What do you do if Husband / Wife (caught) was having an affair

well, it's lie if i don't feel angry, but first i try to look back what really happend to our relation. maybe i have made wrong then he did affair. but if my husband didn't stop his affair, maybe i'll suggest him to marry with that girl.

Let him have his finger lickin meals as much as he wants and I'll show him the exit door.

Let him go to hell with that girl. Oooooops....sorry for the words I used but totally that describes what I would feel and and that's exactly what I will tell him.

Dump them what else. Once a cheat is always a cheat. They will ask you to forgive them only because they want to carry on the affair. Tell them you have made your choice and now live with it. Consider yourself lucky that you caught them in the act or else they would go on deceiving you for lifetime.

My mom is a victim of this, my father is a certified womanizer. The story was like, we had a family friend before across our home, they were just a young couple. There it was, my father had a secret affair with this young wife of our neighbor. So it was so late before we caught our father about his wrongdoings. It caused a public news on our place and shame on our name. My father escaped from our homes, he hided himself because the husband of his mistress was hunting my father and wanted to kill him. Of course my mom cried, hated him but helped him escaped since my mom still loves him. That was my father's first woman. Another year came, another woman and they have a child now. But my family is not broken, my mom and father still live together. My mom just so strong and she has a kind and loving heart. I hope my father realized that before everything gets worse.

I will leave him and if we have kids...i wil bring the kids with me...

tell him' how could you do that to me???'. For me, it is ok if he wants to remarried but not having an affair and cheating in my back. It more release if he do it in front of me.

I will be casual, don't need to get angry, remain calm in react to it. Only one in my mind, if she could have an affair, why me can't ?

very difficult for me. if already have a child would have taken effect for the child in case of divorce. better discussed first. I will ask my partner, infidelity is the reason my partner did. if the reason does not make sense I will choose to divorce, but if the reason for the error which I do, I'll try to fix.

Well, I want to let her go. There is no sense of keeping someone who don't want to be kept.