Are homosexuals born that way or they prefer being such?

Allow me to digress a bit from the "born a homosexual" theme from the past couple of posts... To better answer that question, I think we should take a step back and take a look at the basic assumption of the argument, which is this: is it nature (genes) or nurture (environment) that dictate what people become? I think it's a mixture of both. Allow me to put it this way: our genes provide the blueprint for what we have the potential to be...but ultimately it is the environment which will dictate whether that genetic potential will be expressed or not. Of course probabilities for the expression of genetic traits differ, because there are features dependent on only one gene while there are characteristics that rely on the activity and interaction of multiple genes. Even at the cellular level, it is the environment of that gene (the presence or absence of certain proteins and factors) that will ultimately dictate whether that gene is expressed (will produce a physically or behavior-altering protein). So at the macro level it should pretty much work in a similar way: even if a person is predisposed to a disease (like cancer), it is ultimately his or her lifestyle choices (eating unhealthily, smoking, etc) that will alter his or her probabilities of actually getting the disease. I'm not saying that homosexuality is a disease (I can only think of cancer as the best easily identifiable metaphor, sorry). There are lots of behaviors that have been in recent years attributed to the activity of certain genes. But I think nurture plays a bigger role in whether that behavior is "expressed to the fullest" or not. Going back to the "born to be homosexual" train of thought: assuming that there is a gene for homosexuality (which I think is an oversimplification of the trait), then a person born with that gene has a very high probability of being a homosexual. If he or she grows up in a loving, caring, understanding environment where personal choices and identity is respected then chances are even greater that he or she will come to recognize and embrace his or her own unique sexuality. But if the environment is the opposite, then that trait will most likely not reach its full potential, and most likely be suppressed in order to ascribe to certain environmental-slash-social pressures. Anyway, that's just what I think. Sorry if this post ended up this long, should have posted something on my blog about this :p

The answer to that is - Homosexuals are born that way. If you ever get a chance, I suggest you read a book called - "Why Men don't listen and women can't read maps". In that they have clearly explained how in a mother's womb the sexuality of a child is determined. Just as we heterosexuals are born this way, homosexuals are born that way. Of course, there are some people who experiment with their sexuality just for fun, but that is a different story. When a child is being formed in a mother's womb, chemicals are released that are needed for the child's brain development, which decides the sexuality in later years. If there is imbalance in this chemical release, the brain development is such that the child will later get attracted to people of the same gender. Transsexuality and other such things are also based on what I mentioned above. Hope this makes sense and helps a little . Have a fabulous day! :)

The nature vs. nurture argument is still being debated, even among experts in the field. We do know, however, that choice is not a factor in sexuality. You are attracted to whatever you're attracted to, and that's not something you can just change or decide. I'm a fan of a combination of the nature and nurture theories. We are probably born prone to specific behavior, but sometimes our environment may be the deciding factor in whether or not that behavior comes to fruition.

I don't know if they are born that way or if it is their choice. No one does. I tend to think that they are born that way simply because of the extremes many of them have gone to to try and cover it up and deny it. Can't blame them. I can't imagine why anyone would "choose" to be gay considering how horrible society treats them. And while some of them it is very hard to tell, there are men whom are so feminine acting that they just couldn't cover that up even if the wanted to and I'm sure some of them wish they could. I've worked with kids and I could tell that some were gay at a very. very young age...;long before adolesence and long before they may have even understood it themselves.

I think they are born that way mokka. Who wants to be different anyways? In fact you will see some that are in denial... hiding inside their closest and suppressing their true self and feelings. It is not a choice, for if they have a choice, of course they will choose to become straight... They are always misjudge and prejudged too... They try to act straight untill such time that they can no longer fight themself... I think it is a hereditary too, for I know some family who has several gays in their clan. Is it a disorder? Might be yes.. I have nothing against gays and lesbians too, mokka. As long as they are living a good life, they are not stepping on others, they belong to the society. They have their rights too. There are many successful and professional homosexual, and that is undeniable fact... I believe even if they are homosexual, people must not be judmental on them. We must not look down on others just because they are different... We must know them first, the real them before talking about them. Never discriminate. Happy mylotting to you mokka! And welcome to mylot!

Hi mokka! I also have nothing against homosexuals but For me, I think the reason why some people becomes a homosexual is because there would always be things that a parent can't watch. Like the people they hang out with or what they see on the streets or on what they perceive about themselves. Their decisions may be affected by what environment they live in. If they see things they wouldn't understand they would question why or what it is. Maybe they want the freedom that is being restricted by gender or the freedom of being what they want to be. People search for happiness and content in life, conditions may vary depending on what completes you. So for me, it's all on being happy that they choose being different. Hope this answers your question.

i think it has something to do with the environment. The people that surrounds the individual and that he grew up with. But i also believe that there are rare cases wherein an individual has more estrogen when in fact he is male. And vice versa.

i have ask many of them here, on how they become what they are now. maybe have answered its becuase of the enviroment they have grown up. for example many of them answered that they become like that becuase their mother when they are little let them wear girls dresses.