Meaning of a marriage is happiness or misery

I have been married for 43 years in October of this year. But I cannot say I am an expert. We have had many ups and downs, sadly more downs than ups, but thats how life is. But after all these years together, we have settled down, we don't argue so much. But maybe that is because we have no parent in-laws to argue about. Both sets of parents are deceased and although we both loved them, they were inclined to set off our disagreements. I would say it was more his parents, but he would probably disagree . We also used to argue about money, but money is better now. Anyway I hope your marriage is happy and your husband treats you well.Have a good day.

i havent been married yet but i have seen some couples and for them marriage is misery and for some it is happiness so it depends upon the couples how much love is between them and how much they trust each other.

indahfth My take is different marriage is love, marriage is happiness, marriage is learning and sharing .it is not being lonely, having someone love you unconditionally ,having a partner who really cares for you and shares all with, and is your best friend, no suffering there, but life will hand you some pain like losing a child or having surgery or becoming ill but marriage is and was great for me. I am now a widow for a long time but it was a lovely marriage.

Marriage is a very sensitive vow of the husband and wife. If you are member of this group you are ready to face the mixed challenge life of marriage relationships. I said mixed challenge in a way that there are times that you are both happy and gay. There would be times that trials and obstacles come into your life and you are new to it because just this time occur in your marriage relations. Since you are a married one you should already learned to be humble, adjust, and do what is best to your family. Like for instance, the real attitude of both husband and wife will shown after years gone by and you cannot adjust with it. For he hide it when you are still lovers. You need to water if your partner is in fire and vice versa. This message was tackled by the priest or lay ministers in church specially Christians. Don't know with the other group. But I guess our parents advice this before we will engaged in this battle of hardships and sweetness. All married people faces challenge in their lives they only have the trust and confidence w/ each other so that their love will last forever.

Its a beautiful relation of all, where its life long bond of love.

hallo indah... mariage is combination of pair between happiness and misery. sometimes i very happy with my marriage..and sometimes is not...mybe it depend timing. but trust me better mariage than we a living alone.

Nice topic...I'm not yet married but in my own opinion it should not be a dilemma for it is a decision made of both person that made a vow and commitment to the Lord no matter what they may face, life challenges in marriage is inevitable and that what makes the relationship strong and established. Without problems I think the marriage will be as predictable and boring it may seem. It's just a part of the plan of God, to develop the character of the couple for them to run the race with perseverance, to teach others from the experience they've been through. Marriage life is a joyful ride, even if there are storms...there will be peace and happiness.

People change and so does relationship. You have to allow it to change. At one you and your wife vibrate at the same vibration, that when you were in love with each other. When 2 people who are in love with each other they connect with each other so well taht one can starts a sentense the other one can finish it. And, you have changed or your wife has changed. It does not matter. Both of you might have change your vibration. You are not at the same page, same plane any more. Because, you lock yourself in a concept that marriage is forever and in real life is not. You then feel miserable. It is miserable because you don't allow your relationship to change and you to change. Look at your life closely. Have you noticed that you have changed too in many ways. Can you treat your wife as a partner? a friend? and allow her to grow or to move at her own speed. May be you are too fast. Your consciousness evolves too quickly. Or maybe both you are lock in an old concept that marriage is sacred when your heart does not feel any sacred in it. why not allow it to be. It is what it is. Enjoy it. Treat her as a friend. You will find life is more enjoyable and your relationship with your wife is more enjoyable.

yes, I agree with you. In marriage, it takes mental readiness to go along with your spouse. Like the ark, to achieve the goals, we can not rely on just captain but all the crew must be able to help the helmsman

Marriage is a partnership. The success of it depends on the couple. Although everybody wants to have a happy marriage, that's not always the case. There will be ups and downs that the couple will have to go through and it's through it that their relationship will be strengthened or destroyed.

Any type of relationship as its own happiness and misery. It couldn't be 100 percent perfect, especially for marriage relationship. There are always imperfections that must be accepted by one another, and must be resolved within the relationship without other people's influence unless it's a matter of life. And couple must make sure that happiness is over the miseries.

When a pair of male and female decide to start a family,they should be ready for happiness and suffering.They are two,they are not only two.They should face many people who care about them,including their parents.Everybody is different from others.Different people living together is not easy.Whatever happen,whenever happen,the couple should not forget they love each other.

i love my husband ,and i love my baby, i choose to marry with my husband .and i think marriage can unit two hearts more bound up with each other .

Basically it is a take your pick situation. Marriage is what you make it. The choice between happiness and misery is easier when a person is single. If you find certain people bring you misery, you can simply walk away. But in marriage that's a bit complicated. Your spouse in marriage can also make that decision for you in a way. If s/he wants to live the day in hell, then hell it will be for you too. Your choices are more difficult and more painful when they are opposed to what your spouse tends to make. But that challenge is what marriage is all about. If the spouses love each other, they will find ways to make what could have been miserable into something happy. So the meaning of marriage is what the spouses decide to define it by their actions and choices. It will be happiness should they choose to live happily; and miserable if they prefer to sow that too. Bottomline: The spouses decide together what their marriage really means.

being happiness or misery is different from different people. it depends on the personality and attitude of couple to marriage and family. however the key to make them happy i think is the catholicity and love for each other.

Marriage can make happy and also sorrow. But these both direction is in the hand of the couples. Just talk each other with open mind and try to solve the issue and live a happy life

the happiness that marriage give to me is equal with the misery. So every time i get the happiness, then i have to ready to face the misery at the same time. We live in a world, not a heaven, nor a hell.

As far as I am concerned, I think marriage for me can be a very happy moment . With the marriage , we can have a lot happiness and sorrows together. It is a time that should both of us try our best to understand each other. We should have a wide heart to tolerant your partener, in which way your life will be better.We can not just live for ourselves. We need to think about others.

meaning of marriage is happiness or misery is depend on you and your behavier if you are loving an faithfull then your life will be happy and if you dont want compromise with your partner then your life became misrey .... so as i think to make your life happy you have to be loving and faith with your partner.

marriage is entirely different from a wedding. One should be married for the "right" reasons while others succumb to the prospect of "wedding" when no other options are available. If it's a wedding you have then probably the relationship will not work. Marriage is for mature people who knows what it takes to stick it out for the rest of their lives together.