called as PDA or Public Display of Affection. You cannot avoid seeing this kind of couples in public places as many are really doing it. Are you one of those? Lol! So since we cannot avoid couples to display their affections to their partners in public, let's talk about which actions are acceptable and which ones are too much and not acceptable. Such actions by couples in public are holding hands while walking, putting the arms on partner's shoulder or waist, kissing each other, embracing each other, sharing of food and drinks, touching of private parts(lol), and a lot more, you can add something I have not mentioned. So kindly share your thoughts. What is ok and what is not ok to do in public by a couple? I would be glad to hear from you. Have a nice day! Happy myLotting! 
3 people like this
15 responses
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
14 Apr 10
Acceptable PDA: Holding hands, hugging, quick kiss on cheeks
Unacceptable PDA: Fondling and drooly kissing with too much tongue and looks like you're eating each others heads off.
1 person likes this
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
25 May 10
The only thing I do is kiss my husband, or hug him in public. Other things are not appropriate, especially since you never know when children might be present. A kiss and a hug is fine as that is what they probably see from their parents as well, but anything else is ruining their innocence, and also disrespectful to all around.
1 person likes this
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
14 Apr 10
Hi Mark,
This varies from country to country. I think showing of affection toward a loved one in public is fine, as long as it doesn't go too far. I will be reuniting with my wife in December, after eleven months apart, and I can assure we will embrace, and there will be nothing wrong with that. I don't think touching each other in "forbidden places" is appropriate in public. That's something that should wait for privacy.
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
14 Apr 10
To me allthose are OK, however even small showings of affection can lead to severe consequences in some cultural. I'm glad I don't live there.
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
If you do it in a nice way, there will be no offense. I just don't know in other places, maybe it will be a different situation.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
17 Apr 10
I don’t have a problem with PDAs as long as they don’t extend to those that require someone suggesting the couple should get a room! I think it’s nice that a couple may want to show their love for one another in public; holding hands, hugging and kissing within reason is fine but anything more intimate than that would make me feel uncomfortable!
1 person likes this
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
There are some things that are best kept secret in the confines of your room. Almost all of those that you mentioned are acceptable, except touching the private parts. When you are in a public, you have to act in a way that will not be offensive to others. Some people would see PDA as acceptable but there are other people who are conservative so you have to respect their feelings too.
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
Hi ybong! Yes, i agree with you. We should also consider the feelings of the people around that seeing us, we should not be a bad influenced especially to the minors. We should act respectable and not offensive to others. Thank you for your response. Happy myLotting!
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
That's right Mark. More often it's the conservative people who feel uncomfortable seeing others doing PDA. I'm don't have anything against those who express their feelings but i just don't feel comfortable when i see a couple kissing lips in public. It's not that i don't do it, but kissing lips means you're getting intimate and we know where it leads 
.
.
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
Hi guys, echo and sophie! I am also from the Philippines. Our country used to be conservative but already a bit influenced by western culture. PDA actions there are more bulgar than what we have here. So yes, it really depends on the culture. Holding hands, wrap around shoulders, and a little kiss is acceptable but over than that is already offensive and not a good scene for the minors and adults. Thanks for your responses. Happy myLotting!
@JoyfulOne (6232)
• United States
14 Apr 10
I think some forms of pda are acceptable. It's one thing to hold hands, share a quick kiss or hug, walk with an arm around the waist, share food and things like that. I don't have any problem with that, and I think most of the public would probably agree. The type of pda I do have a problem with is when a couple is sharing an earth shattering kiss that lasts forever and is hot and heavy. You know the kind I mean?! It's like: gee, get a room why don't you? Personally, I think that kind of thing should be shared with each other privately.
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
Hi joyful! Yes, I definitely agree with what you have said. There are really forms of PDA which are acceptable, so it's not wrong to show your affection in public but it should has limitations. Yes, I know what you mean, kissing which seems like they are already eating each other. Lol! That action should really do in private. Thank ou for your response. Happy myLotting!
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
i don't not look at the people who are doing PDA. I wish they do it privately. Well if they will do it on private no one will be called PDA. Well for me holding hands while walking, putting armas on partner's shoulder or waist, sharing food is okay but it is still a PDA. But when you see them already kissing and touching private parts that is a severe PDA for me. Like the man is not respecting the lady. if they can't avoid it atleast they make way to do it privately. And now, i had seen in Youtube there are lots of stalker of PDA's and they post the videos on YOutube. I feel ashame for the ladies that have been victims.
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
Hi grecy! Yes, there are ones that are acceptable and there are ones that are already offensive. I also hate seeing guys being too aggressive, it's really seems like they are not respecting their partners and what they are only thinking is their own pleasure. Hahaha, that's a good one for those who likes to go beyond limitations, a karma for them. Lol! Yes, I also feel pity for those girls, but they should be blamed as well. Thank you for your response. Happy myLotting!
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
14 Apr 10
Personally I have no problem with PDA. It only becomes offensive to me when something is over done or something more suited for a private setting is done. You mentioned one such display which is the touching of each others private parts.
I am ok with everything else you mentioned being done in public as long as they are not carried out in a bedroom manner.
The rest you mentioned. NNOO!!! For that, get a room. 
TATA.
@cloud31 (5809)
•
14 Apr 10
PDA is not really annoying unless its not over,holding hands and hug or a kiss is just normal when its not in sensitive parts of lovers,just say a kiss in the cheeks by saying goodbye or hello perhaps,holding hands either is not as affectionate as it is,hands on partners shoulder is not valid as PDA( in my side)sharing food/drinks well its normal fact.Of course a certain actions is limited when it comes to PDA,myself either is not up to this and aware of these kind of actions in public,nowadays almost all countries from foreign to asia PDA is uncontrollable behavior of the new generation unless not over rated I think its just ok.
Have a nice day and HappymyLotting!
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
Hi cloudie! Yes, there's really nothing wrong in showing your affection to your partner, a hug, a kiss, holding hands, sharing of food, are just common scenes nowadays between couples. But kissing torridly, embracing too long, and malicious acts are not acceptable and should be done in private places. Thank you for your response. Happy myLotting!
@Gany15k (1673)
• India
15 Apr 10
In our country people won't show affection in public like what you say PDA..If they did anything like kissing then they are finished..They will be blamed like hell..In my point of view it is really not good for a girl's future..If the relationship between boy and girl is broken then boy can be freely go in public but the girl cannot..Everything should be in control..Too much of anything is not at all a good sign..so too much PDA is bad...
@stewartsquall (72)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
You already mentioned almost everything that a couple would do in public places. For me, couple should not do in a public place are: (Making Love(Rated 18), Fighting/Arguing/Scandal (shouting at each other) and other things.
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
Hi stewart! Yes those you mentioned are really a NO NO in public. It's so annoying seeing something like that. Thank you for your response. Happy myLotting!
@Derek871228 (33)
• Australia
14 Apr 10
I can accept almost PDA but depent on where the couple act.if there is a romantic beach, they can hold hand,kiss,share food,etc. It is ok for me. In contrast,if they act PDA in office or some important occasions,it would let me think they are not polite.
@Cherwin2010 (878)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
showing affection to each partners must be in a right place, but not in a public area. its normal to a couple having holding hands while walking or HHWW. but kissing in a public and hugging in a public specially in a jeepney, its so unprofessional.
why are those people doing this? i'am not understand why there are some people like that..
