are people just mean or is it taught to them by parents. ?

Both actually. How their parents behave has a great effect on children, sometimes they just learn to be mean on their own. Some people grow up in conditions where other people are mean to them. What happened to black people until a few years back. Then some are just angrier and badder than others

i certainly disagree well it doesn't any difference compare to them, if you do the same against them what makes you different from them? on top of that if do it to them, it may reflect about parents either. but let me tell this, the problem is not how they treated you but how would you perceive what they are doing? Are you going to be annoyed, show consideration or just pardon it. well in terms of parental guidance, i agree that they have a great impact to their children because these children gain their values on them but still, they have a decision of their, it will be solely based on them of how they will act after all they are not puppets. well this are only based on my opinion

Hi syankee, Yes people's attitude is shaped up because of their upbringing but other factors like their friends, teachers, past experiences should also be kept in mind. Their parents cannot be solely responsible for their rude, mean and nasty behavior. Thanks and Regards, Prerna Seth.

These are people who are too proud of themselves. They doesn't care about other peoples feeling but would like the people around them to care what they feel. Most of these people were influenced by their surroundings, peers, and how they were brought up by their parents. It's hard to deal with these people if despite of all the good things you are showing them is they continue to be mean. Sometimes, these people needs medical attention. Might be they have history why they become mean. We never know.

well you know the saying you reap what you sow as in if someone treats me with kindness they will get all of that back and more from me, but in turn if someone is rude and disrespectful to me then they will get that back too, because there is no reason to behave that way and we should all try to be kind to one another and get along, but there are just some people that enjoy being mean to others and I could never understand why. I always treat people the way I would want to be treated with kindness and respect and as long as they treat me that way in return we can all get along quite nicely when that happens, but there will always be some people for whatever reason have to be mean or nasty to others and I am glad I was not brought up that way one of my best traits that was taught to me is manners and no matter what I am doing I always am nice to people hold doors open that kind of thing always saying thank you whenever someone was nice to me and I always appreciate when they say it in return there is no reason why we can't be nice to one another.

There are a lot of factors or elements that make or mold the character or attitude of every individual. Maybe I would say genes contribute a lot, plus the environment and educational backgrounds, and other influences. And some are just being comfortable to be mean, because maybe of wanting for power, to control others and loves to create troubles. Although there are always reason behind how and what we become. As for myself, I am nice to nice people, I could be mean to mean people. I respect those knows how to respect, I don't respect those who are not respectable.

I hear you. I think people who are mean are either brought up by their parents super spoiled or they have a lot of anger in them and take it on other people. It's not fair. Like you i want to be respected as a person and if I don't get the same respect back I give that person a taste of his own bitter medicine.

One of the most fascinating things to me is that some of the nastiest people you meet are those who were spoiled to the point of being worshipped by their parents. They think they are entitled to everything and that other people's feelings don't count. You are right that you should treat people based on how you find them, I've come across too many over-sized brats to think I should turn the other cheek at their behaviour.