HELP ME- he is confuse ! me or her ???
By theborneodew
@theborneodew (68)
Malaysia
April 14, 2010 10:50am CST
Hello guys out there...i really need your genuine opinion on this matter. I've been talking and talking online to this guy for a month now. We like each other-online, so far!. WE have not meet yet but he seems genuine.
Along the conversation today he told me that he has been talking to another girl too. Am not sure if he is just testing me or he is telling the truth. However I felt a bit pain,threaten and in danger !! He was sorry he is not suppose to talk to two girl at the sametime but he assumed that along the way one might back off but none.
He likes me being so entrepreneur ( i m opening up a tour company with partner ) and i can talk abt life,relationship...everything in life. However, he refused to tell me what he likes abt the other girl. In this condition, the chances are 50/50 as he is uncertain who to choose. He suppose to come to meet me ( am asian and he is belgian) in this coming August but like i said, he is uncertain.
Time will tell...but at this point, i want to win him. If the other girl is not in the same country with him ( just like me) we have the equal chances.The question is how or what i can do to win this situation ?? please help.
4 responses
@zeroflashx2 (2491)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
With your situation, just go with the flow for the meantime. He'll be visiting you this August right? Well, just see how it goes. But then, there are certain risks involved when you meet someone online. Remember, the anonymity of the internet can be dangerous. We won't know for sure why he told you he's talking to another girl. There are lots of possibilities like he wants to test you if you'd fight for him, he could be telling the truth and he's actually talking to someone else, or he may just be goofing around. Who knows?
I guess the best thing to do now is don't let it get to you too much. You haven't seem him yet. You don't know him personally yet. Wait until he visits you and then grab the chance to know him better.
There's nothing wrong with long distance relationships but you have to be careful especially if you've met through the internet. Have you seen him like on a webcam? The anonymity of the internet is dangerous. Well, that's what I think.
@theborneodew (68)
• Malaysia
14 Apr 10
Thank you Zeroflashx2. Well he is not sure if he will meet me in August or not ( i guess because he is uncertain who to choose ).And if he does not come in August, i have no chance to know him personally.
And yes we have seen each other on webcam, said hi to his mother although didnt have chance to see her on webcam.
Up to this moment, i will fight for him.
@zeroflashx2 (2491)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
Oh ok. That's good. 
You've set aside the anonymity part. Take take every change you can get to know him better. Well, you'll just have to wait for now. Just talk to him naturally and don't bring up that girl too much in your conversations. Well, that's what I'd do anyway.
But, I really admire your courage. Hopefully, he'll visit you soon. Who knows? He might visit you earlier but don't expect too much though. I wish you the best dear. 
You've set aside the anonymity part. Take take every change you can get to know him better. Well, you'll just have to wait for now. Just talk to him naturally and don't bring up that girl too much in your conversations. Well, that's what I'd do anyway.
But, I really admire your courage. Hopefully, he'll visit you soon. Who knows? He might visit you earlier but don't expect too much though. I wish you the best dear. @theborneodew (68)
• Malaysia
17 Apr 10
Thank you Zeroflashx2.I have thought abt it and i will do exactly what you have suggested. It make sense afterall.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
16 Apr 10
I do not like this guy. If a guy is really interested in you, he will not be talking to other women.
Why should you win him? He's supposed to win you, and he's doing a lousy job. Sounds like he's more interested in playing with you like a toy, than winning you.
You are worth more than that. Be careful, and don't sleep with him. You are not a toy to play with and throw away for another girl.
@theborneodew (68)
• Malaysia
17 Apr 10
Thank you andy. You just knock some sense into me...This is why i like third party's opinion especially guys who understand guys.I'll keep that in my mind.
@theborneodew (68)
• Malaysia
17 Apr 10
Thank you for the reminder G..I will keep that in my mind :))
@hazelsweetme (199)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
Do what u usually do to him and double it. Maybe that could help. Pursue him to meet with you so that you would have a greater chance.If he's really for you...love would find a way.
@theborneodew (68)
• Malaysia
14 Apr 10
thank you hazelsweetme. What abt physchology games ? try to make him jealous or something ?
