How will you have a healthy relationship with a partner???
By acey76
@acey76 (1276)
Philippines
April 14, 2010 1:26am CST
how would you go along with each other??Does it need that you have the same interests?? Do you always need him to be pleased on everything you do?
6 responses
@annierose (21583)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
hi acey76,
On my own opinion, you can have a healthy relationship with your boyfriend if you maintain all the ingredients needed for a relationship to last long. What are those ingredients? They are love, honesty, loyalty, kindness, humility, trust, respect and many more. You must always consider those factors so you can have a healthy relationship with your partner. And also, communication musn't be taken for granted. It is very important especially if you are in a long distance relationship. I say so because I am in that kind of relationship for more than 2 years and it is quite difficult. We have to be patient. Sometimes, we get some misunderstandings but because we do not let days pass by not talking with each other, those misunderstandings are not difficult to solve. We also trust each other. It is very important in a relationship because love without trust is futile. If there is no trust, then we will always be in doubt with each other and it is not good. Those insecurities in relationship won't do any good so if you love someone, you must give your trust on him or her.
@annierose (21583)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
And sorry, I forgot your questions. Well, it doesn't meant that to have a healthy relationship, you must have same interest or do what your partner always wants you to do. If we love a person, we should love him not because of his or her asset or because we can get something good for him like money, popularity, and the like.If we love a person, we must accept the whole him -- not only strengths but weaknesses as well.
@staraevp (81)
• Kenya
14 Apr 10
To have a healthy relationship with your partner you must understand that in every relationship there should exist a give and take attitude. Never forget to apply the golden rule "Do to others what you would like them to do to you" You woudn't like to be hurt by your partner so try as much not to hurt them too. Put your partners interest first and always mind to know how they feel and never get selfish in sharing your feelings about thorny issues and about everything.
A good relationship is where the partners involved have an open communication channel and do not hold back from talking to each other. there is no issue that cannot be solved in any relationship if the parties involved have open communication.
Let your love for the other partner be genuine and driven by the strength of the positive aspects of them and do not over emphasize on their weaknesses at least everybody has his or her own weaknesses.
@cowboyofhell (3063)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
It is required that tolerance be practiced so as to avoid the inefficiency arising from quarrels due to lack of acceptance. If the partner has a different view about something, do not try to change his or her view. Let yourselves free from the restraint of the other. Instead of pointing out what you do not like from the other person, logically resolve the problem instead without having to feel bad about the flaw that has been committed by the partner. There must be some friendship to keep that rapport intact.
@farkirikofar (140)
• Indonesia
14 Apr 10
we will get along, of course, but there will be some fights too. it doen't have to be that we have the same interests, but not so different too, we can have the same interests and different interests, so you will be able to 'complete' each other. well, i don't need him to be pleased by everything i do, but it will make me happier if he does.
@kedralynn (980)
• United States
26 Apr 10
It took me a long time to find a healthy relationship. I'd have plenty of toxic ones. I guess I just needed to find the right guy...
Do we have the same interests? We have a few but our main interests (his being cars and mine being photography) are very different. But we can blend the two. Also we listen to each other talk about our interests. I get to learn new things (even if it does bore me sometimes) and in turn he listens to me rattle on about ISO levels.
I think what makes our relationship so good is that we communicate. About almost everything. I'm bipolar and moody so it's very important that we talk about what is wrong every time I snap at him or cry. We talk it out rather than argue. And he tells me the little things that stress him out daily so I know that it's not me that's upsetting him. When we're mad, we go cool down and then talk. I've learned to trust him more than anyone (my ex's cheated on me so that was hard) because we communicate. We also discuss life goals and future plans. It's important we know where we want to go from here and if we share the same ideals for our future.
We've become a pretty chill (and possibly boring) drama free couple and we're very happy with it :)